Welcome to my new monthly feature-Who’s The Daddy!

A huge fan of blogs penned by fathers, I wanted to showcase the rich, insightful and damn right captivating male bloggers who so eloquently share their point of view on all things parenting and beyond, right here on my blog once a month with a guest post from each contributor.

I’ll be tweeting about it using the hashtag #whosthedaddy too if you want to get involved!

First up, to kick off the series, is one of my all time favourite Daddy bloggers, a friend and sometime colleague too, John Adams of Dad Blog UK.

John is regarded as one of the UK’s 5 most influential Dad bloggers according to Cision, has been a finalist in national blogging awards several times and has worked with the BBC, and featured in the Independent, Huffington Post, Private Edition Magazine and more.

You can follow John on Twitter @dadbloguk

If you would like to suggest others or put yourself forward for this feature, please email me at mum@honestmum.com.

Thanks and over to John-

The Pressure To Look Good

John Adams-Dad Blog UK

Grey top: H&M, jacket: Celio (Club Range), jeans: Brax, shoes: Chatham.

Mums often say they feel under huge pressure to look good, but what about dads? Stay at home father John Adams reveals that he feels under pressure to look good, although not for the reasons you might think.

A short while ago I was reading a blog post by Californian Mum in London titled The Mistakes We Make. I’ll paraphrase, but amongst many other things, she made the point that mums are always under pressure to look perfect.

Despite not being a mum, I feel this pressure too.

I hesitate to use the word perfect, but I feel the need to fit in among other parents. In the first instance, this comes from looking the right way. We all know the world shouldn’t work in this manner, but it does.

If I were being completely honest, there is an element of vanity at play here. I like to take a certain amount of pride in my appearance.

There is, however, a more serious point to all this. If you were the only dad in the playground, wouldn’t you make sure you looked presentable?

Okay, that comment isn’t entirely accurate or fair.

Huge numbers of dads and granddads can be seen dropping off and collecting kids at my daughter’s school. I, however, am the only dad guaranteed to be in the playground twice a day and I don’t want to let the dads down by making the wrong impression.

I know people are curious about my position. It comes up in conversation from time to time. A while ago I was a taken aback to be asked if I was a single parent.

This was the conclusion one individual had jumped to because she always saw me doing the school run (I was mildly offended but had a certain admiration for the fact I was asked directly and not gossiped about).

If people are going to talk about me, I feel it’s better that I look polished and approachable in ironed and flattering clothes. First impressions count, especially when you’re in a minority.

school run clothes for Dads

Shirt:TM Lewin, hooded top: Tokyo Laundry from it’s AW 2014/14 range, changing bag/ messenger bag from JoJo Maman Bebe. Photo by Ania Wilk-Lawton of Photography for Parents.

Do you remember that old TV series Shameless? I doubt I’d get the warmest reception if I turned up at the school gate looking like the feckless Frank Gallagher with long greasy hair and wearing a grim Parker jacket.

I’m not for one second telling you that I do the school run in an Armani suit. Nothing could be further from the truth. I never wear my best clothes to and from school.

I do, however, like to spend a bit of time deciding what to wear and try to make sure that everything matches and is ironed (…or at least has most of the creases removed).

With two children to haul in and out of car seats, attire is usually smart casual; often jeans and a top or a shirt with a collar. Depending on the weather I may wear a jacket or a hooded top and generally you’ll find me in either a pair of Chatham or Timberland deck shoes.

The choice of shoes is relevant. Deck shoes can be slipped on at speed and, like most parents, I’m generally in a huge rush to get out the door when it’s school run o’clock.

Daddy blogger

Tweed jacket: Magee of Ireland, black top: Uniqlo, jeans: Brax, Carlos style.

I’ll end this post with a true story. The other day I was stopped in the playground by a mum I know. I won’t bore you with the entire conversation but it went something like this:

“You look good today John.”

“Thank you.”

“You always make such an effort, much more than most people.”

I’d rather that’s how people thought of me. It’s much more preferable than the other way round!

What are your thoughts? Mothers or fathers, do you feel the pressure to look good on the school run?

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114 Responses

  1. Faisal Zahoor Ahmad

    Fantastic idea for a series. 🙂 Loved reading about John! This is really interesting to read something from a dads perspective. Totally agree with your words.

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  2. Kat | Beau Twins

    Fantastic idea for a series hun! You are a very clever lady! Loved reading about John! Matt looks after himself and LOVED TM Lewin!! He has to look sharp for work in is job. But he’s also a rower, so Lycra becomes his friend at weekends! ha ha! xx
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  3. Morgan Prince

    What a great post, it’s lovely to hear a man’s perspective on this issue. If I’m honest I never thought of it and I’m a little ashamed of that. I do feel that pressure but usually, in a morning, I’m heading out for my morning walk so wear my comfy’s. It is nice to hear that women aren’t the only ones that consider this every day! Thanks for sharing. xx
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  4. Al Ferguson

    This is a great post! Can’t wait for the fun n games of the school gates! Best make sure my shirts are ironed and shoes polished. What a bizarre culture we live in!

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    • honestmum

      Hehe! I think it’s up to you what you want to wear, the key is to feel confident and whether it’s my gym kit or a day dress, as long as I feel presentable, it makes me feel good x

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  5. Laura Evelyn Bee

    Great post and really interesting to read something from a dads perspective. I know a stay at home dad and he tells me of the comments and general puzzlement people have towards him. Being a stay at home parent isn’t about being male or female x
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  6. Lisa Cornwell (@mummascribbles)

    Great post. Haven’t experienced the school gate thing yet only the nursery run where everyone is dressed up as we are all dashing off to work. I have no doubt that if I was a stay at home mum, I’d be doing the school run in joggers and a hoodie at the beginning and maybe would feel pressure once in that environment! #brilliantblogposts
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    • John Adams

      Ah yes, the nursery run. I generally used to do that dressed for work too (before I became a SAHD). Good luck when your little onee(s) do start at school and thanks for commenting.
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    • honestmum

      Thanks Lisa, I felt the pressure to dress up at the start of the school run, but I also feel content in nice gym kit now I feel more comfortable. Either way it’s a confidence I think, wear what makes you feel good. Thanks x

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  7. The DADventurer (Dave)

    Great feature and I hope to make my appearance soon 🙂 As for the post, I think I’m the opposite to John – when our little one is at school and I’ll be picking her up as a SAHD, I’m going to go for comfort – superhero PJs and a hoodie, or maybe even just my dressing gown. The school we hope Baby L goes to is literally a 5 minute walk from the house, so what’s the point in getting dressed? 🙂
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    • John Adams

      Ha ha, superhero PJs and a hoodies??? Trust me, you’ll be rustucated to the friendship bench. Good luck with SAHD-dom Dave.
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  8. Helen Neale

    What a great feature, and blog post. It’s always lovely to hear the views of a dad who collects their children from school. I look forward to hearing from the next dad.

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    • John Adams

      ‘Tis a great feature isn’t it? I think Vicki’s hit upon something with this idea. Glad you liked the post Helen.
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  9. Leigh -Headspace Perspective

    Fab idea for a guest post series, Vicki. As you say, dad blogs have a great contribution to make to our community, yet are so under-represented. I totally understand what John says about making an effort with clothes, it’s one of those little things that can make me feel a bit better, too xxx #brilliantblogposts
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    • John Adams

      Glad you could relate to this Leigh. As for us dad bloggers being underrepresented, well, I’m obviously biased but we do sometimes suffer from that (…though it’s our job to turn that round). Thanks for commenting.
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  10. lifeloveanddirtydishes

    Love the new feature. I always enjoy reading things from a dad’s perspective. Sometimes the difference between mum and dad make me laugh and often the similarities surprise me. #brilliantblogposts
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    • honestmum

      Wonderful to read about it huh, love the difference in opinion we can have and of course all the similarities, so pleased you like the new feature!

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    • John Adams

      I’m also surprised at the similarities of the experiences us mums and dads can experience. I’m glad this post has provoked such a response. SHows people can relate to it.
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  11. Sarah Christie

    Great post, yes its amazing how people judge isn’t it, I am always ready for work at the school gates but am in a bubble in the mornings so never notice others x
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    • John Adams

      I’m frequently in a bubble too Sarah! If a parent does turn up lookiong really rough, ‘though, it is noticed and commented upon. As a dad, I think you’d get in 10 fold so you just need to be that bit more careful.
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  12. Caro | The Twinkles Momma

    What a great post! It’s really interesting to hear things from the male perspective too. I have worked from home for the last 4 years and have always made an effort in my appearance and even more so now I have to pick the babies up from nursery. Someone said to me recently ‘You always look so nice… if I worked from home, I’d be in my PJs all day.’
    And I guess that’s why I’ve been able to work from home for so long!! Because I DO treat it like work – I do get properly dressed every day – and I think, like John, that it makes you feel better and more confident about yourself, if you dress a certain way.
    I certainly wouldn’t feel great picking the boys up in my scruffs – or my Jim-Jams – that’s for sure!!
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    • honestmum

      I love that and am guilty of getting lazy when I work from home then manically changing when I head out or rocking gym kit all day. I love dressing up and the confidence it gives me and you are right, it makes you more professional and productive when working from home, thanks for your fab comment chick x

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      • John Adams

        I’m with you both, I have to dress to a certain standard even when I am simply at home all day. It’s all about confidence and how you carry yourself.
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  13. Krista

    Great post. I know my husband tries to look good, but probably not as much as I do. LOL! I work from home as a blogger, so unless I leave the home, I’m often in leggings and a t-shirt. But, I try to have a nice image when I go out.
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    • honestmum

      I work from home too Krista, fab to wear whatever inside then face the world with your ‘real clothes’! Thanks for your comment!

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      • John Adams

        Not sure I could get away with leggings and a t shirt. Perhaps I should try! Thanks for commenting.
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  14. Dustin Dirks

    Great and inspiring post, I have the same problem. I hate the stereotypes that are being placed on us dads, we have trouble just like the rest.
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    • John Adams

      Glad you agree with me Dustin. I don’t think people always understand that dads are frequently under the same pressure as mums. I’m really pleased this post has attracted so many comments as it’s clearly got people thinking!
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  15. Emma T

    I’m only doing nursery run at the moment, but am usually in the same work clothes, finished off with trainers to avoid getting my work shoes and trousers too filthy. I probably look quite scruffy, but it’s practical.

    There’s a right mix that turns up at ours nursery, but aside from smart work clothes, there’s also a few dads who turn up in scruffier work clothes – we’ve got a farrier, farmer (my OH, who does remove his wellies and overalls usually!), and various other more practical jobs where they tend to be in more scruffy clothes because of their job. They certainly don’t get judged.

    Looking forward to reading more of the series in future.
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    • John Adams

      When I was in employment, I used to turn up in work clothes. I think that’s where there’s a real difference between being a dad and a mum. A dad could turn up in any kind of work clothes and that’s just what people expect. If you’re a SAHD, I think you have to be that bit more careful because people are more likely to judge.
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  16. Caroline (Becoming a SAHM)

    Great post, loving this feature Vicki and great post John. I definitely take more care over my appearance since becoming a SAHM, there is a whole heap of judgement out there and while my appearance shouldn’t matter as a SAHP it does because I think it is a sign of how “together” you are. Like a sign of how well your coping maybe? xx
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    • John Adams

      Absolutely Caroline, can be a sign of how together you are. If you’re a SAHD, you want to deliver the message that you are 100% together as people may not believe you’re capable of coping. Thanks for commenting.
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  17. Katy {What Katy Said}

    What a fab feature Vickie and a great post John! I do feel pressure to look good and I do try and make an effort when dropping G off at pre-school. My husband on the other hand couldn’t care less what others think of him and will be guaranteed to be wearing shorts and flip flops all year round!
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  18. Debbie

    My children are older now, but when I was doing the school run I can’t say that I ever felt pressure to look my best (although I like to think I look okay most of the time!). It maybe because I live on an island and things are just a little more laid back here.

    BTW – I love Frank Gallagher. He certainly has character, not to mention the charm of the man!
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    • honestmum

      Fab thanks Debbie, island life sounds wonderful-Frank G is a real character! Not sure I’d want to bump into him at the school gates though!

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    • John Adams

      Things probably are different where I live as I’m on the very fringes of London so I imagine there is more pressure to look good.

      As for Frank Gallagher, yes, he was a favourite of mine too. Not, however, a role model!
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  19. Amber

    It will be fun to hear about parenting from a father’s perspective – particularly for me, as I’m in a same-sex female relationship so no ‘dad’ to educate me on these issues! Personally, I’m rather looking forward to doing the school run but perhaps that’s because, as the working parent, it will only ever be a novelty for me.
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    • honestmum

      Think you’ll enjoy it Amber when you do it, I share the school run with my husband and Mum so I’m not there every day, felt nerve wracking at first but like it now, thanks for your comment x

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    • John Adams

      A year and half into it, I have to say I don’t look forward to the school run. It’s great to catch up with other mums and dads but it’s such a hassle! Enjoy the novelty when you get the chance.
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  20. Merlinda Little ( @pixiedusk)

    Nice new feature! I am not a fan of school run fashion. Mine is always black and black and some more black that other mothers and dads probably think that i wear same clothes all the time. Well they are right harhar. Now I am thinking that the other Dads in my school run is making some efforts too. Great read for a different perspective =)
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    • honestmum

      Love black, you can’t go wrong, I don’t feel a pressure from others, just that I get a confidence boost when I wear what makes me feel good, that does include nice gym clothes too though. Nice to hear from a Dad huh.

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    • John Adams

      I am partial to black too. Can’t go wriong, goes with everything!
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  21. Reneé @ Mummy Tries

    Fab idea for a new series, and lovely to see John kicking off the feature. I have to say I really don’t go in for caring what other people think of what I look like… but I can totally see his point and that he’d feel extra pressure for being a SAHD!
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    • John Adams

      It is a great idea for a new series isn’t it? Afraid that, yes, I think I am under that bit more pressure.
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  22. Jess Paterson

    Great new series, Vicki! A great start to the feature with John’s post on a subject that has never even crossed my mind! I mean, I care that I look passable occasionally, but I didn’t know that men gave much thought to what they wear to go dadding. For so much of the year I am covered in my parka (and same for my husband in his North Face manorak) that I don’t worry about the school run that much. But John’s right, I would rather a fellow swing-pusher look like him than Frank, although I’m more than a little perturbed that Shameless is now known as an “old” series…! I remember it like yesterday – I felt like I discovered James McAvoy! Great read! Like the jackets but love the vibrant blue hoodie. xx
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    • honestmum

      Baha Jess I feel the same and off James went and wowed Hollywood hey! I’m not overly worried but I do use clothes and make up to help lift me (hello sleep deprivation) and give me more confidence xx

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      • John Adams

        I’m so glad this post has got people thinking about the pressure dads feel on the school run. You see I’d feel exactly the same if a fellow swing pusher looked like James, I’d be persuading the kids to go and play elsewhere!
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  23. The Reading Residence

    My daughter’s only in Reception, so the world of the school run is still relatively new to me. I am conscious of my appearance, but then just as I am anywhere I go. I’d always want to loo presentable. You do make a good point about it from the dad’s perspective.
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      • John Adams

        Presentable is the key. Glad you liked hearing the guy’s perspective.
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  24. The Breastest News

    Hmmm I don’t feel pressured into looking good for the school run but like yourself I want to look presentable so do make an effort i.e. don’t turn up in my pj’s etc. Some parents go a bit OTT but then everyone’s different and comfortable with different levels of presentability.

    My other half does the school run more than me and he likes to make sure he’s looking good before he ventures out to collect our son 🙂
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    • honestmum

      Thanks for this fab, balanced comment. I think everyone needs to find what they’re comfortable with and some parents are back from work, about to go out so it varies doesn’t it. Nice to hear your husband takes pride in his appearance too, we can sometimes forget that men care too and your comment and John’s post is a useful reminder!

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      • John Adams

        VIcki’s right, a very balanced comment and, yes, I think it is all too often forgotten that us men care about how we look too.
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  25. Potty Mouthed Mummy

    Fab idea for a feature! I’m not at the school gates age just yet so not feeling pressure in that sense. I work from home a lot and while there are days I can’t resist very casual clothes, I do feel better about myself and more professional if I wear nice clothes and have a bit of slap on. xx
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    • honestmum

      Thanks Sian so glad I like it, make up really is my armour and a nice coat if I’m rushing, even with gym kit under, thanks for your comment x

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      • John Adams

        You’ll forgive me for not wearing make up, but I do feel better if I make myself look presentable!
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  26. Andy

    I only do nursery drop off/pick up as my son isn’t at school yet but I never think about what I am going to wear and feel no pressure about the way I dress. I’m not interested in anyone who is shallow enough to judge me on my appearance. However, I did notice I tend to dress my son the way I would dress myself, this morning it was jeans and an incredible hulk t-shirt. Sadly I’m not allowed to wear this for work.

    Also reminds me of an old blog post I did about Dad fashion that John commented on at the time but failed to mention his love of deck shoes! https://alwaystimeforbiscuits.wordpress.com/2013/05/30/man-bags-and-dad-rags/

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    • honestmum

      Hehe that made me chuckle, loving his deck shoes! Shame your work doesn’t veto Incredible Hulk T-shirts, what’s wrong with them?! 😉

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      • John Adams

        Took me years to come round to deck shoes. My brother lives in them and on one memorable occasion I plaed a bin outside my front door and told them to put their deck shoes in it whenever they visited. They’re my smart casual shoes…although I have to concede I’m a bit of a male Emelsda Marcos. I do like my footwear!
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  27. Megan - Truly Madly Kids

    Hmmm, maybe I should make more effort! I had wet hair this morning! Good to shatter those sterotypes though! #brilliantblogposts
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    • honestmum

      Great to shatter the stereotypes huh and wet hair is fine, I think everyone should wear whatever they like, I know for me adding make up in particular gives me that extra confidence xx

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  28. Kate Chapman

    Love this feature – and looking forward to reading pieces by more great Daddy bloggers! Must confess I too had never thought of this subject from a male perspective, so a nice refreshing read! Visiting via #brilliantblogposts
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  29. fashion-mommy

    Love this, never really thought about the pressure on dads to look good – mom on the school run is always who we think feels the pressure.

    #BrilliantBlogposts
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  30. Toni @ Gym Bunny Mummy

    A fab post, I’d never even thought of this from the Dad’s perspective so it’s great to read about the same view but from a different angle. I’m going to have a nosy at John’s blog
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  31. Jules

    I’m so glad G isn’t in school yet. Playground politics don’t sound fun lol and I am forever getting up to find I can’t find an outfit for the day that looks even half put together. Loving seeing these blogs featured. Adding to Bloglovin and pointing them out to my husband and brother in law!

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    • honestmum

      Fab, thanks Jules hope they like the feature, so much talent out there. I think the school gates, especially at the start can feel unnerving, I like it now and have made some lovely friends with other parents. I do think there and in life make up and my clothes are some kind of armour, they help me feel more confident. Thanks for your comment x

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  32. Lianne | TheBrunetteSays...

    Fantastic series hun, I’ll be stopping by next month – I love a good dad blog, so insightful to see things from their eyes.
    Fab post John, I think you look great, was interesting to read this from a Dad’s perspective.
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  33. You Baby Me Mummy

    What a great new series Vicki and lovely to hear from male bloggers. I only really feel the pressure I put on myself, which is enough, believe me 🙂 x
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    • honestmum

      Thanks lovely, overwhelmed by the response by so many incredible Daddy bloggers and the reception the post has had-testament to John’s talent and the quality of posts from the parenting community at large. I put pressure on myself too, we must be kind to ourselves huh, you look fab xx

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  34. everything mummy

    I guess being mostly mums or women at the school gates you are going to draw more attention my other half usually just in his work gear if he ever picks the kids!
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    • honestmum

      Yes and love the way John finds confidence in his clothes, I feel the same about style myself. Thanks for your comment 🙂

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  35. Kaz (Ickle Pickles Mummy)

    Lovely to hear from a daddy blogger! I am past caring what others think what I look like, and it’s refreshing! I mean I always look ok (I think!) but pressure for me eased as I entered my 40’s 😀
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  36. Wave to Mummy

    What a brilliant idea for a monthly feature, and on a “mummy” blog too. Nice to have variety and get to meet dad bloggers too 🙂

    I don’t know about he school run, as our little one doesn’t go to school yet, but I guess it is just the current times that put emphasis on the external appearances. #brillianblogposts
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    • honestmum

      Thanks so much lovely, so glad you like it, it’s had an incredible response and it’s an honour to showcase vital male voices from our community here. I think for me, clothes are a way of expressing myself and giving me confidence-even if it’s a nice gym kit for the school run. Make up is definitely a great pick me up for me too. Thanks for your comment

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  37. Mel

    Brilliant new series! It is really interesting to read a dad’s point of view about the school run. I do make an effort to look decent when I take my little ones to school, but I have to say I must look slightly dishevelled most days after a last minute code brown, a couple of tantrums on the way, a forgotten water bottle or hat left in the bedroom. Luckily, we only live 400 metres away from the school!
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  38. Sarah (@tamingtwins)

    Love this, really fab to hear from Dads too. I wouldn’t say I feel pressure to look a certain way, but I made more of an effort in 2014 for me rather than anyone else and I loved it. Getting dressed and made up every day makes me feel better about myself. Is that shallow?! I don’t care really, it’s been a positive thing for me personally. Whether you’re wearing joggers or full make up as long as you’re happy, that’s what matters.
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    • honestmum

      Oh I agree chick, it’s what makes people feel good and you’re not shallow. I feel that make up is my armour, really picks me up and gives me confidence. I veer from nice gym kit to wearing comfy, chic clothes (depending on how rushed I am) but I always make time for some make up-even if it’s a quick lick of mascara and some lipstick. Thanks for your comment!

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  39. Jenny

    What a fantastic guest post John! Love your blog btw too. Love that Dads are out there blogging about parenting and the school runs as much as moms too. I can imagine its the same pressures. I fear the school run and the pressures to look my best at such an early hour after getting two others ready for school that will be so scary! Thanks vicky for sharing on Share With Me #sharewithme
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  40. Sam

    Interesting. I never really look too closely at what the men are wearing on the school run but it seems to be either business suits or running gear! I have to admit that I do notice the other women and that when JJ first started back in September I used to put some thought into what I would wear myself on the three days that I do the drop off/pick up, but since then I’ve begun to care a bit less. I’m not sure why – it’s always such a bunfight it doesn’t always feel worth making an effort… #sharewithme
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    • honestmum

      Thanks Sam, really interesting to read about the way people, mums and dads feel about the school run. I do try and look presentable but that often includes ‘good intention gym kit’! Thanks for your comment!

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  41. John Adams

    I’m really knocked out by these comments. I’m glad to see this post has got people thinking about what it’s like to be a dad at the school gates. I totally agree with Lauren, I’m representing my family, not just myself.

    Thanks for hosting Vicki. I’m sure #whosthedaddy will prove to be a huge success. Good luck with it!
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  42. Louise @ Birds and Lilies

    Great post. I love that you are showcasing the great dad blogs out there Vicky. I don’t have school age children yet but I am sure I will feel pressure about looking good when I do. I already care too much about what people think unfortunately! x #sharewithme
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  43. Ebabee

    Great idea for a post series Vicki – we don’t get nearly enough of the male point of view. And a very interesting read – thanks John for sharing. I don’t think I feel pressure – instead I think i myself want to look presentable at the school gates. I’m not talking about showing up in my Jimmy Choo’s but just looking decent – but then again it’s not just the school gates – I believe in looking presentable (as a minimum) wherever I go.
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    • honestmum

      Thanks Nomita on your words and comment, I agree and feel that way too. John’s post is brilliant isn’t it x
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  44. joyce

    Great post! It’s refreshing to see things from a dad’s perspective. Really nice to see someone helping to promote daddy blogs too!

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  45. Dohigh

    Stepping into toddler groups and nursery as the only dad in sight, is like appearing in your own private zombie hell. I’m more worried about the state of my flesh than my apparel.

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  46. Californian Mum in London

    Great post! And thank you kindly for mentioning my post. SAHMs do feel the pressure to look nice. But it must be even tougher when you’re a Dad and you don’t want the mums judging you and thinking you’re a slob. Those are great casual looks!
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    • honestmum

      Thanks, your post was fab, so happy John introduced me to it. You are so right too, John looks so dapper and cool doesn’t he!
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    • John Adams

      I’m afraid there’s an element of that, yes; you don’t want the mums to think you’re a slob. Your original post was great so thanks for the inspiration.
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  47. Lauren

    This is a great post. Lovely to read a dads point of view on appearance, especially when it comes to the school run.
    I feel the pressure, but I think it’s more of a pressure I put on myself really. And I don’t think it is a bad thing.
    I think that on the school run we are representing not only ourselves, but our family and I want to give a good impression of my family.
    I do think we judge or make assumptions of people on how they dress and on their appearance as a whole so I feel it’s important to make an effort x
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    • honestmum

      Thanks Lauren, it’s great to hear from a Dad on this, the school run is a short time that does leave an impression, thanks for your comment x

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  48. martyn

    What a great post!

    As a stay at home dad I completely agree with what John has said. Quite often when out my parenting is questioned or at least observed. Also being a single dad there are lots of stereotypes and presumptions made. I too try to present myself better as I’m often trying to break the standard stereotype that are currently being placed.

    Great and inspiring post.
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    • honestmum

      The pressures Dad face and as you mentioned being a single Dad are real yet not discussed frequently or in the media, I would love you to share this in a post in this feature if you wanted to, thanks.

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