pearls of wisdom

This post was originally going to be dedicated to several famous women and their words of wisdom (I’m a bit obsessed with collecting these kernels-see my Pinterest Board Wise Words for evidence)- but then I had second thoughts-why not ask the women in my life whom are my friends, colleagues and collaborators, to share their pearls of wisdom instead?!

Their words are just as important, if not more so, than those famous women I don’t even know beyond the confines of publicists and the media.

Below are women who are real to me, whose words touch and resonate, truly.

But look Bey, if you’re reading this, we can still totes be mates!

So, sit down, take five and simply absorb and relish the wisdom here from so many great women I admire.

Kick-ass ladies, jugglers, survivors, sisters, wise owls and true mates-I know you’re going to LOVE this post!

I’m kicking off with entrepreneur and publicist Jessice Huie MBE’s brilliant words. What an inspiration.



‘In order to be successful you have to make yourself vulnerable. If you aren’t feeling uncomfortable or stretched then you are playing in the safe zone…

Whenever I have felt I don’t belong, I’m not good enough, or incapable, if I’ve jumped then, magic has happened. I don’t think that success lies beyond our safe zone, I know it to be true’.

Jessica Huie MBE

Jessica Huie Public Relations

Next up some thoughts from me with lessons my Mama and Papa have taught me-



I know this sounds so utterly obvious but often we are scared to show others our true selves for fear they might not understand, like us and worst of all, reject us out right, but it’s so important to simply be yourself. To be honest, true and genuine. Come to terms with not being able to please everyone and honour who you are. Once you do, it’s so incredibly liberating!



This has never failed me yet, even when I’ve tried to ignore it and overcome those niggly feelings, they’ve always proved themselves right. That visceral feeling something or someone feels ‘off’, be it ‘bad’ boyfriends of the past or friendships doomed to fail, follow your gut.

It’s also important to learn to distinguish between actual fear and insecurity. Often we allow lack of confidence or feeling anxious to stop us from accomplishing our goals-so know when you might be hampering yourself, or the alarm bells are ringing for a reason.


This I get from my Dad, Papa G (an honorary woman here) who, more than anyone, certainly lives life to the full-a man bursting with charisma and joy, Papa G is the life and soul of the party.

He won’t let anyone or thing limit him or his life experiences and potential (watching him film something for telly this year and his sheer ambition is inspiring).

Thanks to him, I take chances and risks and try to make our days, most of the time, as exciting as possible. To living a meaningful, but also a fun life.


Now it’s over to some awesome ladies to share their wisdom too.

In the comments, please leave your own wise words.

Let’s share, support and lift one another up!



‘I guess my key life advice is about avoiding negativity.

It’s about learning to bend and give with what life throws at you, not forcing life to fit your preconceived notions.

It’s about acceptance and grace.

Don’t look for petty confrontation because you will surely find it all around, but turn and walk away, conserve you energies and view these annoyances as distant vibrations.

Learn to nurture yourself’


Down Side Up



If there’s anything I’ve learned over the past few months with the sad passing of my Father and an operation to remove a tumour in my neck, it’s that these words my wise and wonderful Mother taught me are so, so true…

They remind me not only that life goes on and so much is fleeting in retrospect but also to savour each and every moment’


The Joy Chaser

The Essex Barn


Don’t make them your own.

Release your attachment to other people’s views about you. It doesn’t have to be in a negative way, there is no wrong or right, we all have to accept that there is difference. What is right for me, may not be right for you and vice versa.

If someone doesn’t like you, then be detached enough from it to understand that it’s not always about you, so often it’s about them.

It doesn’t mean that you abdicate responsibility for your behaviour, words or actions, but once you have examined yourself and are at peace, then you can accept that perhaps their reactions are based on what they are feeling, what they are going through, the prism through which they see life.

It’s not always about us – that’s where ego comes in – but with being detached from the outcome of interactions with other people we can be true to ourselves and allow others space to decipher their own stories.

Zaz, Mama and More



‘NEVER compare yourself to anyone else. That shiny hair, smart clothes and sleeping baby might look impressive but behind closed doors we all have our meltdowns, wear our pjs and get sick in our hair!
Ask for help if you need – there are no medals for struggling.

Eat cake, drink coffee and enjoy vodka.

Always trust your instincts as a mother. You know your children better than anyone and if your gut is nagging you, there is usually a reason why’


Natalie, Just Because I Love, Spice Warrior & Natalie Trice.



‘I used to suffer terribly from comparing myself and measuring my own success against others. I would often berate myself when when comparing to others and it is complete confidence killer.
I have had to retrain myself (and it was hard) to not compare. We are all different! And that is what makes us who we are in all our wonderfulness’.

Rachel the HatYosa


‘Not everyone will like you, and that’s okay. Confidence is a state of mind. Perfection is overrated. The little things ARE the big things. Love is all you need’.
Lizzie Somerset



Below is what Amee says to her son when he gets frustrated when drawing or playing an instrument, or to friends when they’re feeling too self-critical or despondent, or even herself when she’s being too self-critical:

‘There’s a saying, ‘you have to make bad art before you can make good art.’ I think this carries across to all fields, not just art and design. Nobody is born an expert – when we see success we see the finished product of years and years of mistakes, dead ends, and terrible work that never sees the light of day.

The people that we admire are just like us – they weren’t born ready, they just keep ploughing on until the bad art becomes good, or good enough. Have faith – skill is mostly just perseverance’.


Amee D’Souza



‘Always try your best, work hard and dream big. Love with all your heart, be grateful for at least one thing every day. Love and be loved and if you can make someone’s day better, do it! Oh and avoid lame ducks’.

Beau Twins



‘Ultimately, my advice to anyone who will listen all comes down to control – and taking back control in areas of your life where you’ve lost it – that might be to do with the way you eat, your lack of exercise, being unhappy at work, being complacent with the state of the relationship you have with your partner, or a difficult friendship that is bringing you down: whatever the issue, I truly believe that regaining control and ownership and looking at ways to alleviate/solve the problem is the only way to move forward.

Waiting around for a magic wand/lottery win/husband to have a personality change isn’t likely to happen, and relying on everyone else around you to make things better, will only leave you disappointed.

Relying on yourself, your own strength, your ingenuity and ability to cope and problem solve – that’s a whole other ball game!

I realised that it is me alone that holds the responsibility to ensure my own happiness, of course plenty of people can add to my happiness and contentment in life, but ultimately I’m in charge, and if there’s something I don’t like and I’m not happy with, then I need to change it – no more burying my head in the sand and waiting for others to solve my problems.

Some phrases that I find useful when it comes to health/weight in particular are:
‘I don’t find the time to exercise, I MAKE the time to exercise’.

‘Losing weight is hard. Being fat is hard. Pick your hard’.

Lucy, Mrs Bishop’s Bakes and Banter 



‘Thanks to training and running three marathons I have learnt that if you put hard work into something, stick to your plans, you will achieve what you want to achieve. I apply this not only to my fitness plans, but also my life philosophy.

Since my dad passed away……

-Make sure you make the most of every day, enjoy little things and treasure them’.

Mirka and


‘Never stop learning. Ask questions of everyone you meet, and don’t feel embarrassed if you don’t know something, as this can be quickly and easily rectified. True ignorance is assuming you know it all, not admitting that you don’t.’

Jacqui Paterson, Mummy’s Little Monkey


‘You are enough the way you are, don’t try to be like anyone else because you are special, unique, individual.
Try not to worry too much what others think – they are not as bothered as you think they are anyway! Kindness wins every time, but don’t waste your time on those who take advantage of that.
Find those who love and value you for who you are and don’t let them go. Celebrate and support others – it will make you feel good, too. Get outside and feel the sunshine on your skin – there are few better feelings in the world’.

Leigh, Headspace Perspective

Wow! So many pearls of wisdom, this is definitely my most favourite post of all time.

Thanks to all who contributed.

I will be running more of these so there will be plenty of opportunity for others to share their thoughts too if you want to join in next time!

Woohoo! I’m feeling refreshed, strong and ready to face the world.

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66 Responses

  1. One Messy Mama

    This is beautiful! What a special way to celebrate people we care for by asking them their words of wisdom! Loved “Comparison is the thief to Joy”! Many true words!

  2. Tammymum

    I really like this, some excellent advice there and things we should remind ourselves of daily. Thank you for reminding me! #brillblogposts

  3. becca farrelly

    A lovely post, its so important to remember these in everyday life. I always ‘trust my gut’ as it is very rarely wrong! I love quotes and agree with many other comments about real quotes by real people is far more inspiring! 🙂


    • Honest Mum

      Thanks lovely, it’s my favourite post to date and I totally agree, I will never not trust my gut again, it has never let me down x

  4. Laura

    What a wonderful resource! 🙂 I love collecting inspiration and quotes too. My favourites since become are this too shall pass and give up being perfect, good enough is just fine.

    Something that has really helped with my mental health issues is remembering that no feeling or problem lasts forever. If you are having a terrible time, remembering that this WILL change in an hour, a week, a year etc really helps. Also – live in the present, it’s the only place that really exists. Thanks for sharing x #brillblogposts

  5. Mum in Brum

    Thanks for this – some really great advice. I so agree that once you learn to be yourself and stop trying to please everyone you can really start to be comfortable with who you are and great things come of that. Also think that stepping out of your comfort zone and dreaming big is a must – if you don’t do it, nobody else is going to do it for you. #brilliantblogposts x

  6. Joanna @mumbalance

    Thanks for this post! Including quotes from real people is so much more inspiring than from someone famous and untouchable. Especially the blogger quotes, as these are ladies in the same position in life I am.

  7. Catherine @ Not Dressed As Lamb

    Vicki this is SUCH an amazing post… One to come back to again and again, especially if you’re feeling a bit blue or deflated! So many wise words here: I often think some of the best posts are ones where lots of readers/bloggers have contributed a little something. Thank you so much for writing this :))

    Catherine xoxo

  8. Debbie

    Hi Vicki, all very wise words indeed. Wisdom certainly comes with age and I think one of the best pearls of wisdom was to be yourself, no matter what. Learning to know our self and to like our self isn’t always easy, but I do believe it gets easier as we age.

    I think happiness is easier to achieve when we are older too, as by then we know what is important in life.

    The piece of wisdom I will take from this post is that success comes after we step out of our comfort zone.


    • Honest Mum

      Thanks so much Debbie, I agree, I wish I knew what I did now in my 20’s. Love the quote on pushing yourself out of your comfort zone from Jessica Huie MBE, so scary but necessary for success x

  9. Michelle Reeves (The Joy Chaser)

    Love Emma’s words so much – they speak right to the heart of being strong and confident and living a kick-ass life, following your gut and pushing forward towards your dreams! Feeling so uplifted and positive after reading through this fabulous post which I’m pinning immediately. Thanks so much for inviting me to be part of it darling and so looking forward to an amazing 2016 xx

    • Honest Mum

      Oh thanks so much, reading Emma’s words and all of yours gave me goosebumps, what an incredible group of women. Honoured to have you darling, thanks for being a great friend and inspiration x

  10. Mama and More aka Zaz

    Oh my, there are some days like today when things render you speechless. So much to learn from, to mull over, to turn around and look at from different angles, to absorb. This is an incredible post Vicki, one to come back to time and time again. Bookmarked. And honoured, so honoured to be included alongside so many wonderful wise, generous, giving women. My goodness, how we don’t run the world is anyone’s guess! (Or maybe we do and we’re just not telling!) xxxxx

    • Honest Mum

      Loved this comment darling, you are a fountain of wisdom and sense and I love you so much Zaz, thank you for being you and inspiring us all, what a wonderfully uplifting post, my favourite ever xxx (We totes run the world just not everyone knows it yet) x

  11. Phoenicia

    Amazing quotes. I like all of them but the one which stood out a mile to me was coming out of your comfort zone and enjoying being stretched.

    • Honest Mum

      Thanks Phoenicia, loved Jessica’s words, and all, really resonated with me yesterday of all days when I decided to take the plunge into the unknown on a project x

  12. Silly Mummy

    Great advice and inspiration from all the ladies (& your dad!) Really like the success one – that’s very true. #brilliantblogposts

  13. Fiona @ Free Range Chick

    Vicki, I’m seriously honoured to be here amongst these incredibly wise women. I am inspired by each of their wise words, and am totally having a Wayne’s World ‘we’re not worthy!’ moment (complete with on hands and knees and raggedy long hair!).

    I have to say, I’m forever in awe of anything Zaz has to say, as well as my best girl Reneé, who I fell for, friend-at-first-sight at Britmums 2015.

    Thanks so much for including me in this epic post. Bey, ‘WE’RE NOT WORTHY!’ xxx

  14. Leigh - Headspace Perspective

    What a wonderful post Vicki! Such a lovely idea. As Hayley says it’s interesting we all echo each other – though that shouldn’t be surprising. I shall be copying out some of them. And Beyonce should totally read this! Together we are stronger xxx

    • Honest Mum

      Haha Beyonce totally should read this, might have to tweet her! Women together are definitely stronger darling. Thank you for sharing your wisdom here, meant a lot to me x

  15. Tinuke

    So many brilliant, wise words here! Such a fantastic post, it had me nodding my agreement with some very loud “mmm hmms” thrown in too!

  16. Hayley - Downs Side Up

    What an incredible post and how amazing that so many of the pearls of wisdom overlapped and echoed each other. I truly believe we have to nurture ourselves, realise our worth, push our comfort zones and align ourselves with those that understand and love us. Collaboration is key, and letting go of what is not important. Honoured to be included. Thank you amazing Vicki.

  17. Mrs Tubbs

    Great advice and a much needed kick in the arse. Thank you 🙂 Pinned for when I need a reminder. My comment, always put the good advice somewhere you can find it when you need it. 🙂

  18. International Elf Service

    Fab post and it’s SO good reading that ‘ordinary women’ are in fact the ones who are actually very extra-ordinary! Perhaps if people read more posts like this, they’ll start to believe in themselves more. Gutted to miss Uju’s pearls of wisdom but the promise of January sounds good ;). Emily x

  19. Random Musings

    What an amazing post, so uplifting. I feel really inspired after reading this, and I love that so many people mentioned being yourself. This is so important and something so many people struggle with. It is better to be disliked by someone for being you than be loved by them for being someone else. Thanks for hosting #brilliantblogposts 🙂

  20. John Adams

    Compelling reading Vicky. I shall assume Papa is an honorary woman on this occasion??? Particularly taken by Renee and Lizzie Somerset’s words. Both certainly ring true to me. As ever, thanks for hosting this great linky.

  21. Babes about Town

    Wow, what a bunch of ballsy, sussed out and totally FABULOUS women. I’m impressed and inspired! And I can’t believe I tapped out my ‘genius’ on my phone to send you last night and promptly crashed. Hubby found me passed out on sofa with drool hanging from lip, sent me to bed… some #guru eh? Never mind, next time you request my wisdom, I’ll be armed and ready hehe.

    This is wonderful, I’m so glad you reached out to real women because I find the most inspiration from the people I know, including my own kids (sometimes even that old mister of mine). And you Vicki have been a massive source of encouragement, sisterhood and motivation. Your joyful spirit and risk-taking creativity keeps me pushing for my dreams and laughing all the way. Great, great post x

    • Honest Mum

      Oh Uju, sat here with tears in my eyes reading your words. As Alexander would say, ‘I love you SOOOOOOO much’. You inspire me and are a #guru to me so in Jan, you are first up in the next post or I’m giving you one of your own OK. Much love and love your were drooling, that is me most nights xxx

  22. Alexandra @imeverymum

    This is a beautiful post. So much wisdom. A lot of these have helped me over my life. Nice to have them reaffirmed and to feel motivated this morning. Thank you for sharing xxx

  23. lizzie ( firstooth )

    This really made me smile, very inspiring and if we can all live our lives using those quotes I think we’d all feel more comfortable in our skin and happy. Have to share this with my friends!! Thanks for hosting #brilliantblogposts

  24. Natalie Trice

    Just sat and read this twice with a coffee.
    First thank you for asking me to take part, totally flattered.
    Second thank you for being such an inspiration and flying the flag for all of us.
    Third, what a bunch of amazing women.
    Happy Thursday one and all.

  25. Mim

    I adore this post – I live my life on optimism and positivity as much as I can and this post is filled to the brim with both. I couldn’t agree more with being your true self, not trying to be someone else and never apologising for being the person you are – I’m proud to be a strong minded, strong willed, strong woman – and aspire to be even more so after reading this 🙂 PS totally loving the problem page idea – can’t bloody wait, so retro and awesome x #brilliantblogposts

    • Honest Mum

      Thanks so much, we sound so similar, I hope we get to meet one day and so glad you like the sound of the Problem Page, I grew up with those and thought it was time we brought it back xx

  26. Pen


    Some great life lessons here. My life has been really challenging this year…but out of our biggest challenges come out greatest achievements. That’s my motto.

  27. Kat | Beau Twins

    What an inspiring post gorgeous lady. This has most certainly started my Thursday off in a positive way indeed. Bookmarking for the future. You are a very wise lady abd surrounded by such incredible women. Law of attraction at work in powerful way. Thank you so much for including me beautiful. So blessed to be a part of this positive and inspirational post. Big love always. 2016 is going to be amazing on so many levels. Xxxxx


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