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It was my birthday yesterday-whoop, whoop, whoop (insert all the cake, balloons and champagne emojis) and I’m now 36!!

Don’t laugh but I thought I was actually 37 this year and had to Google my age. You know you’re getting old when you have to Google how old you are, hey?!

Well, did you know there’s a calculator online where you insert the year you were born and it tells you how old you are? So that’s the first thing I’ve learnt aged 36: that I’m not 37. I’m such a dingbat!

So that was a bonus point of the lessons I’ve learned up to date (you’re welcome #rubbishpoint #moveon), the other 10 are below! They’re short but sweet people because with age comes a shorter attention span and a busier life. Am I right or am I right?!

Thanks for all your love, birthday wishes and support yesterday on my birthday and every day you darlings. You made this (birthday) girl feel so very special. I spent the day with my best friend Rebecca before celebrating with my husband and family in the evening. My house is filled with flowers and my heart is full of love!

birthday flowers

With my gorgeous girl, Rebecca!


The 10 Things I’ve Learnt Aged 36 


Photo by Brooke Lark on Unsplash

  1. Always be yourself. Be true to you. Being genuine is everything. People IRL and online can sniff a fake out in no time so don’t put on an act, show people who you are. Not everyone will love you, naturally, but that’s OK, that’s life. Those who do, will know the real you and that’s what counts. Don’t change to fit a mould, lead by example and LOVE yourself. It’s the greatest gift a girl or guy could have. Once you do, others will too.
  2. Take time out. My work life is in the best shape yet (thanks to my amazing manager Neil at Insanity) and now I have a schedule which truly makes sense to me. Taking time out for my husband, friends and family makes me work harder when I’m grafting. You have to actually LIVE your life to WRITE about your life. Time out replenishes and also revives and inspires.
  3. Don’t be scared to say ‘yes’. Push yourself out of your comfort zone and go forth and flourish. Pick yourself up after you make mistakes, learn from them and come back stronger and more kick-ass than before. Grab new opportunities with both hands and make a conscious effort to try the things you’re most scared of. If you don’t keep testing and trying things out, you’ll never discover what makes you happy, because interests and loves are fluid.
  4. Cut the negativity out. Get ruthless with your life because you only have one to lead. Step away from negative energy and always trust your gut. I often do a social media spring clean. It’s usually nothing personal, I just streamline who I follow so I can focus on those I have a meaningful connection with. Do the same offline too. Focus on who matters.
  5. Be kind. Yes I’ve just told you to be ruthless with your life but that in turn means showing kindness to yourself. Treat others how you wish to be treated. Keep that head held high.
  6. Don’t judge. No one knows what others are going through or the battles they might be facing day-to-day. Try not to judge and instead keep open-minded where you can. Give hugs and love freely, you don’t know how your words might influence and affect others.
  7. Dance daily. Whether it’s dancing at the steering wheel parked up or getting your Beyoncé on before bedtime, a life with dance in it, is one worth living.
  8. Most problems can be solved with tea and cake. Or at least made infinitely better.
  9. Know your creativity has no bounds, you can be, do and create whatever you dream up.
  10. Trust the timing of your life. As Steve Jobs said, ‘You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future’. Believe me, the dots all connect, no experience nor adversity overcome, is ever wasted, everything informs the future: your story. Simply, make them count.

I’d love to know what you’ve learnt too, in your years on this great planet earth.

Now I’m off to take my own advice and enjoy a cup of black rose tea with a chunk of my blogiversary cake.

Happy Birthday to me!

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38 Responses

  1. Notmyyearoff

    Hope you had a really fabulous birthday :)My husband thought he was 38 this year (he’s 37!) and had actually told a whole bunch of people so had to go untell them! I love the one about cutting negative energy out. I’ve done SO much of this over the last year and it makes a huge huge huge difference! Can’t wait to read your new book!!

  2. Liz

    I am a big believer in cake as a solution to life’s problems. Also, love the last tip. This is something I struggle with, but it is improving. #brilliantblogposts

  3. Yvadney @ Style After Nine

    Belated happy birthday. I turn 36 next May, so many of my school mates are turning 36 now. (Yey school year twins). I love your list, there is something to be said for older and wiser. I’m not loving some of the lines etc, but the joy for life and carefree attitude is so much stronger now, as I realise ‘why not?’ Thanks for hosting! Yvadney x #BrilliantBlogPost

  4. Lianne harris

    Two years back I spent most of the year thinking I was 28, when I was actually 27. So you aren’t the only one!
    I completely agree with your point about dancing daily. Every morning I wake up and get ben from the crib, whilst dressing for the day I dance to entertain him and then when we dress him I get him to dance and this past week he’s started doing that wobble babies do as a dance and it is the cutest. (He is obsessed with Little Mix which is completely my doing!!)
    Happy belated birthday ? ?#brillblogposts

  5. Clair

    Happy belated birthday.
    I WAS 37 on the 16th November. I grew up not knowing anyone born on my birthday but during this past year I’ve learnt of at least 4 other people to celebrate the same day.
    I also blogged about it (heelstohorses.com). I’ve only been blogging for half a year so not as brilliant with content as you but more of a reflection on life in general. Scary to think where time is going quickly.
    Have a lovely weekend. X

  6. Kim Carberry

    hahaha! I had to Google my age earlier this week….My dad said I was 37 next week I was determined that I was coming up 36. Oops. My dad was right. lol
    It looks and sounds like you had a wonderful day!
    Fantastic life lessons. You are so wise x

  7. Kat

    Yes dance daily! I love that. I completely agree about being true and real. I feel like I’ve not been as true to myself lately as I should be and I’m making some changes there. I agree that you should say yes to thing to, challenge yourself and step out of your comfort zone but also don’t be afraid to say no if it’s just going to burn you out. #brillblogposts

  8. Lucy At Home

    Happy birthday! What a great list of life lessons. I think the ones about not judging and cutting out negativity are really important – when you carry around negative, judgemental thoughts with you, it sours your days and your experiences. Positive attitude all the way! #BrillBlogPosts

  9. themotherhub.ie

    I forget how old I am now as well. What has become of me?? Happy, happy birthday. Great advice as ever – I like the part about saying yes, keep on pushing ! I cant do dancing, by the way, but I can do tea and cake! #brillblogposts

  10. five little doves

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! I am also 36 and I think I am still learning a lot of these things. Number four really resonated with me, I am going through a difficult time at the moment wondering whether I am surrounded by the right people, and I think just the fact I am questioning that tells me the answer right there in itself. I’m not very good at being ruthless but I will give it a try, being a grown up is hard work isn’t it? I hope you have a wonderful day. #BrilliantBlogPost

    • Honest Mum

      Oh darling, 100% being a grown up is tough but once you streamline your life, fill it with those you are certain of, I promise you everything becomes better xx

  11. Eb Gargano / easypeasyfoodie.com

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!! Love this post 🙂 I especially like #3 Don’t be scared to say ‘yes’ – I have done a whole heap of things recently that have massively pushed me out of my comfort zone…and the thing I have learnt is, yes they are scary before you do them…but actually not half so scary when you are actually doing them, and it makes you feel on top of they world and a more confident, positive and creative person afterwards. Sounds like your last year has been an amazing year. I wish you an even better one this year…Xx

    • Honest Mum

      Thank you darling, so glad to hear, it’s so rewarding to push yourself out of the comfort zone. Well done on everything. Thank you darling, it’s been such a fab year xx

  12. Jackie

    Such great advice. I especially like the bits about cutting out the negativity and dancing every day 🙂 When my 20 month old dances her heart our to Shakira my soul literally sings xxx #brilliantblogposts

  13. Jackie

    Such great advice. I love the bit about cutting out the negativity and dancing every day 🙂 I couldn’t agree more and when my little 20 month old dances her heart out to Shakira my soul literally sings 🙂 xx #brilliantblogposts

  14. Alison (MadHouseMum)

    A fellow Scorpio…how did I guess?! Happy Birthday for yesterday. I have 10 years on you and yet all your points ring true. I’m not sure that I would have been able to put them so succinctly at 36, but at 46 (tomorrow) I feel a lot more empowered to understand and articulate them. A fantastic post – one of those lists that should be cut out and stuck on the fridge 🙂 Alison x #brilliantblogposts

    • Honest Mum

      Oh I knew it, all the best people are Scorpios! Happy birthday for tomorrow you amazing lady, so glad you enjoyed my list. Please write one too, I would love to read it, I adore your blog, one of my absolute favourites x

  15. Lindsay

    Love this, especially the advice about connecting the dots. Some of the best advice I’ve heard was that you don’t have to see the whole of the road ahead, just up until the next corner. Then, when you get round that corner, you just need to see to the next bend in the road. And so on. Thanks for the great words, really inspiring #brillblogposts

  16. Chilli Regina

    Happy birthday to both of us!;) I was 36 too, and also did a post on it (Journey)! You may say that wisdom comes naturally when you go beyond 35;)))

    • Honest Mum

      Oh wow, are we birthday sisters, will have to read your post, I did one last year too and a video too. I shot a vlog yesterday. Can’t wait to read your post xx


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