not superwoman

People keep referring to me (kindly) as Superwoman (if only I looked that good in lycra-wait-a-minute who my kidding, I’d NEVER wear lycra) but truth be told, I’m asked quite a bit, ‘How do you do it?’ so I thought I’d blog exactly how!

First things first, I’m definitely not Superwoman and the reason I can ‘do it’ as in work as a professional blogger, full time but with flexible working hours, with 2 children aged 5 and 2, is thanks to all the people in my life frankly, who make it all possible.

I thought I’d share this with you to simply debunk the myth of any preconceived notions of superpowers on my part and be totally honest about what goes into running my blogs as businesses and keeping the tricky balancing act called juggling, going.

I’m just like the millions of other women out there trying to earn a crust with a young family… and of course I’m lucky enough that working makes financial sense with the childcare available to me to.

The workforce is no equal playing field for mothers wanting to return to their day (or night) job that’s for sure but blogging has readdressed that somewhat, meaning more women (and men) just like myself, are finding ways to work in ways that suit their lives and families feeding their brains, heart and pockets.

So let me break it down-

I tend to take Mondays off or most of the day anyway, just for Alexander and I to mostly pretend we’re star footballers in the local park or bake. We love to bake. And eat. A lot. Good times.

Weekends are for family time. Always.

My life and career are entwined so this does sometimes mean weekends away reviewing lovely cottages and hotels (poor kids 😉 ) but as I’m sure you can tell, it’s fun and doesn’t ever feel like work.

It just means I have to write about what we get up to on our return, which is what I do generally about our little lives, on the parts I choose to share that is.

My amazing former lecturer of a Mum helps with childcare as does a lovely lady, Beverly, a family friend who pops over 2-3 times a week for a few hours in the morning to help with Alexander and she evens tidies up when he lets her. Amazing lady.

My Dad on his one day off from running his restaurant group, dashes over to hang out with my kids and if I need to be in London or Manchester for work, I know I can always count on my parents. I don’t take any of this for granted either, when we lived in London then Bristol far from family, it was near impossible for me to work especially at the time, directing on set, so I’m indebted to my folks, truly.

..Yes it’s true I work hard, very hard but as I write quickly and prolifically (always have) I schedule posts in advance and work weeks and sometimes months ahead, especially when it comes to planned blogging series like Wonderful Women and Who’s the Daddy.

I do take on new commissions daily too and of course, emailing leads, responding to emails, tweets, securing new business, and trying to keep up with the Kardashians is all part of my day job (I’m properly rubbish at keeping up with Kim and co though so don’t be too impressed, now ).

I usually go live 3 times a day here on honetmum.com but only twice a week on mummysgotstyle.com, but I run my blogs as magazines and this is what works for me and the way I make my living.

It’s not for everyone and there are certainly no rules so I’d say just go with what feels right for you and most importantly what is feasible.

The beauty of blogging means unless something is urgent deadline wise, I stop for lunch, can hang out in the park when I want to, pick up Oliver from school (which I do daily), make dinner and share bedtime with my husband, continuing with my work if needed on an evening/night/ or whenever.

I am rather good at switching off (and am always trying to improve) so there’s rarely tapping at laptops at midnight unless work is urgent.

Pre-bedtime is dedicated to silly TV (hello Family Guy) with my husband and a bit of wind down yoga. If you see tweets and posts, they’re usually pre-scheduled.

I’ve also recently hired an incredible PA/Publicist, Hayley, who goes through what often is a mountain of emails, handles PR for me now, and helps keep my schedule organised.

With modelling and ambassadorial contracts, planned press, filming commissions that I’m in as well as directing, along with my usual sponsored posts and ad placements, it’s great to have someone I click with, working for me, to discuss, plan and organise my work life.

I still write all my blog posts but Hayley helps make my workload manageable and is a crucial member of Honest Mum Limited as my business continues to grow and expand.

Additionally, for the last year I’ve employed a designer Amee who keeps my blogs looking their best and helps with any technical issues as and when they crop up, as does my IT guru of a husband Peter.

Now onto my main man who can, Peter, who has a brilliant day job in IT but also shoots the majority of the photography on both my blogs (he really is gifted) so while I do the writing, cooking and modelling, he’s there shooting away, supporting, loving, working his magic.

He’s a huge part of my blog and its success and as soppy as it sounds, to work with the man you love who makes you feel the most relaxed you’ve ever felt in front of the camera (he was commissioned to shoot the last two shoots for Nova Harley, the latter featuring in British Vogue) is something quite special.

Our shoots, especially with the kids are super-quick and most importantly a joy for us all.

So that’s it in a nutshell, some days I’m high-fiving myself that I’m winning at this crazy thing called parenting, other days I feel I’m failing at it all. Mostly it’s a middle ground, yay it’s 9pm everyone’s eaten, asleep and my work here is done!

I think in life it’s so important to try and make what you love your job and I hand on heart LOVE, love, love my blogging career and everything that come with it and from it- I’m creative and need my job to feel fulfilled and content as well as of course for financial reasons.

I need to get gluten-free bread on the table people and doing it in a way that makes me happy is really important to me.

Happy parents equals happy kids, right?

I must add some of my closest friends are SAHM’s and I have the utmost respect for them but I just know it’s not for me.

There it is, a busy, never, ever boring life. One I feel so grateful for. Because I’m no superwoman, I’m just a woman with a lot of super support.

 

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125 Responses

  1. Lottie Lomas

    Well done you for telling it like it is! You may have support, but you still do an amazing job and are an inspiration!

    Thanks for doing #brilliantblogposts; it’s a resounding success. xxx

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  2. Adventures of a Novice Mum

    When we really think about our lives, there is so much we couldn’t do without the support of others. It’s so brill that you have the support you need to make the kind of life that you want for yourself and your family. Well done for your hardwork and for being able to write fast and switch off. Thanks for the insightful share; thanks for debunking the superwoman myth and recognising those that make it happen for you! I’m so glad to know you on my blogging road, you’re an inspiration. #brilliantblogposts

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    • honestmum

      Oh that comment has just raised the hairs on my arms, thank you, it’s a pleasure getting to know you and your fabulous blog too, your words have made my day xx

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  3. Joanna @mumbalance

    It sounds like you have worked things out very well. It is amazing to get so much support from your family! I live away from mine and I can really feel the difference whenever my mum can give me some child-free time for blogging.
    Well done xx

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  4. jess Paterson

    Love this heartfelt post about the realities of “having it all”. It’s so lovely you have fantastic support from your family – but you moved house to be close to them, no doubt giving up a lot you loved about your life in London and Bristol, so it’s not just a case of luck that you have parents to hand. You are obviously incredibly organised and drive, and most of all passionate, which shines out of every post. I think you do an amazing job. I bet you look hot in Lycra too 😉 xxx

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    • honestmum

      Oh thanks so much darling for your thoughtful words, we were so ready to move when we did and we’ve never been happier than in Leeds. I do feel so lucky to have them and being able to do what I love makes me so happy. Haha lycra and me can never be friends xxx

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  5. Yvette @ Big Trouble in Little Nappies

    Very interesting insight Vicki (and love this photo – so natural and lovely) – you obviously work really hard, as most of us do, but it’s great you manage to find the balance that can be quite elusive to many! I love the phrase ‘putting gluten free bread on the table’ – fab!

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  6. Catherine @ Not Dressed As Lamb

    As someone who doesn’t have kids, this is such an interesting insight into how on earth you manage to fit everything in and run a blog… or two?!! I have elderly parents (both well in their 80s) and couldn’t (and wouldn’t) burden them with looking after little ones, even if I’d had kids in my late 30s.

    Your honest account is very refreshing Vicki, especially the fact that you credit so much to everyone that does it with you! Well done you :))

    Catherine x

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    • honestmum

      Thanks so much Catherine, it was important to me to be honest about what goes into my career. My Mum loves looking after my youngest, Alexander and he will start nursery in the coming months, he really struggled to settle in- it’s a juggle and I’m so grateful to everyone x

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  7. hannah Mums' Days

    What a wonderful insight into your life Vicki. I feel privileged to call you a friend and to me you really are superwoman, lycra and all 😉

    I think, having spent some time with you, you are what I’d call a tour de force. Incredibly driven and ‘on it’, as they say! Although you might not have as much time as we’d all like, I think you use the time you have very wisely. After all, you can have all the time in the world but if you have no focus or end goals, you’re kind of treading water.

    I love that while you are busy building your fabulous business you are so incredibly generous with your knowledge. You help give me the focus and drive I need to succeed too 🙂

    Much love xxx

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    • honestmum

      I feel the same way about you hun, I feel so lucky to have made real friends in you and so many others thanks to blogging. I love sharing and importantly I want to be honest about what it takes to do what I do. I don’t want people to think I’m some solo superwoman without help and support. Thanks so much for your lovely words and being a great friend xx

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  8. Debbie

    When I saw the title of your post I just had to read it as I was intrigued as to how you run a successful blog and a smiley, happy family.

    Hats off to you that you are making doing something you love work for you and your family. And credit to you for acknowledging the help you receive; that in itself is priceless!

    One thing you never mentioned and to me it seems pretty obvious in your post…You are not only a determined woman, but you are also a very organized woman

    PS – I love the fact that some days you feel like you are winning the parenting thing and on other days you feel a total failure…Now that is something most parents can relate to.

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    • honestmum

      Thanks so much Debbie, I really wanted to be honest about what goes into my work and family life and how grateful I am for the support I have. I love reading about how others work this juggle and it’s so true, some days I feel I’m winning, others failing. Such is life huh xx

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  9. The DADventurer (Dave)

    Great post and really interesting to see how you juggle things. Oh, and don’t be daft, you are a superhero, I saw you wearing your knickers over your trousers the other day! 🙂

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  10. Anita Cleare

    I think it is so important that we debunk the Superwoman myth! Balancing family with work is always a challenge and everyone needs to find their own unique way through it. Society holding up impossible ideals doesn’t help, it just makes us all feel inadequate. So thanks for puncturing the balloon and letting us peek under the surface.

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  11. Mirka Moore @Fitness4Mamas

    You have made me laugh! Of course we all know you are a superwoman, and we love you! You are very lucky to have all these people helping you, and only now when my mum has gone back i see how much I struggle with all my work. As you know hubby works in London, long hours, travels loads, so no help with kids except the weekends. Hopefully olivia will be happy at the nursery, which will mean so much for me and my blogging career that has been “put on hold” as I just could not do all the things on my own. love you hun, and hope to catch up soon xxx

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  12. Vicki Montague - The Free From Fairy

    Well, Vicki, I still think you are a super mum!! I think it incredible that you get so much done in a day…I just wish I managed so much! I agree with you about family…without mine fairly close by I wouldn’t be able to pursue half of the things that I do…if I have a meeting to go to I know that I can call upon them to help out with the kids. Aren’t mum’s great?!?!

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  13. Lucy @ bottlefor2

    This is super impressive. So no wonder people call you superwoman. How wonderful to have the support around you. It really does make all the difference. I’m pretty new on the scene so this is my first link up with brilliant blog posts. It just so happened that you wrote a post giving me real insight into your life and how you run things which is an inspiration. Makes me aspire to do more… once I can get some support in place. I try and blog in baby nap times at the moment, so it’s pretty challenging! Especially when the baby doesn’t nap for long. I hope to link up with you more in the future. Lucy

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    • honestmum

      Thanks so much Lucy, I really couldn’t do what I do without the support I have. The beauty of blogging is it can work around your family, be it naptimes, nights, it’s such an exciting medium to work in. Thanks for linking up, so lovely to have you and give me a shout if you need anything x

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  14. Kate

    Fab post – but I don’t believe it, you are definitely a Super Mum! (And you’d look great in the lycra). It’s hard isn’t it juggling kids and work – I often struggle with it and wish there were just more hours in the way! Thanks for sharing, I love getting an insight into how others manage. #BrilliantBlogPosts

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    • honestmum

      Thanks darling Kate, haha not sure a style post of me in lycra is imminent but thank you! It really is a juggle but it’s all worth it xx

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  15. Mummy Fever

    My family live in France and my partners are a 2 hour drive away so things are quite different for us but I also look rubbish in lycra! I did always want to be wonder woman though #brilliantblogposts

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    • honestmum

      Ooh me too, hard when family is far away, I know I’ve been there but your blog is great and I’m a big believer in being kind to ourselves and doing what feels right and manageable x

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  16. Jenny

    It’s great having family nearby to help out, my parents recently moved up to near our town and they’re always there when I need them. Amazed at how you can juggle everything! 🙂 x

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  17. Mel

    Love your closing words, hun. What a beautiful post, and great way to celebrate all the people who can make Honest Mum possible. Your little ones must be so proud of their mummy. x

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    • honestmum

      Aw thanks darling Mel, I have the best support team, I feel very lucky. Thanks for all your support and friendship, means so much to me xx

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  18. International Elf Service

    Oh I so agree with you on the family time and the in the week kid time. I have our youngest on Mondays and Fridays and he really needs that. In fact we both do. I’m so impressed with what you achieve though – you must just be super organised and super competent!

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    • honestmum

      Thanks very much, I try my best, I think writing prolifically helps and having so much support, thanks for your lovely comment!

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  19. Katie / Pouting In Heels

    Ok so you may not BE ‘super woman’ but one thing is for certain sweetpea, you ARE a super woman.

    Yes you get support, yes you get help, yes you are living the dream but do you know what you’ve earned it my darling. You’ve worked your bottom off, shared, inspired, learned and gone out there and made things happen and THAT is no mean feat. Well done you. Wonderful post – one of my favourites of yours. X

    #allaboutyou

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    • honestmum

      Oh sweetie you’re going to make me cry and I’m not even wearing waterproof mascara ;). Seriously means so much, you know the freelancing way and it’s quite the juggle but it’s empowering too and I wouldn’t change it for the world. Keep rocking yourself lady and much love xx

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  20. jenny

    Wow lovely post hunny and so honest. I love that too. It’s great to have support and I am always so jealous of family close by being an expat is so hard when it comes to that and support. I am lucky to have my husband mother if I needed but it’s nice to have my own family around too which my mother is flying over from the states in a few weeks and I can’t wait. I love how you have balanced both parenting and work life. I could never not work either. It’s just not in me. I hope to one day to half of what you have achieved wow impressive and great when hubby’s interest mix well with your passions too. My hubby didn’t know what a blog was! lol Trying explaining that one. lol You go girl is all I can say.

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    • honestmum

      Thanks Jenny for your lovely comment, we moved back to Leeds for a quieter way of life and of course to be closer to my folks. You are so lucky you have your mother in law, my in laws live in South Africa and we miss them so much. Bet your husband knows all about blogging now thanks to your awesome blog x

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  21. Tim

    It’s fascinating to see how the magic happens – even if the reality is that a lot of it is not effortless grace but down to efficiency and sheer hard work. I guess the important thing is that if you want to do something badly enough, you will find a way to organise your life to make it happen.

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  22. Sarah christie

    its great to see how others juggle it, and lovely that you make weekends family time, its difficult to get the balance and as a new blogger I am juggling my blog and work so do have to commit evenings and some time at the weekend, but do still manage family time, it is such a juggling act at the moment, but i am seeing it as an investment of time x

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    • honestmum

      It really is a juggling act and we all need to do what we can to make things work. Well done for making it work for you darling, let me know if you need any advice, I remember starting out myself x

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  23. Tania @ Larger Family Life

    I often hear the same about juggling a business, home ed, studying for a degree and a large family, but the crux is ‘you just gotta do what you gotta do’.

    Perhaps it’s a Greek thing that we like to keep busy – I often say I’m thaasophobic – but you’re very lucky to have the support network of your family.

    I did write something similar quite a while back titled ‘Why Supermum Doesn’t Live Here’ at http://www.largerfamilylife.com/2012/02/24/why-supermum-doesnt-live-here/ (feel free to remove the link from the comment if you like!)

    Thank you for sharing your juggling act.

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  24. Emma T

    You’re right on how important it is to have the support around. My mum died a year+ ago and she was my go to. Thankfully on the farm and within 2 miles is my brother (at a push!), plus mother in law and 2 sister in laws if things get really hectic. Unfortunately my OH’s not like yours, he doesn’t get blogging, doesn’t really input much into day to day things because he works on the farm 7 days a week, although N can spend the day on the farm with him, it does make going out for the day more realistic.

    I think people do think they can do it all but don’t realise the support and help it takes to finely balance everything so people don’t feel put upon, or over worked.

    It’s great that you’ve managed to get it the way it works for your family.

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    • honestmum

      Oh Emma I am so, so sorry about your Mum. I can imagine blogging can be hard for most to get their head round but I’m sure he’s so proud of your brilliant blog.

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  25. Brighton Mama @ Our Seaside Baby

    Aww, great read and so interesting to hear how you juggle everything. You are so lucky to have such great support – can I borrow your family for a few weeks? 😉 I’m so impressed that you have built up your blogging business, are so involved with different brands and still manage to find the time to reply to posts & tweets as well as having much needed family time. Enjoy the ride! Always enjoy reading your posts & more than anything your positive outlook xx

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    • honestmum

      Aw thanks very much, I do need to start hiring out my folks don’t I! Thanks for you kind words, I too try on and off line to be as positive as possible xx

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  26. Jenni - Odd Socks and Lollipops

    Fantastic post! It’s great to read about the behind the scenes, so thanks for sharing!
    I think it’s amazing that you have such an amazing support network and that they can help you achieve so much.
    Sounds like you have a fantastic happy life which your whole family enjoys, what more can you ask for in life =)

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  27. Suzanne

    I love to read behind the bloggers and what makes it all work for them. I feel like I’m failing at everything most of the time! The truth is, we are not superwomen and need to admit that. Thank you for sharing that you have help. We often don’t see that side of people and it’s so important to know the realities of life that everyone goes through. You clearly LOVE what you do and have managed to find a way to work it for you. I admire that.

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    • honestmum

      Thanks Suzanne, don’t be hard on yourself, this juggle is tough-going and I get days where I feel I’m failing at everything too. I wanted to shed light on what it takes to run a business with a young family so others realise as you say, no of us are superwomen x

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  28. Kat | Beau Twins

    What a beautiful and honest post hun. Essentially you are a super kind of woman really as you make it all happen. Your family clearly love you very much and want you to be a success. It’s so wonderful the love you all have for each other. My family are all really close too but both my parents work so I’m alone until the weekend. Juggling time is super hard work without preschool, nursery or baby sitters. Huge respect for the life you’ve made darling, you deserve it and we love reading about it. Huge hugs. Can’t wait to meet you at Britmums. Xxx

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    • honestmum

      Thanks darling, I work hard, love writing but I couldn’t do it without my support network. So tough when you don’t have help, I’ve been there so relate. You be kind to yourself OK, you have a brilliant blog and a young family and are the sweetest person, I can’t wait to meet you at BML too xx

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  29. Wave to Mummy

    Really interesting insight! It is brilliant that you have the help you need from your parents and your husband – makes it possible for you to concentrate on what you need to do to make blogging a success. And sometimes you gotta spend money to make money, so hiring help is necessary if you really want to take it to the next level. Great post 🙂

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    • Honest Mum

      Thanks very much, yes, very lucky to have amazing support and definitely been vital to expand the team over this last year first with Amee then recently with Hayley.

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  30. Mama and More aka Zaz

    Vicki, you have boundless energy and enthusiasm, and this, along with your sheer talent makes you a bit of a Superwoman! You are right though, it does take a team to make it happen, and you are incredibly lucky to have your wonderful family around you – although I know you give back to them as much as they give to you. I have to say having met them, your parents’ warmth and determination comes through in you too. You do write with ahem superwomanly speed however, so I think you may have let some of your powers slip out! Great that you’ve got a PA now, I find that finding time with only 2 hours spare a day to get everything including blogging, life, yoga, housework etc done is proving tough, so something has to give! Lovely of you to share this, as always, you are so generous-spirited xxx

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    • honestmum

      Oh Zaz, thank you darling for your touching comment, my folks have passed on their hard working ethos to me I’m sure (my Dad is the most tenacious man I know, his passion and energy is boundless) and I admire him and my mother so much for what they have achieved and any adversity they’ve overcome. Aw they are warm aren’t they, so glad you think I am too, I believe I am but lovely to have that reaffirmed. I feel the same way about you too hun. You are so big hearted and so wise too, I feel lucky to have you in my life.

      2 hours isn’t heaps of time so you have to work out each day what needs to take priority and be kind to you. It isn’t about how much you blog though that matters, some of the biggest bloggers in the world only blog once a week, and we must each must find a way that works for us and our situations-and most importantly what makes us feel happy and is manageable. I really wanted to share the mechanics behind my blog so others realise what my life involves and that without my support network, I quite simply couldn’t work as I do. I think the more honest the dialogue, the better we all feel about ourselves. Thanks again for your lovely words xx

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  31. mummyofboygirltwins

    Wow, you have got a fab team!! Your family are amazing 🙂 However, you still are pretty special at doing it all too. It’s so hard just doing one post a day and then keeping on top of emails and social media is a struggle. Hats off to you – you work very, very hard!! Jess x

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    • honestmum

      I do darling thank you and thanks for your lovely comment, I work hard and love what I do but I don’t take anything for granted. It’s thanks to you all that I get to do what I do so thanks for reading and supporting, I really, really appreciate it xx

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    • honestmum

      But that’s amazing, I just often have to so as to post my paid posts along with the non sponsored and generally just meeting all the deadlines and features that I run x

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  32. Juliet McG

    There are too many people in this world pretending to be superwoman and appearing to be doing it all themselves. It makes others feel inadequate. How refreshing to have someone explain how they really work it and give credit to the whole team. Something to celebrate. What a team they are and thank you for sharing! I too would struggle without my wonderful support crew. X

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    • honestmum

      Thanks so much, this is exactly why I wanted to write this, to show what exactly goes into making my work life, work. We are lucky to have the support crew we do aren’t we?! x

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  33. Renee @ Mummy Tries

    Another fabulously inspirational post Vicki. You have an amazing team of helpers but are clearly so thankful for them and humble about what you do, that’s what makes you so special and will always set you apart from the crowd. You deserve it all, can’t wait to see what 2015 has in store for you lady xxx

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  34. EmmaK

    Kudos to you for making it all work and talking about all the lovely people who make it happen. Even so you must be very well organized to keep all the gluten free dough balls in the air 😉

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  35. brummymummyof2

    Fascinating! I LOVE insights into other peoples lives. It’s amazing how you have turned your blogging into a job. You manage to do something you love as well as be with your kiddies. That’s how I feel about teaching. I am lucky I get to work part time doing something I really enjoy but still spend time with the little ones. Fab post! x

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    • honestmum

      Thanks very much lovely, teaching is incredible, all the holidays you get are amazing and part time is even better. I have always taught myself, the last few years at unis but sixth forms after uni, so rewarding. Glad you enjoyed the post x

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  36. Sophie Lovett

    I love how your passion for what you do comes across so strongly in your writing – it’s an inspiring reminder that when we love what we do the sky really is the limit! I know I’m soon going to have to tackle the tricky business of childcare if I’m going to continue writing as much as I am at the moment – juggling the blog and the novels is ok whilst Arthur still has decent naps, but now he’s two I know that won’t go on forever! I just need to hurry up and sell one of my novels really so I can be justified in thinking of it as a job 🙂 I love that I’ve been able to be around for Arthur rather than returning to teaching, but I don’t think I would have coped without the creative outlet that writing has given me. Next step is working out how to make it into a bonafide second career… xx

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    • honestmum

      Thanks so much Sophie, totally agree with you and whether the novel is bought/published, you are a writer. Perhaps consider making your blog a paid outlet too which can help support your career as a novelist. Above all I really have found that kids have spurred on my creativity and drive, through limitations in time, energy etc can come great things, keep going, talent always prevails x

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  37. Katy (What Katy Said)

    Organisation and parents are most definitely the answer aren’t they? You do make it look easy but you are so right, it is the team (family) that holds everything together. Where would we be without them eh?
    I have one question though, you often say you run your blog like a mag, have you ever written a post about this? I think I know what you mean but am never too sure lol xx

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    • honestmum

      Hi Katy, thanks for your words, I used to edit a magazine and in my own case I mean as in I go live several times a day, run series, regular features, run native advertising along with sidebar ads. All blogs are magazines really, we are the editors so our posts reflect our voices and we each have a house style, the brands we want to be associated with, the content we feel passionate to write. Hope that makes sense xx

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      • Cardiff Mummy Says

        I hope you don’t mind me jumping into this conversation but it’s really interesting to hear you talk about running your blog like a magazine. I’m a journalist and former-editor too and am trying to approach my blog in the same way I have any other publication I have worked on. I’m limited in terms of the time I have to work on it right now, with three young children and childcare being so expensive (I need a Beverly in my life!!) but certainly that’s what my aspirations are. I love that you have been able to make a living from doing something you evidently love doing, and it’s fantastic that you can combine it so well with family life. I’ve only been blogging for seven months, and slowly going pro, but it’s so inspiring to see that it can be done. Keep up the wonderful work x

      • honestmum

        What a lovely comment, thanks so much, I’ve blogged a lot on blogging tips and my pro blogging career if you fancy a look-it’s under the Blogging Tips Category. Blogging is exploding and it’s the best time to make a career from an online blog. Off to check out your blog now x

      • Cardiff Mummy Says

        I’ve seen some of the blogging tips posts you’ve written and they are all so appreciated. I’m still learning a lot and finding my way, but I am having great fun with it. You are right that blogging is exploding – it’s fascinating to see the crossover with journalism. x

      • honestmum

        Really is, isn’t it and so pleased you found the blogging tips useful, please give me a shout if you need anything x

  38. Potty Mouthed Mummy

    I LOVE that you wrote this. It’s actually amazing to see how you juggle everything and be honest about it all. So refreshing and as ever, my lovely, inspirational! You are very blessed to have that lovely support network, I feel similarly about my mum xx

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    • honestmum

      Thanks darling, just hope it helps people realise how much help I have, your comment has really touched me gorgeous, thank you xx

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  39. JoyandPops

    Thank you for this lovely, honest post!
    In a bizarre coincidence I wrote a post this week asking other parent bloggers for advice on how they find time for blogging! this offers a great perspective so thanks for sharing!
    Xx

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  40. Ebabee

    I don’t believe you – you ARE superwoman. Next time I see you I’m going to look behind that mask 🙂 Ha, ha… but you do have an incredible talent of making it all look super easy and that’s why you give off Superwoman vibes. And as always, I love your honesty on here and that you share so much of what you do it and how. I always look forward to seeing what’s next with you xx

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    • honestmum

      Oh Nomita thanks so, so much for your kind words, feel the same way about you, having women like you for inspiration and real friendships really make for feeling strong don’t they. Hope to see you soon xx

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  41. Fiona @ Free Range Chick

    So basically you are Superwoman then. I jest. You do a great job of it, and if only I could be as organised as you in scheduling anything! It is very interesting to read about how you juggle it all. You’re probably a lot quicker at writing than me, which is crucial to getting those posts written. Despite your speed, I enjoy your posts so much, and this is coming from a fussy reader. So there! Good on you honey – you are a blogging force! xx

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    • honestmum

      Oh wow that means so much me Fiona, thank you, you know how much I love your blog and vlogs too, isn’t this internet malarcky wonderful, you can find work that resonates and friendship too. Thanks for all your support and being you, you rock xx

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      • Fiona @ Free Range Chick

        You know, that really means a heck of a lot to me too, because I respect what you’re doing so much. It is a wonderful little (or big for some Super people) world. I just read a quote from another blogger saying that blogging is more of a lifestyle choice than a hobby. I loved that – such a perfect way to describe it. Actually, I’ll give her props and put her link in here too: http://www.lifemotherhoodhappinessonline.com/2015/02/the-truth-about-mommy-blogging-part-2.html

        I never would have thought that you could make friends in this medium, but I was wrong, and you totally can. My support is a pleasure – love your blog Vicki xx

        (There, that was a pretty serious comment devoid of jokes – I CAN do it!)

      • honestmum

        Thanks darling, what a fab quote, for me it’s a full time career so not a hobby but it’s wonderful to take something I love and feel passionate about and make it a job. I suppose I’ve always done that with my filmmaking and screenwriting work too. The amazing thing is blogging is there for the taking for us all. I’ve made some of my closest friends thanks to blogging, it’s been the best part of it all and of course giving my kids experiences they’ll hopefully treasure x

  42. Babes about Town

    Love how frank and open you are about your approach to everything as always Vicki. I must admit as much as I know you’d never wear lycra, I have pictured you soaring past in a cape on many a night 😉 You ARE a superwoman but not in that unrealistic ‘have it all’ way but because you are constantly striving for better, you have crazy prolific creativity shooting out from all directions (ka-zam) and you are genuinely blogging for the greater good of all bloggers/creatives. I also say you remind me of my bro because he has a natural talent for social media — he was doing it before it was invented and I reckon you’re the same way which is why you’re seemingly able to be everywhere at once and make it look dead easy! It’s a real skill but it’s also just who you are, and you’re right it’s not for everybody. We all work with what we have and it’s always inspiring to see that no matter how you approach being a parent blogger, there are so many ways to make a success of it. I think it’s brilliant how you’ve turned blogging into a true family business. Keep shining lovely. Oh and exciting to hear you’ve hired a PA, makes such sense, boy do I need one – some day eh! x

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    • honestmum

      Uju you always make me want to cry, I need to meet your brother and remember you saying how similar we are. I love the whole social media PR angle as much as the writing, it’s in me from my indie filmmaking days and as you know, I love blogging and this is what works for me personally. PA really is making my life easier and one day the dream is to expand with a whole team. I love working with you lady and we need to brainstorm with the others too about new ways to collaborate. I feel lucky to have you guys in my life x

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  43. AJ Griffiths

    Hi,
    This is a very interesting post. I have wondered at times how you manage it all and why I don’t seem to be able to. Unfortunately, my parents live very far away so no support there.
    You’re certainly very good at juggling all your commitments and it’s great to see how much you love your job. I like the fact that your job and family blend in nicely giving you the best of both worlds.
    I look forward to your future posts!

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    • honestmum

      Thanks so much AJ, it is so tough when family and close friends are far, I rely on them so much. It’s that balancing act isn’t it. I want to have quality time with my kids and do a job I love. Thanks for your lovely words.

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  44. John Adams

    Great insight in to how you balance everything Vicki. My approach is to ignore housework until I can take no more! As it happens, I called got a “superdad” the other day. To be honest, I didn’t feel too comfortable with the moniker but I guess it’s better than the opposite!

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    • honestmum

      All this super in front of words, which I’m guilty of myself can just add pressure really, hoping this honest account helps others realise I’m only as strong as those who support and help me do what I do! Must say all this ‘super’ is making me miss Super Gran-remember her?!

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