Vicki-Honest MumYesterday was Thanksgiving for my US and Canadian friends and I’m proud to write that a large part of my readership are now actually based in America. I’ve always had an affinity with Americans, my closest friends at Uni were from LA, New York and Chicago and I miss them all madly (thank goodness for FB and the rare London or LA get together).

I always clicked with the American ethos, that ‘dream big, be nice, American way’ so prevalent in NY and LA.  I spent some time in LA as a filmmaker too and it’s such a productive, exciting city, definitely somewhere I could us all settling perhaps some day…

Anyway, Thanksgiving really got me thinking about everything I’m grateful for, I never stop feeling thankful to be honest, always trying to remember to appreciate the important things in life-good health and happiness for my family and I, and the things that truly matter.

It’s so important to stop even for a minute in the busy lives we lead and take stock of how lucky so many of us really are.

So here’s the TOP 5 things I’m thankful for-would love to read yours too:

1. Good Health

Losing two friends this year was an utter and complete shock and made me fully appreciate that without health, we have nothing.

I’ve radically changed my own diet and my family’s too (aiding allergies), bidding goodbye to wheat, cow’s dairy and filling our diet with even more fish, pulses, oats, seasonal fruit, vegetables and lots of dark chocolate of course with the odd treat too for good measure.

We all feel better than ever and I’ve never slept so well (despite the interruptions from a teething toddler)!

2. Family

My beautiful boys, Oliver and Alexander and my husband Peter, are the centre of my life.

I’m so thankful too, to my folks and caring brother, ‘Uncle Solos’ whom I’m so close with and glad we all live close to one another at just 15 minutes away in the car!

I had Oliver in London and moved back to Leeds when he was 12 months old and there’s nothing like the emotional and physical support my family provide.

I appreciate my own parents so much more now I’m a mother myself.

…Seeing the boys’ strong bond with their grandparents too is so special and I only wish Peter’s parents weren’t so far away in South Africa.

… I must add that without my parents helping with childcare too, I simply couldn’t have the career or lead lifestyle that we do. Alexander isn’t at nursery yet and my Mum is my Nanny. My Dad runs 4 restaurants yet still found the time yesterday to drive me to Bolton for a Press Day.

I truly realise how lucky I am to have them in my life.

Thanks Mum and Dad (my most loyal readers, well Mum is anyway, Dad likes to pick at typos and seems to divert to the Arsenal website most days-Daaad)!

Huge thank you also to Peter, my husband and best friend for all his love and support and of course for all the stunning photographs he tirelessly takes and never complains about, for my two blogs. What a guy!

3. A Job I Love

It’s always been important to me to do a job I’m truly passionate about.  As a busy filmmaker pre-kids, I never thought I’d ever change careers but now can’t imagine not being a blogger. I love directing but it just doesn’t work around my young family and this here does and it stimulates and rewards me as much as directing, did.

I’ve been a full time professional blogger over the last few years and Honest Mum along with my style blog, really is a dream job, I get to write every single day, all day, I’m my own editor so I’m in control of the content and I work with brands and clients I value and respect.

I can work around my children and despite the fact that being my own boss can be stressful (especially when deadlines pile up) I’m still be there for my kids and am not missing out. I really couldn’t ask for more.

4. The Best of Both Worlds

I love the city but live just outside Leeds overlooking the open countryside and find getting out for fresh air, surrounded by tress in pretty Yorkshire, delights and revives us all.  I’m in London a fair bit with work too for my Big Smoke fix but I adore how cosmopolitan Leeds is, with Manchester close by too, so really have the best of both worlds here. I’m one lucky lady.

5. Great Friends

Last but not least, I am indebted to my network of amazing friends, some mates I’ve known all my life, other new, great friendships via Twitter and blogging that mean the absolute world to me. Strong women (and men) who rock my online and offline world!

Bonus Point

6. Me.

Bit weird but I’m going to be kind to myself, this is a case in point so I thought I’d state I’m pretty proud of who I am and constantly becoming, as life experience and new friendships help me to evolve.

Realising that we are but humans and can mess up, it’s important to say sorry but also to forgive ourselves our imperfections and forgive others. Grudges serve no purpose. Always try and empathise with other and be mindful but if you really don’t get on with someone or like how you’ve been treated, move on, life is short, fill it with people that make it a pleasure!

I always want to be the best version of myself (granted PMT week can be tough-going) but I fully realise I’m not a superwoman and am simply just trying my best in all areas of my life. Failure is A-OK and it matters, it provides an opportunity to learn and keep learning. Always.

I also try and combat guilt, not letting it in, that most pointless of emotions, and accept it’s OK to be who exactly who I am, to not apologise or try to change myself to fit others’ expectations (although I’m always trying to grow and improve) and to accept that as I don’t always ‘get’ others, not everyone will ‘get’ me either and that’s fine.

I’m just me and I’m happy in my own skin.

Wow it’s taken me to age 34 to truly get here and let me tell you, it feels fabulous, it really does!

So tell me, what are you thankful for?!


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27 Responses

  1. hannah Mums' Days

    I love this post Vicki, so touching and rings true for me in so many ways. I’ve been trying to spend time every day thinking about what I am grateful for and it’s making a real difference to how I look at life. Everything you say here pops into my mind but not quite as clearly. I think I should write it down to help prompt me – being close to family, my husband and our lovely children, good health, a great job and freedom, my home, our lives – when you add it up it really is so hard not to feel happy! I get a bit choked up if I’m honest! Such good fortune and reminds me to think of (and help) those who don’t have as much.

    Thank you for linking up this special post to #TheList and sorry it’s taken until now to get here xxx much love xxx

    • honestmum

      Oh darling, you are so right, so, so much to be thankful for, thanks for your touching words-helping others is so important too, mwah xx

  2. Katie / Pouting In Heels

    Yes, yes, YES! Gorgeous post. We all have so much to be thankful for in our lives and you’re right as long as we have our family, friends and health, we will always be incredibly ‘rich’. Love you darling XXX

  3. Lottie Lomas

    Great idea – I’ve been a bit blue recently and your post has given me the positive jolt that I need! I’m thankful for my kids, my health, my friends and a roof over my head. Oh yes, and also Child Tax Credit – thank you Mr Cameron!

  4. Amyd

    Really lovely post! Such a good idea to take a moment to take stock of our lives and focus on the positives. The diet change sounds like something to look into too! x

  5. Franki ~ Little Luca & Me

    Gorgeous post Vicki. It’s so important to reflect on the things in our life that we have to be thankful for as there is usually more than we realise and people worse off than us. I too am most thankful for my family, home, job and friends. Xx

  6. Susan Mann

    Lovely post and happy thanksgiving. I love this post, but don’t feel quite so good about myself. Lovely to hear you’re good xx

  7. Mama and More! aka Zaz

    Family is so crucial to our happiness, and it is inspiring that you have made your work fit for you, and created an incredibly success from it – happy to be part of your world lovely lady! You inspired me to post a thankful post too, have tagged you! xxx

    • honestmum

      That means a lot darling, thank you. Family is everything. Our purpose. I’ve been practising being a lot kinder to myself lately=-0 and it helps. All I can do is try my best but the most important thing is feeling happy and content and I do. I’m lucky to have you in my life too lovely x

  8. Jules

    Mine is my baby boy. Never imagined I’d get the chance to be a mum. Second is my husband and how lucky I am that he’s turned out to be such a loving dad. Third is my health after a scare this year, I am glad to be here. Love your list. Your right be do all need to take a moment to take stock sometimes

  9. Laura Evelyn Bee

    Lovely post and I like that your point 6 was to be thankful for yourself! Something we all overlook I think, and some very great life advice right there! Thank you!

    • honestmum

      Oh thanks so much Laura, you are right, we’re never kind enough to ourselves but it’s so important, thanks for your lovely words x

  10. vanessa MissPocketMoney

    What a beautiful, heartfelt blog, thank you. I can absolutely identify with so many similar things. Reading it made me realise how much I have to be grateful for, I too am such a lucky person. Too often we forget to look at what we really have. Thank you for making me smile both inward and outwards after a long, very busy week.

    • honestmum

      Oh Vanessa, that means a lot to me, I know how you feel, this week has felt long, loved working with you though the other day, lucky to have clients like you I value so much! Thanks for your lovely words, you make sure you are kind to yourself you remarkable lady x

  11. Leigh - Headspace Perspective

    Such a beautiful post, Vicki. It really is so important to find things to be thankful for every day, no matter how difficult it seems (that’s me this year, anyway). The things you have selected that you are thankful for are the simplest things in life – health, family, doing something you love, friends, and being kind to yourself – and of the greatest value xxx

    • honestmum

      Thanks so much Leigh, you are so strong and I admire you so much. We must be kind to ourselves, sending you love as always and I really hope 2015 is the year I meet and hug you xx

  12. Natalie Ray

    Ah that’s a lovely post, so good to stop and take stock sometimes and realise how lucky we are. I am thankful for managing to work from home so I can spend all day every day with my children, fabulous isn’t it?x

    • honestmum

      Wonderful you work from home too, my Mum either comes to my house or I drop Alexander at hers but love how flexible my career is so I can spend more time with my kids than I would have done directing on set far away x


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