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I’ve been reflecting on the year that’s just gone a lot over the Christmas break as it was a time where I totally kicked back, hung out with those I love without deadlines or school runs and it got me thinking about what I’d do differently this year. What I’d like to switch up in 2017.

Reading Fitness star Zanna Van Dyke‘s brilliantly inspiring post this morning, 7 Changes I’m Making in 2017 encouraged me to get those thoughts onto (digital) paper. To put it on the blog. It always makes me more accountable when I blog about my plans so here’s what I hope to do differently this year.

  1. Be kinder to myself. That means taking my own advice and practising self-care every single day even if it means just 20 minutes on the mat doing yoga or reading a book in the bath. I’m good at taking care of others (I love it, I was maternal pre-kids too, just ask my uni mates who all survived thanks to my cooking!) but I’m guilty of putting myself last far too frequently which leaves me shattered, anxious and prone to crazy PMT episodes rendering useless too. Frazzled mama is not good for anyone. I’m going to stop making excuses and will try to work out most days with a rest day too, and I’m going to chill the heck out more, and not just when everything’s gotten too much either. I’m going to bank that ‘me time’ so I have reserves when life gets too much.
  2. Saying no more. I got pretty good at this to be fair and I even wrote a post about it last year, and hilst I’m in a good place and feel happy in my skin, who I am and what I’m doing, I’m often plagued with guilt if I say no to events, emails and others’ requests. I do need to say no more and not worry it will offend people if I do. Saying no more means being able to say yes more too. I definitely need to prioritise my time better and this is the year it happens. Saying no to things or events that don’t make sense to me or my business means I get time with those who matter most: my family and friends and they allow me to focus on all that nourishes me.
  3. Consistently eating healthier food. I go through stages where I’m incredibly virtuous when it comes to food but then I get bored quickly and indulge like it’s Christmas every day, for weeks on end. This year, I’m going to be more balanced about the way I eat. Everything in moderation as the Greeks say (or is that just my Dad?!). Treats should be just that: treats- not coffee with squirty cream every single day like a greedy guts. I want to eat more plants too and be more ethically minded when it comes to food. I loved doing Veganuary last January and whilst I won’t be going vegan, I do want to get more greens and meat alternatives into my diet for sure.
  4. Direct more. I was a multi award winning filmmaker and director pre blogging and vlogging and whilst I do lots of video collabs and vlogs on my platforms, this is the year I’m ramping it up and putting my years of experience and skills to greater use. Video is exploding and I’ll be back in the director’s chair as well as firmly in front of the camera Clint Eastwood style (if CE did FB Lives and YT) more. And action…
  5. Letting my hair down more. I had a few wild nights this last year and my annual girlie holiday to Cannes which was epic and took 2 weeks to recover from but I’m all about letting my hair down more in 2017. Why? Because taking that time out for me, precious, silly, carefree fun with friends makes me a happier person and better mother, wife and blogger.

I’d love to read what you’re going to do differently this year!

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71 Responses

  1. Emma Clark

    Self care is as important as you care for your family. Every women start to care for herself. She always compromise if thing is related to her. I will also try to care myself.

  2. Laura

    Good luck to you with all your goals for the year, reading these posts make me realise that i should have set myself more goals!! I could do with eating more healthy more oh, so much temptation all around me!
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    • Honest Mum

      Never too late to set more goals, I’ve actually started that over the past week-limiting sugar and eating more healthily x

  3. Crystal Green

    This sounds like some wonderful plans. I can’t wait to see you in the director’s seat. I also think that Mom’s need to take more time for themselves without feeling guilty for it.

  4. Sammy Blackmore

    This year, I’m focusing on growing my freelance business. I’ve neglected it for some time, busy with daytime job.
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  5. Andreas Lim

    Happy New Year !
    All your resolution is very amazing..
    Eating healthier food is always hard to do ! Too many temptation from my friends… well can’t blame them, it’s just that I can’t control myself..
    Wish 2017 be a good year for you and me !

  6. Michelle

    This is brilliant. I’ve set myself some goals for the year and decided how i’m going to make it a much more positive year. Good luck #brillblogposts
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  7. Mrs Mummy Harris

    Happy new year!! I love your points, we all need to be kinder to ourselves and take more time for downtime. yearly trip to Cannes? Super to Jealous! #brillblogposts

  8. ohmummymia

    Bi kinder to myself is something I need to learn in this year! I’m sure you will reach all your goals:)
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  9. Rebecca

    These are all great! Making time for yourself is super important! Especially when it involves letting your hair down in great nights out with awesome people! Have an amazing 2017 lovely… so looking forward to your book next year too! <3 #brilliantblogposts

  10. Yvadney @ Mums That Slay

    Love these, being kinder to myself is one of my top actions this year. Not only not being so hard on myself, but also indulging myself in activities that are solely for me, playing the violin again and reading more books.

    Yvadney x
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  11. Lucy grace

    Love all of these ideas… it’s always worth showing yourself a little kindness in order to give it back to others as well! #brilliantblogposts
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  12. Laura Wilson

    I nodded through all these points, great points to focus on and I think a lot of us should follow suit. Number 4, well I’m not quite in the same boat but equally wanting to focus on creative skills and tie this into my blog, I think it’s great to have a job that we can be flexible like that! Best of luck for 2017, have a wild one xx
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  13. five little doves

    Happy new year!! Being kinder to myself is the biggest thing that I plan for 2017, I have been so cruel to myself over the years, I wouldn’t treat my worst enemy the way I have treated myself and I think it’s a huge wake up call when I look at it that way. I love your plans for 2017 and I have no doubt that you will achieve them. Good luck, I can’t wait to follow your plans! #BrilliantBlogPosts
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  14. Clare

    Gosh I bloody love this blog post!! I have the most bizarre 2017 – and saying No more to things that don’t thrill me is a big one for me this year! Easting healthier also is high up on that list, as is having fun

    Keep doing it Vicki – you are SUCH an inspiration

    Happy New 2017 and much Love Cx

  15. Lucy At Home

    I am feeling really positive about 2017. This time last year, I had no idea that I would start a blog and that I would love doing it so much. So I’m excited to see what new things THIS year has in store. I wonder what I might try next!

    My (sort of) resolution is to drink more water. Although I’ve done rubbish with that so far. I am determined to keep trying, though. Happy New Year! #BrillBlogPosts
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  16. Mess and Merlot

    Amen to being kinder to ourselves! I don’t have a lot of very specific goals but I’d like to continue to learn more about blogging and stop being such a massive scaredy cat re going self-hosted 🙂 Lots of luck with your resolutions and happy new year!
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  17. emma amoscato

    These are all great plans I can relate to. I am feeling excited about the new year too and I am going to make sure I plan in more ‘me time’ and definitely a few girls’ nights out. Like you, I also really want to do more of what I did before and get back into the journalism. No doubt you’ll smash it, and I’m planning to as well!!

    • Honest Mum

      Thanks sweetie, go for it, you’re a brilliant writer. I want to direct more related to my blog and eventually get to directing my own feature film one day. I think we can do it all: blog, vlog, write, direct-whatever we fancy and simultaneously too! x

  18. Rach

    Self care is SO important to wellbeing. Some great things here, stuff we can all take note of! #brillblogposts
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  19. Sara

    I read your post on saying NO more the other day, and it’s just so true! I too have written a blog on 7 self-care areas that I need to give more attention to in 2017. For me it’s all about that. Changing resolutions into habits is the hard bit though, but here’s to a fantastic 2017 for all of us! 🙂 #BrilliantBlogPosts
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  20. Tessa @ Grumpy Mum Reviews

    Fab post! I definitely need to take a leaf out of your book as all of your points (except the directing) are things that I really need to work on too. This year I also want to be successful at blogging. In the past, I’ve started things and got a fair way then fell at the last hurdle. With blogging I want to go all the way and make it my profession this year so that I can stay home with my wonderful (grumpy teething) Baby. I just need to learn not to get disheartened when things don’t happen as quickly as I want them to.

    Good luck with your 5 things 🙂

    • Honest Mum

      Thanks Tessa, you can absolutely make that a reality, I think we are all guilty of wanting things to happen quickly, patience, determination and hard work equals success. Not giving up is the key. Go smash it! x

  21. Caroline

    It sounds like you’re all set to have a great year Vicki, it’s so important to look after yourself (and so easy to neglect when you’re a busy Mum). This year I want to try and be more consistant with my diet and excersise, I’m like you one extreme or the other.
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  22. Eb Gargano /

    Fab post Vicki! Saying ‘no’ more and eating more healthily are two things I worked on last year and will continue to do so again this year… Finding more ‘me time’ is something I failed spectacularly at last year, so one to work on this year for sure! Last year’s surprise was the discovery that I love running – I went on a beginners’ running course run by my local jogging group and was amazed by how much fun I had! (this is the girl that dreaded PE at school) So this year I want to do more running and maybe build up to a half marathon. My other ambition is to find my abs – I’m sure they are their somewhere but I haven’t seen them in nearly 9 years!! 😉 Eb x
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    • Honest Mum

      Yay fab, I love running too and love hte sound of your jogging group. I want to find my abs too. Happy New Year gorgeous x


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  24. Sinead (

    I’ve not done a list like this yet but I think I should. An eh, I could totally include most of what you’ve written, especially regarding food and saying no! Oh and fitness. And self-care! Lol! Major lifestyle changes needed here! 2017 is THE YEAR! #BrilliantBlogPosts

  25. Angela Milnes

    I love your thoughts on what to do different. I am saying no much more now and it’s my plan for 2017. I think Self Care is a biggie for me too- something I need to do more of and I am going to…. at some time this year treat my self to my dream handbag and get new clothes. 🙂 Angela
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  26. Nico @ yumsome

    I’m already really good at taking care of me (yay for not having kids at home!) but what I’m useless at is organising my time efficiently. I’m great at organising others but when it comes to me, I’m far too chilled out… which leads to working 12-16 hours a day because I flit from one thing to another, and always do ‘just one more thing’. I’m determined to, as they say, work smarter not harder (I already work really hard!). There’s so much I want to achieve this year, I absolutely have to give myself a kick up the butt or else I’m going to be permanently exhausted!

    Which leads me to the other thing…. the E word! I so, so, so need to start working out again but it’s just getting up the impetus to start. I am the woman of a thousand excuses! Silly thing is, I know that once I’m in the habit, I’ll be fine (I actually enjoy going out for a run) but it’s making that first move that’s the hardest part. Monday will be my start though; I want to be able to climb, without stopping, to the top of the 500ft hill behind my apartment by May. And hike the mountain trails. And generally not feel like such a slug!
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    • Honest Mum

      Aw relate to this but a guest post on fitness I’ve just gone live on by Steven Lea will help you. So easy to make excuses but he advises creating new habits that will last. Really inspiring x

  27. Wave to Mummy

    I’ve got very much the same things in mind, especially with 1 and 2. Self care is so important!
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  28. Elizabeth (Wander Mum)

    I love this! Good to put it down on digital paper. I need to prioritise more as well as organise my time better. Not to forget more ‘me’ time especially now my little girl is getting a bit older. Here’s to an awesome 2017 ?

  29. Catherine

    Self care is top of my list too. It’s so easy to always fall to the bottom of the list and then have no time to spend on yourself. But in reality it does no one any good. You can’t fill anyone’s cup from an empty one.
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  30. Emma T

    My year will be all about losing my weight and not putting it back on again, eating healhier and drinking more water. And making sure I dance every week (twice hopefully but that might be harder to make happen with the OH’s summer and winter work hours). Happy new year
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  31. A Mum Track Mind

    Good to know I’m not the only one with this approach to eating! Currently waiting for the virtuous phase to kick in again! x
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  32. Leigh - Looking for a Bright Side

    Yay to all of this darling!! Working out is definitely a saviour and worth making time for…and as you say a stretch on the yoga mat or reading g a book are good ways to unwind. All about being more of your wonderful self! See you soon too hopefully… that can be point no 6 ??? xxx
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  33. Clare Mumsy Midwife

    This year I’m doing my diet differently. More home cooked meals and a lot less processed food. Only one takeaway a month and no eating like it’s Christmas every day!
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