Now that Alexander has turned 6 months old, I’ve started reflecting on my pregnancy with seems so far away now and aside from missing my bump some days, what I really miss is my purpose of ‘Head Foetus Grower and Protector’.

Despite an early blip with an acute water infection with Alexander, I found the 9 months protecting my little bundle mostly joyful. In fact, despite the sickness with my firstborn Oliver and the diagnosis of OC towards the end, for the most part, pregnancy truly empowered me.

Yes, pregnancy can of course make you feel vulnerable as you worry about the safety of your unborn child but I generally basked in my pregnant role, loving my changing body, happy to be experiencing pregnancy again. I felt purposeful; it was my duty to keep well to ensure this little person arrived safely. I felt strong.

Pregnancy tends to make you instantly focus on the baby and yourself which meant trivial things dispersed, negative friends were divorced and only the important things in life were focused on (bar the usual tears over adverts but those hormones can be d-bags) .

Pregnancy also me made feel special, a little like Superwoman (with bigger hips and a better dress sense) as rightly or wrongly people are intrigued by your visible child bearing abilities. I often think animators have missed a trick with not having a pregnant or Mum Superhero (I mean we can multitask and our very real superpowers of creating life whiles running the world) need to be respected by cartoon makers don’t you think?

Recently my Mum commented that I loved being pregnant and having babies for the attention as much as actually having the children.

She honestly didn’t mean that cruelly and I suppose to some extent it’s true. Of course first and foremost the most amazing reason to procreate is because you are having a baby and believe me that oxymoronic moment when you meet that little stranger you feel you’ve known all your life, is intoxicating (and can be addictive) but I can’t deny that all the attention that comes with carrying and bearing a baby is pretty wonderful too.

Yes motherhood can be tough and not everyone feels good or strong pre or post birth. After Oliver’s traumatic birth, times were hard as I had to recover along with caring for a baby far from my folks.

The second time round, thankfully things worked out well; I got the trauma free birth I’d hoped for and having the support around me of my family made a huge difference. I felt good from the start. I don’t feel broody but I do feel incredibly lucky to have my beautiful family and count my pregnancies as the most rewarding times of my life.

Did pregnancy make you feel powerful?


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10 Responses

  1. Richmond Mummy

    Great post. I think I felt particularly awesome during my second pregnancy – I certainly felt weirdly body confident and thought I looked pretty damn good, ha ha 🙂 xx

    • honestmum

      @Richmond Mummy you did look damn good girlfriend! I feel lucky my second pregnancy and birth was everything I wanted x

  2. Franki

    I didn’t really like being pregnant physically but loved the fact I was pregnant if that makes any sense. Like you say knowing that you are powerful and strong enough to grow a little person in amazing but all the side effects of pregnancy ruined it a bit for me. X

    • honestmum

      @Franki sorry to hear that but I found my second pregancy was totally different so it might be that way with you too x

  3. Babes about Town @Babesabouttown

    You were blooming lovely preggers, Vicki and I can tell how much you adore pregnancy and being a mama. I felt pretty much that way through my first pregnancy once I got into it. My 2nd came right after miscarriage and I had a lot of early issues, so I feel more anxiety attached to that one even though it was mostly plain sailing. There is definitely a feeling of power and purpose as you so beautifully put it… that said, I can’t really imagine being pregnant again. Much as my sister insists she sees me with a little girl! x

    • honestmum

      @Babesabouttown thanks honey and so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Your boys are so beautiful. I think it must be hard to imagine more babies once yours get a bit older but never say never lovely x

  4. Sam Hadadi

    I absolutely loved being pregnant and I miss it so much! I miss the kicks, the movements I felt (it felt like my little secret…something for just baby and I to share), and I missed the attention. But, weirdly, I also felt my most beautiful when pregnant because of what I was doing. It made me super confident and I loved every second! x

    • honestmum

      @Sam Hadadi that is so lovely. I think it’s such a wonderful time and so lovely to hear of so many women feeling confident during pregnancy x

  5. Mirka Moore @Kahanka

    What a lovely post Vicki, you are an amazing mum. I didn’t enjoy my first pregnancy, but loved my second onbe. For me it was all about “getting fat” the first time round, and now when I look at it back I think this was just ridiculous! Anyway, love the new look of your blog too xxx


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