Those who follow my blog know that settling my youngest son, Alexander, now 2 1/2 into nursery has not been easy for either of us.

Having spent most of the first 2 years of his life with either myself or my Mum, initially starting nursery at 2, felt totally foreign to him.

When trialling him at the nursery my eldest son, Oliver, had loved, became too painful (I went against my gut and left him too soon in my opinion, scarpering future trials), I left it a while so he could forget the difficult experience and decided to try a new nursery close to my home, taking things slowly…

The minute we both looked round, I instinctively felt this would be the right place for my boy.

That gut, visceral feeling must always be trusted.

Brand new with modern, plush interiors, one of many nurseries under that umbrella across the country, the staff were experienced but most importantly caring and kind towards Xander and all the children under their care.

Their passion and commitment to the kids there was evident on that first meeting and only perpetuated through the week I spent there daily. With everything from gardening activities to arts & crafts and sing alongs, I didn’t want to leave. I’d actually love to work there. That’s so important isn’t it? To find a place you want to be, means your kid will too.

Being a new nursery too meant it wasn’t over populated with children either so Alexander didn’t feel overwhelmed and he could take things in his stride and own time.

Overlooking the open Yorkshire countryside, we actually counted the sheep from the window where the children read, and with lots of outdoor space (kids are even encouraged to draw pictures with chalk on the grounds), this really is the ideal place for Xander.

Yesterday I left him for the first time solo.

There were inevitably a few tears when I left the room, explaining I would be heading to buy bananas (his favourites) then would come back to collect him. I’d prepped him all day discussing how he would play with the friends he’d made and read his favourite stories.

I left his favourite teddy and football with him and waited just outside the room out of sight. The crying had stopped literally a few seconds later, and when I called after 15 minutes, he was happily playing outside.

We’d done it. He’d done it.

On collection an hour later, with big brother in tow, Alexander ran to us, proudly announcing, ‘This is my nursery’ and pointing at the children,  ‘They, my friends’.

It was the sweetest thing and such a relief after the previous few months.

Nursery marks a new chapter for us, a more structured work day for me, my Mum gets a little bit more free time (not too much Mum if you’re reading this) and Xander beings the road to academia and greater independence.

It was an emotional day.

A happy day.



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36 Responses

  1. Fiona @ Free Range Chick

    Honey, this is such great news. It is gut-wrenching leaving them in childcare when they clearly hate it. Every inch of you tells you that this is the wrong thing to do, yet the staff are telling you otherwise. Horrible.

    I’m so glad to hear that A has settled – bless him! And what a picturesque place to be all day – a view with fields and sheep?! Amazing!

    I can imagine that it serves as a relief to you that he is happy too – having a more structured work day must far less stressful for you. I’m having this on Tuesdays now, which is amazing.

    I hope he goes from strength to strength at nursery. Good luck to you both xxxx

    • honestmum

      Thanks so much darling, it really is the most perfect place, the staff are loving, the kids are all happy there and so is Alexander, it’s taken time but so pleased we’ve found the right place at the right time for my boy. Life does feel more structured. Lots of love to you xxx

  2. Suzanne

    What a relief indeed! I remember this feeling so well. Am glad you trusted your instinct and waited. Clearly the right decision. x

  3. Lindsay @ Newcastle Family Life

    It is so good that you have found a nursery that you are both happy with now and where he has settled straight away. My daughter will be turning two soon and we have started looking at nursery’s for her recently and it is proving so hard to find a one i am 100 % happy with xx

    • honestmum

      Keep looking until you’re happy hun. I took it slowly with this one and spent 2 weeks slowly settling him in, spending an hour a day there, it really paid off. I got great vibes the minute I looked round xx

  4. Ting at My Travel Monkey

    I’m so happy that Xander has settled in well, for both of you! I completely agree it’s a gut instinct right in the pit of your stomach. As mothers we just know when something is right or not right x

  5. Katie / Pouting In Heels

    Wonderful news! So thrilled he’s settled and found ‘his place’. Nursery has been the making of Elsie in making respects. I’m sure he will love it and go forth and prosper!xxx

  6. Mummy Tries

    Really pleased that you’ve cracked it my lovely, sounds like A loves his new nursery 🙂 he’s just like my 3yo, full of chat and ‘these are my friends’ just gorgeous. The baby hasn’t been such an instant fan unfortunately, bit I’m hoping he settles soon xxx

  7. Babes about Town

    So happy for you both I know how agonising the journey to nursery has been at times. And as you know, timing is everything. He’s ready. What a little man, how are you growing so fast A? *tear* Anyway the nursery sounds amazing, heck I’d like to go! Congrats x

  8. Charlotte Oates

    So glad to hear that he’s now happily settled into nursery. It must be such relief for you. You’re so right about the “feeling” I remember rejecting nurseries with outstanding offset reports for Daniel because they felt too big and impersonal. The nursery we finally chose wasn’t rated as highly but it was small and you could tell that the staff genuinely loved the children in their care.

  9. PhotoPuddle

    Oh I am so happy for you. I have been following your nursery story and been looking forward to reading a happy post like this. Sounds like you have found the perfect nursery for your little boy. Long may his happiness there continue xxx

    • honestmum

      Thanks darling, so pleased and relieved, it’s been a long time coming but it was the right time and the right place for him xxx

  10. Utban Mumble

    Always trust you gut instinct. So much of the communication is non-verbal. I think children have a sixth sense when it comes to judging people; who’s good, bad, genuine or trustworthy. Of course, they sometimes get it wrong and a part of it is about personal chemistry. Some nurseries have a great energy, others don’t. You just sense it when you go in. Great that it’s working out so much better for you and Xander this time.

  11. Ebabee

    I’m so pleased you find the right place for both of you. And glad you waited a bit. So lovely to see them go happily in to a place xx

  12. Sarah christie

    I am so glad he has settled so well, Jack started nursery at two he is now 14 and some of his best friends are friends from Nursery would you believe, I love that they have such a deep root of memories together x

  13. Sharon powell

    Yay! I am so pleased for you! Harry is 2 1/2 too and we also started him in nursery when he was 2. He cried every time I left him for 2 weeks at the start and it was awful, so heartbreaking. We chose to stick with it and I’m so glad we did, he now loves it! It’s such a relief when you know they love it x

  14. mummyofboygirltwins

    Such brilliant news! I know it is still early days but it sounds like he is going to be just fine there! Hurrah! Lottie had a tough first month at her preschool and so I feel your pain of how hard it is. I felt sick! So MUCH better when they run off and enjoy themselves. Yay for him and you xx

    • honestmum

      It really can be tough, sorry you had it hard too, some kids take time and others need a change of scenery, there were too many tough memories for him at his last place. So happy to have found somewhere so lovely, thanks for your support darling xx

  15. Kat | Beau Twins

    Yay – lot’s of yay’s. So pleased he has settled lovely. You handled it so well. My two are registered now and will be “starting” next year (should be around 2 & 1/2). Have a wonderful weekend gorgeous lady. Lots of love Kat xxx

  16. Potty Mouthed Mummy

    This is such amazing news! Well done Xander. And you’re so right. The mummy gut instincts must be followed, they always serve us right. This makes me smile, knowing how hard it was for both of you previously xx


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