Honest Mum
I wrote this post yesterday but ironically my day was so bad, I went to bed early and didn’t get around to posting. I can laugh about it now as today is most definitely a new and much brighter day, but yesterday, yesterday sucked BIG TIME.

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I want to be real with you all because I’m Honest Mum right and have a duty to be honest.

I also don’t want you to feel so alone if you are dealing with a day from hell like I am.

Oh yes, today, today has been a bad day.

Not for the whole day ( I went for a run in the morning and did an FB Live chatting to lots of you bad ass, uplifting, fun friends and followers) but various things piled onto my ever-heavy shoulders from small niggles (I forgot to do the online delivery shop and didn’t have any food in my eldest would eat) to wider ongoing issues with an unwell relative, making my day spiral.

To add to that fun mix, thanks to daylight saving and my kids waking up at crazy o’clock I was moodier than Oscar the Grouch and felt like reaching for the wine at 4 pm. I think I did! Cheers!

….Some days, not regularly (thankfully) are like this. A bit meh.

We all have hard days don’t we, we just don’t talk or write about them often enough-and I understand why- we worry we might sound whiny or annoying, ungrateful perhaps, or worse, we’re scared that when we put pen to paper or talk openly about problems, we might end up making ourselves feel worse.

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Well that’s not the case people. It’s good for the soul and VITAL to hold your hands up and say, ‘Today wasn’t a good day, now give me a hug’, reaching out for support, advice and help. And importantly, if you’re feeling depressed or dealing with a lot, you mustn’t feel frightened to ask for help from friends and family and GP. I’ve been there myself with a traumatic birth and after hiding how I felt from my loved ones, won’t do that again if I find myself feeling that low.

So I’m putting this out there, I had a bad day-sometimes it’s a bad few days (hi there PMT)- because life isn’t all pretty breakfast flatlays on instagram and perfect sunsets in the South of France, however much it might look it.

I have an amazing family and life for sure and I’m grateful for that, always. I am touched by the opportunities my work on this blog offers me: the life changing moments, the memories I’ll treasure, the fact I am constantly pushing myself and growing. But some days. Some days are just not fun and I need to be honest about those too.

So if today is a bad day for you, I hope you know you’re not alone.

Virtual hugs all round.

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23 Responses

  1. Mirka Moore @Kahanka

    Oh darling such an honest post, and sorry you had a bad day, but you are so right. Turn the age over and look for another day xxx only catching up now as been up and down myself, sure you are ok now xxx

  2. A Mum Track Mind

    Today is the worst day here. I was lucky enough to be offered the most incredible, exciting press trip and instead I’m solo parenting two kids with all of us having the norovirus. Feeling so fed up! Good to know I’m not alone though x

  3. Kat | Beau Twins

    With you on the PMT bad days – they SUCK big time. I also had a bad day that day – definitely something in the air hey? Glad you are feeling good now lovely lady. I love your posts because they are so true, honest and raw. Indeed, life is not a flat lay of roses on Insta! Mwah xxxxxx

  4. Susanna

    I hope you are feeling a bit better today Vicky. Those days where we hit rock bottom can come out of nowhere. Whether it’s hormones, personal circumstances or ‘just one of those days’, those bad days can strike any one of us. Thank you for writing this and showing us that it’s ok to feel like this. So many times I have had a bad day and feel guilty for doing so. And I shouldn’t feel guilty. It is what it is. We are all just human after all.

  5. Mel

    Oh gosh there must have been something in the air yesterday. It wasn’t a good day by any stretch of the imagination either around here… Hope today was better hun. x

    • Honest Mum

      Oh no, lots saying the same, wonder if it was a full moon or something. Sorry you had a bad one too, sending hugs and hopefully today is brighter xx

  6. Sheela Goh

    Posts like this make me feel less alone, less weird. Oftentimes, we’re only privy to the beautiful, picture-perfect bits of the lives of people around us. Which makes it even harder to bear when we ourselves hit a wall. So, you have my gratitude,Vicky, for sharing some insights into your less than perfect aka normal life, and allowing me to know that it’s perfectly alright to not have a perfect day, every single day. Perfection is overrated, in any event GRIN I hope the rest of your week fares much better xoxo

    • Honest Mum

      Oh Sheela, I’m sorry you are going through a tough time, sending you love and strength. I’m so glad this had made you and others know they are not alone. This is why I blog. I realise things can look perfect because often it’s so much harder to share the tough times but it’s crucial we do, for others and for ourselves. I hope things improve for you. Thank you for commenting, means a lot xx

  7. Alex | mokuska

    Firstly, I hope things are feeling a bit brighter today, and wishing you well in navigating the ill health issue – it’s never easy to be in that situation, so sending solidarity and support. Secondly, to make you smile – I’ve recently been watching Gilmore Girls for the first time and if I’m honest it’s turned into a total hatewatch as I dislike every character except Paris and Emily. But my pal Alex, when I was having a ‘meh’ day, christened me ‘Mehmily Gilmore’ and now my bad day version of myself has her own name and personality. Which, as soon as I think about it, makes me laugh and kind of cheers me up!

    • Honest Mum

      I love this comment so much Alex-you have 100% made me feel better and I’ve laughed out loud too. I need an alter ego for the bad days! xx

  8. Babes about Town

    Aww hugs to you from yesterday and glad you’re feeling a little perkier today. Those bad days suck and sometimes they come in waves, and I think actually writing them down is important… because you can track your journey when things are on the up. Of course recording and noting the things you’re grateful for and also your awesome highlights is important too, and gives you at least a little boost when everything else falls to sh*t. I know how hard you work and how much is on your plate, so well done for reaching out and not always having to act like the toughest, sunniest person out there. This post should help many know they’re not alone. Virtual group hug mama x

    • Honest Mum

      Thank you my darling, your support, friendship and love means the world to me. Hope to see you soon for a real hug, love you xx

  9. rachel

    I think its SO good to talk about the good and the bad days! Sometimes social media can portray things to look only amazing, great and like their lives are basically full of rainbows and unicorns. I love bloggers who keep it real and are like yep.. yesterday baisically sucked, but today i am doing so much better. I can totally respect that and be on board with people who like to show ‘real life’. Thats kinda why i love you so much lovely, you are so down to earth, positive and inspiring (and totally fun too!) But you also keep it real and relatable. That’s whats so important. Sorry you had a shit day.. wine is our saviour isnt it? And sometimes it just has to happen at 4pm on a school night 😉 I hope your days since have been lots better (including family too!XXX) Sometimes i think we need a crappy day to appreciate just how great the other days are.. puts things in to perspective.

    • Honest Mum

      Aw thank you darling, love you too. So important to show the lows too huh, we ran out of wine last night and I nearly cried haha! Off to restock tomorrow. Thank you for being such a great friend to me and you are so wise, lots of love xx

  10. Mrs Lighty

    Ah I’ve just hit publish on a very similar post! Although mine was more about the motherhood side of things… Hope you’re having a better day today xxx

  11. Amanda Fulton

    Aw lovely, here’s a virtual hug right back. Sorry you had such a pants day, as you know I’m having one today. Sometimes I think we need the bad times to highlight how blessed we usually are. Thanks for sharing so honestly as always xx


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