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If you’re having a rubbish day today firstly I’m sorry and secondly, I hope you stumble across this post and feel less alone.
Wednesday for me was utterly pants. Most of it was spent feeling rubbish (I won’t bore you with the details) but sleep deprivation from poorly kids being coupled with frankly, inconceivable behaviour from people I previously respected, made for a sad, sad day.
I forced myself on a run when I felt most overwhelmed, drank a huge cup of chamomile tea, sprayed some Rescue Remedy on to my tongue (my companion since I was a tween-it was only in bottle form then) and fell asleep.
The following day saw me head to London for fun with great friends (people whose energy I know I can always rely on: Lela London, Jason Collier, Nomita and my manager Neil Ransome) and rather than wallow in things, I made a choice to embrace the day, to accept what can’t be changed and enjoy the wonderful whirlwind of Thursday.
Yes, I’m lucky that my job means having exciting experiences like attending the Pinterest Awards where I was a finalist, having my hair done by my buddy Jason Collier, and hanging out with inspiring women like Adele Parks in the most serene of settings (hello The Royal Garden Hotel whom I blog for) and that helps, undoubtedly, it does but so would any change of scenery, any sort of distraction you can offer yourself if you’re feeling overwhelmed.
Yesterday was a truly great day and because I felt much happier than the previous 24 hours, it made me reflect on things I can do to help myself when the going gets tough.
I’m totally inconsistent with healthy eating at the moment veering from balanced low-ish carb eating to help my condition PCOS to eating far too much cake. I don’t want to give up occasional treats (life would be so boring) but I do need to be stricter about the food I eat so I can feel my best. I’m tired of my yo-yoing body where half my wardrobe is a UK size 10, the other a 12 (not that either of those sizes are big but going on my frame, I suit being a UK 10).
I’ve also realised that sometimes you need a tough day to help you take action. To re-evaulate. To decide to make some small changes which will hopefully have a big impact, generally. To remove negativity from your life, even if that hurts initially.
I read a tweet last week, ‘People will hate you for the things that they do to you’ (apologies I can’t remember who wrote it) and it made a lot of sense.
If you’re feeling suffocated with negative energy, move on and take time out for you.
Importantly know you are in control and are the protagonist of you life. You get to make decisions on who deserves your time and energy and who doesn’t.
I’m so lucky the love of my life, my husband is also my best friend and equally that some of my greatest friends are also my colleagues like Neil my manager.
More than anything, it’s important when life feels a bit overwhelming, you take time out whether that’s a day off, a long walk, a leisurely lunch or getting your hair done.
Without guilt, without worry. Life is busy and none of us can thrive if we don’t put ourselves first sometimes.
The sun is shining today and I’m taking a day off with my youngest and I’ve even put my Out of Office on.
If you can, I hope you do too x
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