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Where’s my Mummy’s Boy?

Something strange has happened. Something drastic, mind boggling, deeply upsetting (well for me anyway, not for my husband). My (actively encouraged) Mummy’s Boy has become a Daddy’s Boy.

Yes, there I’ve said it and it’s occurred despite my fastidious efforts of daily salutations repeating, “Mummy is wonderful and loveable and better than Daddy”. Shit, what happened?

Teething that’s what. I would bathe in my child’s un-blinkered affections all day without guilt-as I carried him, have the C section scar to prove it and deserve his unequivocal love. This may seem unfair but so is a post baby body. So you can imagine my dismay when out of the blue it’s, “Daddy this” and “Daddy that” and I’m massively, in the all encompassing American sense of the word ‘pissed about it’.

The Yanks do everything much more supersized than us so ‘pissed off’ doesn’t quite nail it. Look, I jest, his father is amazing (yada yada yada), it’s just happened so quickly.

There seems to be a causal link between sprouting molars and the cutting off of apron strings. Yes it’s painful (and the toothache too I imagine) and I suppose Daddy has been getting up more in the night to care for screaming toddler, (allowing Mama to recover from daytime screaming), it’s just when my child cries for Daddy over Mummy, it hurts. I know, I know, I can’t have it all… I’m hoping this is just a phase, yes another one.

Like the time he thought pulling Billy the Cat’s hair might be funny. It wasn’t. I want my Mummy’s Boy back.

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18 Responses

  1. Reza

    Hi there,

    Really enjoyed this blog. We have 2 boys one is 3 and a half and the other 9 months. Luckily we have 2 as the oldest is closest to Mummy but the youngest is closest to me! So there is light at the end of the tunnell….

    Please take a look at my blog if you get a chance it’s http://stayathomedaddyfor2.wordpress.com

    PS My missus is half greek!!

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    • honestmum

      Thank you. He came back to me momentarily and now it’s back to “Daddy this and Daddy that”. Only answer is to have another (lol!)

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  2. MrsBellers

    I am sure its just a phaze. My lil one is deffo a daddys girl, as soon as his name is mentioned she giggles and smiles (she is three months) and for the whole nine months she mainly kicked if she heard his voice and if anyone apart from daddy tried to feel her kick, nah wasnt a chance! Hopefully its just the teething and he will be a mummys boy in no time again! x

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    • honestmum

      Haha wow that’s an early starter Daddy’s Girl. You must readdress that balance and get her on your side!!! Yes I spoke too soon as Mummy’s Boy is now officially back…until the next bout of teething!x

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    • honestmum

      Thanks Gemma, seems like he’s back on the better side again now the awful bout of teething is over. Hard though when it happens but now I’m more prepared for next time x

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  3. Sharcasm

    Poor you, that must hurt. I’m not an expert on these matters but I’m inclined to believe that it’s all about the phases as a mummy on here as already mentioned. Now he’s a total daddy’s boy and then he’ll switch back to mummy again. Ice cream will def do the trick or maybe dark chocolate -;) Sx

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    • honestmum

      Thank you sweetie. Yes you will be happy to know he LOVES dark chocolate. He has a small square once or twice a week. Shar, we seriously need to go a chocolate vacation. A world the round trip! Amazing! Now back to the post, Mummy’s Boy has returned to Mama. Phew x

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  4. VST

    That’s ok… just you wait…

    P will spend years taking O to sports camps, training practice, etc… and when O becomes a sports superstar and plays in the Premier League in his first televised game… the first thing he’s going to say to the camera is ‘Hi Mum!’.

    🙂

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    • honestmum

      Oh V, thank you for this lovely comment. Made me want to move to Canada or the US where you actually have sports camps. I’m sure we have them here but becoming a Sports Star feels very American. I hope you are right. Made me laugh too. Made me miss you very much too! I’d love Oliver to become a film star/sports star and surgeon. Pushy Mum. Me? Never x

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  5. Babes about Town

    Those kids, so damn fickle. Although I’m still top dog (top bitch?) in my kennel, so I can’t really complain about the pups right now.

    Still, both of them have gone through their momentary ‘Daddy this, Daddy that’ madness. As with all things parenting, just breathe and repeat after me ‘this too shall pass’…xxxx

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    • honestmum

      Oooh you lucky lady. The transition’s happened overnight. I’d need therapy if it wasn’t for this blog. I want to be top bitch again. Teach me.

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  6. Emmak

    It is probably just a phase! My daughters have never really favoured either parent. Their affections wax and wane like the breeze (or whoever provides the cash for ice cream!)

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    • honestmum

      Emma, thank you for the tip. I’m getting right onto the ice cream and sweets bribing. It’s the only way!

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  7. Honest Mum

    Oh Jo, it’s not easy is it. Maybe that’s why women go on to have second children, I’ve always wondered about that lunacy! Haha! I know our boys love us very much but like most men, they have a weird way of showing it. x

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  8. Jo Burrows

    I feel you pain but at the same time envy you as Milo has never been a Mummy’s boy!!!!! from the day he was pluck out of my still miss-shaped wobbly belly leaving me unconscious for the next hour, Daddy was the first to hold him and get those all important first cuddles and I got the first shit right in my hand. I know he loves his Mummy and I always get kisses and cuddles bye bye and when its just the too of us we have Soooooooooooo much fun until….Daddy comes home then I push to one side like his least favorite teddy. One day though Vicky us Mummy’s shall rule the day and all our hard work, bribery and love will pay off. xxxx

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  9. Kate aka WitWitWoo

    Feel your pain my lovely. Sucks doesn’t it. My youngest is 7 and is now openly saying, “I love you Mum, but I love Daddy more.” WHAT? Do you want me to show you my stretch marks AGAIN? *sigh* … we can only hope they come back to us. Witholding food should aid that. x

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    • honestmum

      Thank you. It’s blumming awful. I can only get my kisses when he sleeps at the moment. I really hope it’s a phase but 7 sounds like a long phase! I shall start the bribing. He was never like this when it came to the cup of nourishment, i.e le breast.

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