writing a book

It’s been a while since I’ve shared an update on writing my book, Mumboss, mostly because I’ve, erm, been writing my book!

For those not aware (where’ve you been, people?) I got a book deal in December 2016 with Piatkus/Little Brown under the giants that are Hachette and my book’s out in March 2018!

As cheeseball as it is to write these next few words, getting the chance to write my debut book really is a DREAM COME TRUE for me. A forever goal, met. Squeal! I’m writing a freaking book amigos!

 

What Mumboss means to me

I adore the term ‘Mumboss’, I feel it define me completely. I find it truly empowering, with neither word diminishing the term as a whole. I’m equally proud of my roles as both a mum and a boss, each infinitely linked to one another.

I started my blog and business because I became a mum and I write about my family on my blog. I wouldn’t have this business if it wasn’t for my kids.

While the blog has evolved into a personal brand and online magazine, at it’s core, it always reflects my life as a mother and tech entrepreneur. There are many Dadbosses out there too of course, men writing and creating careers, inspired by fatherhood. And long may it continue…

 

Three Months On

So, three months on, it’s definitely sunk in that I’m writing a book. I’m knee-deep in the creative and love the focus writing each chapter requires, and how prolific I need to be in order to deliver the book by the summer ( I work at my optimum with a deadline). As with screenwriting,  I relish the development process, working with my dream team, those who share my vision and keep me on track: Jillian my editor, Robyn my literary agent and Neil my manager.

Life is busy, as it is for all us parents, but there’s always a way to make your dreams work, if anything, that’s what parenthood’s taught me. Historically art has always been born from limitations in time, energy and resources and that applies when it comes to motherhood and business. There are never enough hours so you focus your energy and time on what matters.

I’m pretty much living in two cities at the moment, London and Leeds (until we move back down South in the summer), and it’s fair to say I have a crazy-busy schedule so I’m mostly burning the midnight oil when it comes to writing my book.

My favourite time to write is when the house sleeps, it’s allows me that window to think, and plough away without noise or interruption. I usually start at 9 or 10 pm after some escapist TV (hello Celebs Go Dating) and often work until 2, sometimes 4 am.

Yes, I miss sleep, but it’s bl**** worth it and weirdly, I rarely feel tired in the daytime. I think all that ‘sleep training’ my kids gave me as sleep-raiding babies, has meant I’m much more resilient and focused than I was pre-kids.

Those blighters have made me more productive and determined.

Plus, as my former TV Exec would always say, ‘If you want something done, you give it a busy person’.

Yes to that!

 

My Mission

Vitally, what drives me is you guys and my book reflects my mission, on the blog. I’m passionate about helping parents rediscover their confidence, voice, and dream career.

Despite the inequalities of the workforce, my personal solution was Honest Mum, I found a new job in my blog, an accidental career really, which started on maternity leave in November 2010 when I shared my first post.

My blogging and vlogging career that developed since, has now given me the gift of creative and financial freedom in a flexible job with works around my family.

It’s a mother hustling juggle, of course it is, nothing is ever easy but it’s enriching, democratic and liberating. The best thing? Anyone can follow mine and the many other mumbossing women, out there, who want to do it all because of, and often, despite of, the little people in their lives.

I’ve reached out to entrepreneurial friends and collaborators, well known personalities and experts in their fields to also offer insight in the book and it promises to be fuel the fire in your bellies and make you take action.

Simply, I want to help other women, launch. To give them the tools, confidence and business know-how to fearlessly get their art out into the world.

I’m often moved to tears when I receive emails and messages from readers and followers saying they’ve started a blog or e-business because they’ve seen me do it, they’ve followed my journey and are ready.

Many say they felt they bereft of confidence and direction, as I did, after kids but my story of overcoming a traumatic birth, and building a business has given them the impetus to do the same. To buy a domain name and just crack the hell on with it.

It is honestly thanks to those women and to you all, that I’m even writing Mumboss. You lot remind me that my words count and make a difference and keep me trucking on. We are sisters, make that, mothers, holding each other up through life and work (it takes a village, huh?) and that courage and support, is contagious.

Together, we buoy each other up.

 

The Process

..The longest form piece I’ve written was a screenplay for a feature film, two in fact at 90 pages each (approx 1 1/2 hours screen time) and whilst I’ve probably written hundreds, maybe even thousands of posts here in the 6  1/2 years I’ve been blogging, this book at 70,000 words in total or thereabouts, will be the longest non-fiction piece I’ve ever written.

I won’t lie, whilst I was overcome with excitement initially, I also felt rather nervous and worried- that ugly veil of self-doubt fell over me and I started to question whether I had a book in me, if I could really write 70,000 words that would hopefully touch and inspire others.

My husband reminded myself of my own words when I shared my concerns to him, that embarking on anything new and out of my comfort zone would always feel s*** your pants scary, at the start.

I’ve never let that fear stop me before in my work as a filmmaker and lecturer so I promised I wouldn’t now.

So, I just got my head down and wrote, I pushed through the fear and I fought the imposter syndrome head on (it hates productivity).

Getting words on a page is better than none, and writing, is always about the rewriting. My screenwriting career taught me that. You write and polish, write and polish, but you need the words on the screen to work from, the clay to mould if you like.

Plus, fear can often be a sign of how much we want something.

A therapist I saw after Oliver’s difficult birth and more recently to help me deal with an unwell relative, wisely informed me that the mind often confuses excitement for fear.

Yes to that.

Now, having written three chapters, I’m excited. With each chapter at 6,000 words (one of those is currently double the word count so will be cut down), I truly feel I’m in full swing. It’s like learning to ride a bike and now I’m free styling, waiting to enter the championships (when the book’s out)!

That’s all being creative is, really. The formula of fighting the fear, making the art, putting it out there and not stopping that cycle, not disembarking from the race.

 

What’s in the Book?

I’m giving so much of myself to the book, I owe it to you all to do that, so you’ll read more about my story, (big brows and crippling body image) my upbringing and experiences as a filmmaker and TV director turned blogger and vlogger, as well as all the insight you need to launch your own digital business or equally return back to work after baby.

This book is for you: it’s a handbook to help you survive and thrive at work and at home.  To be the badass mumboss you deserve to be.

To go boldly forward and make those scary goals a reality, safe in the knowledge that the internet has your back with its boundless, democratic ways and opportunity is waiting for you.

I’ll leave you with this. Before I started writing my book, I feared I might deprive my blog of as many heartfelt posts, now my time was being shared between both projects.

It’s rather like the worry of having a second baby as you question if you’ll have enough love to go around.

I can safely say as a mum of two, that with writing both the blog and the book, love never divides, it multiplies.

As with having two kids, my life, and my blog, has improved.

I used to tell my MA screenwriting students when I was a lecturer, that the more you write, the more you write and I’m reminded of that again now.

Exercising my creative muscles, and for longer periods of time and more frequently than before, means that all of my creative pursuits: writing, blogging and vlogging come more easily. I’m more inspired than ever, and rarely hesitate or over analyse before creating and posting.

So here’s to more late nights, and hopefully a book that will help create a movement. A movement of mumbosses ready to shine.

 

 

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42 Responses

  1. Mrs Mummy Harris

    Only 12 months until it’s published! cant wait!! =] #brilliantblogposts
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  2. Tooting Mama

    Wow it’s all go, go, go in your house! That’s fantastic. You are so right, creativity and writing are muscles that need to be exercised, trained and honed (unlike my abs!). I can’t wait to get a copy of your book I shall be devouring it up!
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  3. Susie / So Happy In Town

    I admire your drive and work ethic so much Vicki – it’s just brilliant that you’re writing Mumboss and I’m so looking forward to it coming out! Finding enough hours in the day must be tough but you’re obviously buzzing so much now that you’re really in the flow of the writing – your energy is jumping out from your words – it’s inspring. As you say though, we’re all amazing multi-taskers as mothers and it’s amazing how much a busy person can get done. Good luck with the writing – Go girl! x
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  4. Chloe

    Hi, I really enjoy reading you blog posts and I no doubt like many others look forward to reading the book once published. I’m the complete opposite and am far more productive early in the morning when it’s quiet, Chloe #BrilliantBlogPosts
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  5. Peachy and her Mommy

    I also tend to find that those creative juiced thend to flow more freely at night. And I agree that writing inspires more writing. It’s funny how that works. One would think that the well would run dry but it only gets fuller. Good luck with your book. I’m sure it will be brilliant. #brillblogposts

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  6. Emma Peach

    I’ve always been able to write more productively at night. When I was a student I used to leave my essays until the last minute and end up writing through the night, and both my dissertations were last minute scrambles! There’s nothing like a deadline to focus the mind! I’m sure the book will be a huge success and I’m so looking forward to reading it 🙂

    Emma xxx
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  7. Ciara

    I love your blog, so I’m looking forward to the book! I’m one of the many people who has (very) recently started blogging as a result!

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  8. Caro | The Twinkle Diaries

    Bloody good for you Vixter. I missed this announcement but I can’t say I’m surprised!! I can totally see your name in the book stands in WHSmith and Waterstones. Huge congrats!!! Get writing mama!! xx
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  9. Caroline

    Yes, here’s to the Mumboss revolution! You’re a huge inspiration to female entrepreneurs and I am so looking forward to reading your book. x
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  10. five little doves

    YES!! I am so excited for this, I’m chomping at the bit to get my hands on it! I have been writing a book for the last year, a novel actually, and yet it’s slow going!! I’m also obsessed with Celebs go dating, and any other trash tv too, so I find it hard to juggle it all, I need to be stricter with myself and find some motivation! #brilliantblogposts
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  11. Kim Taylor

    I Love Mumboss too! looking forward to the book! but staying up to 2 or 4am, remember to take time for yourself too x

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  12. Katherine

    I think I need to start blog writing at that time of night. At the moment I squeeze it in it little bursts around name time and breakfast and it’s very stressful!! #brilliantblogposts

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  13. Nichole Goodland

    I am really excited for the book, can’t wait to read it. 🙂 x

    #brillblogposts
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  14. Mummy Setra

    The book sounds absolutely great! Whenever I have work to do it’s always in the evenings too when there is no one else about. And I agree with the sleep issue – I used to be an 8hour girl, and now, I can cope on barely nothing! Can’t wait to read the book, as I love the blog!

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  15. Susanna

    I can’t wait to read your book ! Your blog posts are SO inspirational to so many. As you know you were my inspiration for starting my own blog. All my dark nights fighting with the demons of insomnia led me to your blog and ultimately brought me out of my shell. Thank you Vicky xx
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  16. Emma

    You book sounds awesome Vicki -congratulations! I’ve just booked myself into a writer’s retreat in May to start working on a book – I know there’s one in me. And you’re so write about the more you write the more you CAN write. I’m making the effort to write every day now and it’s making a HUGE difference to my ability to write great blog posts.

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  17. Clare

    Wow lovely lady – tho is SO exciting – I cannot wait to read it! Keep on keeping on – big love Cx

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  18. jodie filogomo

    Wow, Vicki!! I must have missed this news, but congrats!
    My husband says he has a book in him. So we even went to a writers conference a couple weeks ago. Going to the conference was uplifting yet depressing too!!
    I can’t wait to read your piece—you are such a great writer on the blog, so I’m sure it’ll be no different in the book!
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    • Honest Mum

      Thanks so much, the conference sounds interesting. Hope you are both embarking on writing a book now. Why was it depressing by the way? x

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