Every mother will suffer from the dreaded cringe-worthy ‘mum guilt’ at some point in their lives, as will fathers, making parental guilt something we all seem to wrestle with.
Guilt, we all get it, it’s inevitable, part and parcel of being a parent but it doesn’t need to eat you up, consume you whole and make you feel totally BAD rather BAD-ASS.
I’ve written about being a mother-hustler and a bit part of that means being kind to myself.
Cutting me some slack.
Following my dreams and doing what I love so I feel happy.
Once we as parents are content, our kids are too.
How can we be strong for everyone else if we feel torn, unhappy, unfulfilled and at worst resentful.
Can we all make a concerted effort to make this stop or at least to accept it’s normal and not let it stop us. We all suffer from it. I know I do – but I just don’t let it affect my decisions and override what makes me happy.
Happy parent equals a happy family.
This is something I cover in more details in my recent article for Marie Claire, as part of #BreakFree – their new campaign which tackles the big issues affecting and holding back women, such as ageism, body image pressures and violence.
My piece is about acceptance-acknowledging that no one will ever achieve the perfect work/life balance, that being human makes us flawed, but that motherhood doesn’t have to mean giving up your own dreams.
We are doing our best.
The sooner we all accept this, the quicker we can stop beating ourselves up about our choices.
Guilt is futile.
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