Bolton Abbey

Taken at Bolton Abbey, Yorkshire

Those who follow this blog will remember that I wrote a piece on our proposed move to the outskirts of London or Windsor a few months ago, sharing that the family and I were set to relocate. Well, those plans have now changed and we’re staying put in Yorkshire.

A few things have happened (some ongoing) since that announcement, influencing our decision to remain here on the outskirts of Leeds in the pretty village we call home.

A close relative who has been unwell for over a year hasn’t fully recovered as we’d hoped and whilst we are positive that will be the case, moving now isn’t the right thing to do.

Alexander is also starting school in September (and has in fact just received his place today to join his brother at the village primary) and moving without firm plans for schools down South for either of my boys felt incredibly daunting and stressful.

An interested party who had wanted to make a private offer on our house also retracted, which while surprising at the time, was a blessing in disguise as it gave us the space to reevaluate if a move now was wise after all.

On top of all that, as you guys know, I have a busy schedule, working as a full-time blogger and vlogger whilst also writing a book which I deliver my first draft of, in June (it’s out next March) so an imminent move was freaking me out in all honesty. It felt like too much change at a time I crave stability so I can get my head down and crack on.

So that’s the story. We’re not moving. Not right now anyway. We might well move in the future of course. LA is our long term plan particularly as I hope to one day juggle my digital work life with directing my first feature film, returning to my filmmaking career, but we’re sticking up North for now and the foreseeable.

We love it here, we overlook open countryside and live close to my family and my job means I can work remotely and from anywhere. Peter and I have also discussed the possibility of another baby at some point (definitely not something for right now but in the future) and I can’t imagine being too far from my folks if that were to happen. Their love and support meant everything to us when we moved here from Bristol when Oliver was a baby, and Xander was born in Leeds with my parents being a vital source of strength to us in every way.

I will still travel lots to London of course and I’m usually there weekly (good job I love traveling by train, hey), and we’ve discussed buying a house in York perhaps in a year or two, with the commute only being 1 hour 45 direct to King Cross. Who knows hey?

Right now though, I feel happy with our decision.

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The Move: A Change of Plan

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59 Responses

  1. Lisa Pomerantz

    Sure sounds like you have thought this through and are not acting capriciously. Kudos on your calmness and sanity during what sounds like stressful times. #brillblogposts

  2. Jemma

    When big decisions come around I always think you know in your gut what’s right for you for now – sounds like you’ve made the best choices and have some amazing sounding plans for the future #brilliantblogposts

  3. Catherine, Not Dressed As Lamb

    Vicki those are such valid reasons – I know it’s not quite on the same level as moving house but we abandoned plans for our big holiday this year… We’d been planning it for 7 years (around the August 2017 solar eclipse in the US) but we just can’t do it for so many reasons. It’s now going to happen still as an east coast road trip, just in Sept 2018 and without the eclipse. More time to plan and save up!!

    You know it’s the right decision when it feels right, so I’m really happy for you. It’ll happen when the time is right as you say!

    Thank you for hosting the link as always, much love
    Catherine x

  4. Dadupnorth

    It reads like you’ve made a decision for the right reasons. Being close to family is and will always be a huge factor for us in wherever we live. I have recently changed jobs because I knew the job would ultimately lead us to a move away from family. At the minute we just aren’t prepared to do that.

  5. Aleena

    We’re planning a big move this summer too, and I’m not going to lie, the organisation of it all is making me a little bit crazy! I feel like it’s so important to make sure that all the cogs tern together so as not to disrupt the kids too much, but I feel like they keep getting stuck! I’d feel the same as you, especially with everything else you have gong on this year! #BrillBlogPosts

  6. Chloe

    Hi, I’m a firm believer that things happen for a reason, and the move down south wasn’t meant to be. Just as well you like train commutes #brilliantblogposts

  7. Nat - Awaybies

    I’m sorry to hear it’s been a rough time, but it sounds like you’ve made the right decision for now! There is always time in the future for relocating. And there’s no substitute for being close to supportive family, especially with children and work being so busy! Good luck with the book, looking forward to hearing more about it. #brillblogposts

  8. markus

    As one door closes another door opens. Or something like that. Well moving without firm plans for the kids education and the rest of the extended family is never a good idea. So from that point of view staying put is still the best option. I’m sure you will be just fine. Onwards & Upwards.
    But LA now that would be cool. All you need then is meeting the right people and you could end up being the next big thing in Hollywood. All the best for you and yours. Yorkshire is a wonderful part of the country! #brilliantblogposts

  9. Emma Peach

    That must be a relief, because I know from experience that living with uncertainty is incredibly stressful, as is moving house. Writing a book during a big move would be challenging, to say the least…but I’m sure you’d manage it with your super multi-tasking mum skills! Everything will fall into place and I bet the book will be a huge success 🙂

    Emma xxx

  10. Mum&Stuff

    I hope this is a weight off your mind. It’s so important to be able to step back, take a breath & reassess a situation. The plans will all come together when the time is right; Good for you! #BrillBlogPosts

  11. Sarahbel

    Good on you! We’re planning a move out of London too. I always thought I’d never head back up to Leeds because of my media job, but the quality of life you get up there & support of family close by is a strong lure! Good luck!

    • Honest Mum

      It’s a wonderful place to live and I’m in London once a week. My job means I can work remotely so works well, do consider it x

  12. Kiri

    Sounds like you have loads of fab stuff to look forward too, and at least you still manage to get to London regularly. We are in the process of selling our house and buying another – it’s stressful enough and we’re only moving 5 minutes away from where we are now! Hopefully things will work out if/when you decide the time is right to move. #brillblogposts

  13. Sarah - Arthurwears

    I think having a bit of space and extra time is a positive, especially with how busy your life is. Of course I am a little bit biased as we couldn’t wait to move back to ilkley when we lived in London for a while – it’s amazing for getting around and socialising etc but I always knew I wanted to bring up my children elsewhere (plus, I can’t imagine driving in London!) good luck with the rest of your plans x

    • Honest Mum

      Thanks Sarah, I grew up in Ilkley and love it there, we visit often. We would be living on the outskirts of London or Windsor if we move but now is not the right time for us x

  14. Michelle

    It seems like everything is working in the favour of staying put, for now. Who knows what future has in store for us, right? All the best for your plans!

  15. Lisa

    The right things always happen at just the right time. Who knows, your next move may be straight from Leeds to LA?! I can almost guarantee the schools situation would be less stressful in LA than in London (insert grimace emoji), from the experience of my London —> LA friends. xx

  16. Clare

    Oh I love both Yorkshire (old home) & London been here 24 years – but I go back to Yorkshire every 3 weeks!!! Yorkshire is so beautiful! A lovely place to bring up a family and nothing is ever forever!! Just enjoy darling. You are a vey clever lady – so what feels right is right! Big love Cx

  17. Lins @ Boo & Maddie

    Sometimes the stars all align don’t they? This sounds like the right decision for where you and your family are at at the moment so I’m glad that things have fallen into place for you. Exciting to think about a possible future LA relocation though! X

  18. Jody at Six Little Hearts

    I bet that it all feels like such a huge relief?!!
    We, (like you), live on the outskirts in a beautiful country setting. We miss our inner urban life but have slowly grown fond of staying-put after a long bout of illness. We feel so relieved that the house moving thing has been pushed aside!
    Glad you are feeling as content as us. It looks like you have some beautiful scenery to enjoy, much like ours too. All the best. Xx

    • Honest Mum

      Thank you Jody, things like illness put things into perspective and a house move adds more stress. I feel we’re doing the right things staying put. Hope to visit beautiful Oz one day! You are so lucky to live where you do x

  19. Carol Cameleon

    And it sounds like the right decision. From an outsiders point of view (thought I read your blog regularly, I’m still an outsider!), it sounds very much like ‘someone’ was trying to tell you a big fat ‘no’ to all of the above! (your guardian angel maybe?). ..

  20. jodie filogomo

    I know change of plan can be hard once you wrap your brain around it…but usually it all works out, right?

  21. Sharon

    I know it’s a well worn phrase but everything really does happen for a reason I believe. It often doesn’t seem that way at the time but when you look back you can always see why or at least rationalise to yourself. I love London too having worked their several times over my career and sometimes hated the travel slog. At least the train route with North East coast is decent so you can always be where you need to be xx

    • Honest Mum

      Thanks lovely, I adore travelling by train so don’t mind that at all. Definitely the right thing for us to stay right now x

  22. Helen @ MUMMYMODE

    You always have to go with your gut, and I’ve almost done stuff before (including a move) and pulled back. You know what is right for your family- good decision xxx

    • Honest Mum

      Thanks Helen, you are so right, so important to follow that instinct, never lets us down huh and life is all about timing too xx

  23. Alexandra | Mrs Hodgson

    This sounds like a really wise choice for now. Wuhoo! For Alexander getting in to Oliver’s primary school. I bet family are thrilled with your decision. So excited for your future and everything falling in to place. Wasn’t meant to be at the moment. You definitely live in the most beautiful surroundings. Xxx

    • Honest Mum

      Thanks darling, wasn’t the right time and happy with our decision, so glad Xander got into Oliver’s school! Lots of love xx

  24. Susan Mann

    That is good to hear lovely. I know both decisions must have been tough and I know you’re feeling torn. I think you’ve made the right decision and nothing is set in stone. Hugs x

  25. rachel

    I’m a firm believer in whats meant to be and this seems right for your family right now. I think it will lead to more wonderful opportunities in future. I hope knowing you’re staying put for now will give a certain sense of peace.
    Lots of love to you and the family xxxx
    PS please road trip to wales so i can meet you!!

  26. John Adams

    You gotta do what you gotta do and if that means staying put, so be it! Here’s hoping your long term plans work out (another baby though? WOW).

    • Honest Mum

      Ha thanks John, something we’ve been chatting about in the future. Staying definitely feels like the right thing to do x

    • Honest Mum

      Aw I know but we’re going to come visit you guys lots and you have to all come to Leeds. It was just all feeling too much. Doesn’t mean it won’t happen in the future though xx


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