5 Ways to Face Your Fears & Do It Anyway by professional blogger and vlogger Honest Mum

So today I popped over to one of my all-time favourite blogs, The Joy Chaser, written by my good pal Michelle, who never fails to inspire and spread joy through her words and this post of her’s HERE stopped me in my tracks and reminded me of the importance of fighting our fears.

Michelle, 25 years after an accident on a horse, decided recently she would ride again. Scared but determined, she did it and what’s more she enjoyed it.

So inspiring.

It reminded me of being on a family holiday to Spain last year where I drove on the opposite side of the road for the very first time. The odds were much less but the fear was quite something.

Literally shaking, that first journey on the road was pretty nerve wracking ( I cried once I arrived back to our villa after dual carriageways and too many roundabouts to count, 20 minutes away)-but by the end of the holiday I’d fallen into the Spanish way of life, I felt relaxed and control behind the wheel and my fears seemed a distant memory.

Facing your fear is liberating, it makes you feel independent, capable-and importantly, it’s where growth happens.

stop being afraid

I love this quote by my great friend and business partner Jessica Huie MBE of JHPR:

‘In order to be successful, you have to make yourself vulnerable. If you aren’t feeling uncomfortable or stretched then you are playing in the safe zone…

Whenever I have felt I don’t belong, I’m not good enough, or incapable, if I’ve jumped then, magic has happened. I don’t think that success lies beyond our safe zone, I know it to be true’.

This counts for success in all areas of life.

life begins at the end of your comfort zone

I know I want to feel pushed, stimulated, nourished and ALIVE.

I have compiled 5 ways to face your fears and do it anyway.

We can’t eradicate fear but we can help prevent from controlling and stopping us.

courage

1.Understand that fear is natural. We’re all scared of something/lots of things/ following our dreams/not following them (insert a million other variables) but it’s part of being human. Accept this but don’t let fear control you. Write a list of your fears and get rational on yourself. Ask yourself if these worries will matter 1 year from now? Even a week? Are you worrying that ‘everyone will think this about me’ when you really mean, will that one negative person you need to distance yourself from, think this or that.

Often we worry so much what others think when in reality most are far more worried about their own lives to care, and those directing negative energy towards you, are simply not worth your time or concern.

Successful, content people trust their gut and surround themselves with those good for them. Not ‘yes’ people, but those who have good intentions and can be honest with you. Today I spoke to one of my oldest, closest friends about something that had happened the other day. I knew I was in the wrong in the way I reacted to something and I knew I could count on her to be honest with me and help me find a way to solve the issue.

cut negative people out

2. To focus on the truthful relationships that make you feel good, please cut the negativity out. In order to be positive, you must put positive energy out into the world (stop complaining and watch how easier life gets and lighter you feel) and get ruthless on cutting ties with those not good for you: draining relationships, passive aggressive folks, faux friends- and situations which make you feel stressed.

By doing so, you will focus on the positive people who lift you up, and help you feel fearless and strong.

3. Write a list of goals.

writing goals

There is nothing which gives me greater clarity than a clear list (I like to write it pen on paper) in black and white, of what I hope to achieve: big, small, crazy to some, get that list of dreams out there and into the universe (I like to tell the universe my wishes, usually when I’m driving, solo so I look less of a nutter). Once you’ve got those goals off your chest, start with a plan of action and baby steps towards making your dreams a reality. Believe you can and will achieve. You deserve it baby!

‘I’ll see it when I believe it’.

Damn right!

I'll see it when I believe it

4. Become a little bit braver. Write another list of what scares you and be honest with yourself. There might well be crossover from your dream list-dreaming big is s**** scary but work towards ticking off the fear-list too.

For me it would be everything from a simple fairground ride (I’m scared of a slow-moving carousel-really) to developing new businesses I’ve dreamed of for a long time.

Be determined to do what you love even if that means juggling a job you’re not in love with to pay the bills, while you work towards your dream career in downtime, until it becomes a reality. Be kind (to yourself too) and keep pushing on. Striving.

be brave

5. Reach out. You don’t have to do this solo.

Ask for support. Reach out to those you trust and admire. Know success so often comes from collaboration. Create a team. Help others. When great minds merge and creatives collaborate, amazing things happen.

Lift one another up. Know there is room for all, and together you can build new bridges, break new ground and importantly, have the most fun when working (and playing) with others!

when good people come together...amazing things happen

Anything is possible and it all starts with accepting the fear is REAL but doing it anyway.

Everyone is scared, the difference between those who achieve and thrive from those who don’t, is the former go out there, with a deep breath, an air of confidence (even if they are feigning it) and getting the job done- until it feels like the most natural thing in the world and the fear is conquered.

What you waiting for?! Get out there!

Thanks to Pinterest re most of the ‘wise words’ images above!

 

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20 Responses

  1. Franglaise Mummy

    Love, love, love this! These are pretty much my mantras for every day living. I certainly wouldn’t be where I am today if I’d let fear stand in my way! I read Feel the fear and do it anyway as we moved from France back to the UK, where we were living with my parents and had no jobs with our 3 year old daughter. Talk about fear!!! Fab blog post lovely 🙂 xx

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  2. Monica Gilbert

    Love these all. It’s so easy to be paralyzed by fear. Thank you for the motivation not to.

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  3. Sarah Bacchus

    I recently came across Michelle’s blog and felt so uplifted by it – life recently has had its challenges and it is positivity and having the right people around that have helped me to maintain an even keel (just about). This year I am determined to achieve some personal and professional goals and will be setting my steps to achieve this into a realistic plan this week. Thanks for another great post x

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  4. Alice @ The Filling Glass

    Whilst the rational me nods along and says ‘I know’ to all of what you write, the emotional me curls into a ball and says ‘I can’t’. I think it really helps to hear this from someone else, instead of the internal dialogue I have going on. I want to do some new things right now and I need that push; this is definitely a helping hand. Thank you. Xx

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  5. Mirka Moore @Fitness4Mamas

    Lovely post darling, some great tips and great to see you mentioning ‘please cut the negativity out’ in your tip number two. Love you and here to support 24/7 xxx hope we can catch up tomorrow xxx

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  6. Juliet McGrattan

    Woah, how motivated do we all feel after reading this? The determination and inspiration is palpable. So much good advice. My favourite sayings on this topic are, “If your dreams don’t scare you they aren’t big enough”. My current dream is intermittently terrifying so that has to be good! My other inspirational quote is by five times Iron Woman world champion Chrissie Wellington, ” Your limits are not where you think they are”. If we have dreams (and who doesn’t?) then we need to be brave and just take a deep breath and jump. Thank you xx

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    • Honest Mum

      Love this Juliet, the hairs on my arms are literally on end, thank you for sharing these inspiring words and being an inspiration yourself x

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  7. Ebabee

    Love this post. It is so important to push ourselves beyond our comfort zone even though it seems very hard at times. But when you do it, that feeling is just so great and I think it actually spurs you on to do more and more. Your words are wise and you are a real inspiration – always xx

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    • Honest Mum

      It really does Nomita, so wise, each step has a knock on effect so you keep pushing, growing and achieving. Thank you for always inspiring me darling, very lucky to have you and the girls xx

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  8. Wave to Mummy

    Fab advice as usual 🙂 I find that trying to push past that comfort zone is pretty horrible, but the dividends are always great. Everytime I’ve put my hand up and taken the challenge, yes, I’ve been petrified at times, but it has always ended up with me learning and developing. And yes, even failures do teach you valuable lessons.

    One thing I find helpful to do when I am worried or afraid of doing something is to get some perspective – I think of how vast and huge the universe is, and how little that things really matters in the grand scheme of things and how in 100 years no one will remember it. Makes it seem all of a sudden a lot more achievable and something not to worry about 🙂

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    • Honest Mum

      I absolutely LOVE that, you are so right, thank you for sharing, once we realise how small we are in this big universe, we feel liberated. Thank you, thank you, thank you x

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    • Honest Mum

      Hope it helps darling,CBT really helped me, much love and strength to you, reaching out for help is the first huge step to feeling better x

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  9. Michelle Reeves (The Joy Chaser)

    Oh darling Vicki I completely LOVE this and would echo all your points about not letting fear hold you back. So proud to have inspired you to write this – you inspire me too every day my friend. If I’ve learned anything over my 6 year journey to joy it’s that life is SO short, you just can’t let anything hold you back, stop you from hitting your goals, going for it full steam ahead and pulling together with your warrior women pals to achieve more than you can possibly imagine. *Roar!* xxx

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