Seven Steps To Being Creative When You’re A Tired Parent Who Just Wants to Crash Out
Welcome to the latest installment of Who’s The Daddy, a feature which shines the spotlight on the most talented Daddy bloggers, worldwide.
It’s an honour to welcome the talented Grant Robson of Looking For The Postman with his guest post: Seven Steps To Being Creative When You’re A Tired Parent Who Just Wants to Crash Out.
Something we can all relate to huh?!
Combing creativity with parenthood is no easy feat, especially after a night of no sleep and a billion and one daily errands and deadlines to make.
This post is jam-packed with valuable tips that will help get your creative juices flowing no matter how exhausted you feel.
Over to Grant…
Many moons ago, I was what I now call a ‘music producer’. It was more of a pot-pourri of music related projects which, when bundled together, became full-time work.
Pre-parenthood, I was working for MTV, DJing at music festivals and across Europe & the US, touring with bands (Charlatans, Embrace) and writing music for films. As with all self-employment, though, the income was somewhat erratic and after 18 roller-coaster months, I found myself back working a day job. That was ten years ago.
Now, I’m 44 and have 4 kids, but the desire to write music has never gone away. Despite this, the only music I have written in the last 8 years is a piece of music for my wife to walk down the aisle to at our wedding and a couple of things for some short films.
The reason for the lack of output was simply that, at the end of the day, I did not have the energy to start a creative process. I would push the idea aside and watch TV or a film. It is understandable that a job and kids and normal life can be draining, right? That’s what I told myself. That was my excuse.
The New Year bought with it fresh enthusiasm which was nice, but, in itself, wasn’t enough. I needed a plan. I needed to take this drive and focus it, be practical. I have to tell you that the plan worked, and I am back to writing music and being creative.
I’ve written what I believed to be the things that I did which made a difference and, while in my case it relates to making music, the principles can apply to any creative outlet. Hope they help you:
1. Have Your Tools Accessible
Whatever your creative outlet of choice, you have to make sure that the tools that you require are easily accessible and ready to go. For me, that meant taking the time to install the right software on my computer. For artists, make you know where materials are.
There’s nothing worse than getting the time and energy to do something and then have to waste a lot of that time finding things that you need. Also, knowing that you can start to realise an idea/story/sketch/ piece of music quickly and easily will make you more liable to actually do it.
2. Lose The Clutter
Your working/creative environment needs to be free from mess and potential distraction. Clean desk, clean mind. Without realising it, your mind may well be looking at things and they could be disrupting the thought process you’re aiming for.
That dirty coffee cup will start to nag at you. Getting all obstacles to a creative workflow out your way will help loads.
3. Mindsets and Notepads
While you might be on the go and busy throughout the day, you may still have spare thinking time. Train your brain to use that time to think about your hobby. You’ll find that just thinking about things will lead to new ideas, and give you some new things to try out. If you were a screen writer or a film maker, how would you depict the place you’re in right now? What could happen in this location?
I use note taking apps on my phone to record ideas throughout the day, but a good old fashioned pen and back of an envelope will do just as well. Keep thinking, thinking, thinking about what you’d like to do creatively. What it means is that when you finally do get the time to sit down and work, you’ve already got a good idea of where you’re going.
4. Take Your Chances
Everyday, I take my laptop to work. This gives me 20 minutes on the train journey (if I can get a seat with a table) and tea/lunch breaks at work. It’s a hassle, but it’s worth it and it’s good for me.
Writers and Artists are both told to do something every day. Take moments to write down a few words, do a light sketch. Musicians, play a tune at least once a day. Sing. Write a poem. Keep that part of your brain active and ticking over. Don’t let it atrophy.
5. Discipline Me
You’ve got your tools sorted, your workspace is ready to go and you’ve got an idea. Now it’s time to do your thing. You’ve worked hard to get to this stage, so make the most of this opportunity. A little discipline will go a long way.
Close down Facebook. Turn off the TV. Focus on what you’re working on and make it happen, little by little. It will happen.
6. The Doing Is The Inspiration
Any artist, regardless of discipline, will tell you that what they ended up with may not have been exactly what they envisioned at the beginning. It is often the actually act of doing something creative which inspires the next step.
For me, this would mean sitting down and playing a note on the piano. Then another note. Where will this take me today? A third note I may or may not like, but I’m on my way. The creative process is alive! Your brain is now firing ideas all over the place and you are in creative mode. It’s one of the best feelings you can have.
7. Be Honest
Another tip is to be honest with yourself. If something isn’t working out (a sketch, a compostition, a line of poetry), ditch it and move on. Don’t fixate if you know in your heart it isn’t working. Your time is too precious.
What I’ve found from doing all of this is that I have music pouring out of me. I am more focused and disciplined. My work rate and quality is so much better.
I am also much happier. For creative people, there’s always something bubbling under the surface. Once you find a way to express, vent and make, you’ll feel more complete. Whatever you’re doing, good luck!