Vicki-Honest MumHappy me! Photo by Kirsty Mattsson.

At the end of last year, I anxiously scribbled a creative plan down on paper for myself and blogged about the process HERE. A liberating act and one that was utterly necessary in helping me to focus on what mattered when it came to my creative work goals and dreams.

You see, freelance life was becoming a little overwhelming at the time, I felt like I was drowning in deadlines and balance was slipping through my fingers.

I was grateful that blogging had become my career in the last two years but the never ending juggle of freelance writing, raising kids, co-writing a TV pilot in development, and trying to clean the fridge now and again (worst job ever) was truly draining me.

So I sat at my desk and put pen to paper (not fingers to laptop) and restructured my work life, filtering the work I felt passionate about, saying no to more things (leaving room for other goals I wanted to say yes to) and then one by one, I listed my dreams and aspirations.

Some I thought were a little silly (but fun), unlikely even, others I’ve been consistently working towards for a long time and wanted to put them out there, reminding myself and the Universe (get it out there people) of what I want to achieve.

It felt freeing. Affirmative. It made me more confident, determined, fearless even, the latter I attribute mostly to having kids.

Suffering a difficult pregnancy with pregnancy liver condition OC (ICP) and a traumatic birth with my first son, Oliver was tough, it took time to heal….making this film to help other women in a similar position helped as did having an easier pregnancy and tranquil birth with my second son Alexander.

These experiences offered me valuable lessons on fragility and of course strength and the importance of health and happiness.

Raising kids undoubtedly and trying to do it to my best is empowering too. It puts life into perspective and of course those kids are my purpose in life, my joy… yes family life is full on but and as with all artists, despite the limitations, be it time, energy etc, creativity can be born and thrive within restrictions (ie. blogging)…

I also strongly, emphatically believe happy parents equal happy kids (whatever happiness is to you)… for me personally that means working, being creative, doing what I love and all credit to my childcare  (parents and pre-school) making that possible.

…Kids have also made me look at myself differently. I used to compartmentalise myself-I’m a working filmmaker (director) and can’t possibly be anything else. Rubbish. I, you, we can all be whomever we want to be and that can mean taking on lots of roles, jobs-more so now than ever with the internet of opportunity right here for us at the touch of a button. We can redefine ourselves, today.

Want to write a cookery book, you can, want to get on camera, head to You Tube, want to learn online, change direction, it’s possible….

I started this blog here in November 2010 to find my voice again after my first baby. Lost, hurt, low on confidence, lonely, it gave me a new creative space I deeply craved after leading sets of a hundred plus and much much more: friendship, a community, a career that rivaled and inspired my former work and many, many open doors I never imagined possible.

Yes there are tough times (we grow in adversity, right?) but it’s worth it…

So since December, I’ve taken more calculated risks, I’ve approached people I admire and want to collaborate with, grown my businesses, felt more confident and happier in me than ever before (trying not to sweat the small stuff) and importantly, I feel I’ve achieved greater balance to enjoy my biggest successes of all: my sons. Taking time back and re-evaluating did me the world of good.

Oh and those doors I keep mentioning, have continued to open through sheer hard work, those dreams I penned, many have materialised, such as more on-camera work as I featured in parenting films for Yahoo,  a TV pilot I co-wrote has been deemed laugh out loud funny by my TV giant of a producer and then of course I was asked to model worldwide for designer baby bag company Nova Harley that came out of the blue thanks to being discovered on my style blog Mummy’s Got Style (something I set up feeling brave one day a year ago).

Ultimately though I feel happier, content, free in my freelance choices, like I can truly be whomever I want to be .

So thank you creative plan, hard work and dreaming big is paying off, so thank you very much.

Will you write your plan today?

 

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65 Responses

  1. susan @happyhealthymumma

    This is a #brilliantblogpost !! I seem to start doing visualization boards and they only ever get half done because I just can’t find the right picture or get confused about what it is I really want! So I may just have to try your list idea!! A lot more simple and will get me thinking a lot more about myself, rather than comparing myself to others!! Congratulations for everything you have achieved, just seeing all the comments you have received on your post is an attribute to how many women look up to you and what an inspirational person you are xx
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    • honestmum

      @Susan thank you so much, your comment has touched me so much. Not sure I’m inspirational but that is lovely of you to say. I think we are all just trying our best aren’t we and I am all for supporting other women. Writing down a list has helped me focus so much on what I want to achieve in life, really empowering x

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  2. Mama and More aka Zaz

    I love your writing, I love your attitude, and I love your positivity! Seriously, one should always surround oneself with positive people who inspire you and are supportive, and you are all of those things Vicki. Wonderful post, and I think I may be in need of pen and paper and a plan right now too. Thanks so much for linking to #AllAboutYou – so very pleased to see the wonderful things happening to you. When you commit yourself to your desires and put them out into the universe, fate moves to help you. It’s a good quote (Goethe approximation), and I really believe it, and great to see you living it. xxx

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    • honestmum

      Aw thanks so, so much Zaz, I feel exactly the same about you-you are an incredible woman, writer, mother and I feel blessed to call you a friend, truly. Here’s to all our dreams coming true xxx

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  3. Angie @reasonstodress

    WOW. What an inspirational post. I love how you not only want to encourage others to reach their goals by writing them down, but how honestly you portray that sensation of being lost in you chosen career path after a baby comes along and for a while you are out of the loop.

    I think a plan is a fantastic idea and you should be very proud of yourself that you have been able to put all of this into action and make it work!
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    • honestmum

      @Angie thanks for your lovely comment. With my first, I was being offered directing work early on but I wasn’t ready-getting over a traumatic birth took time but I felt very lost at the start-going from no kids to one was a huge shock for me. Really pleased you’ve found the post inspiring. Thanks x

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  4. Jenny

    Thank you so much for sharing this post with me. I really needed to read something inspiring like this. You definitely inspire me. I really could do with sitting down and putting that pen to paper as you say. I have ideas of where I want to go and some I don’t know where to start or how to go about any of it. But I hope all will one day fall into place.
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  5. Fiona @ Free Range Chick

    Cleaning the fridge is totally the worst job ever! I have wanted to put pen to paper and create a huge re-organisation/plan of my life and business for me to view before my very eyes. I’m yet to do this. You’re right about us viewing ourselves as one thing. It is rubbish – we totally have the power to change our goals, our direction and our destiny. It is about thinking outside the box, getting rid of everything that you really don’t need and focussing. A year ago, I would have found that statement a little wooly, but all of those things are the very things I have done. And yes, having children can certainly give you the power and mindset to change things around and think differently. We absolutely and undoubtedly have the potential to grow in adversity. It sounds like you have achieved so much, and solely through your hard work, determination, focus, and crucially by risk-taking. Well done, and hope you go on to achieve bigger and better!

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    • honestmum

      @Fiona thanks so much for your lovely comment, I fully agree with you, just need a little positivity, hard graft and ambition. I still love filmmaking but I realise that I can do whatever I want now and that just because you defined yourself as one thing, shouldn’t stop you from embracing other roles. Motherhood has made me understand this more than anything. Thank you for your thoughtful, wise and touching comment.

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  6. Hannah Parker

    Great post! I love new year with it’s promise of a new beginning…but I haven’t really thought about properly writing stuff down! My problem is I struggle to know what I actually want from life, so then get stressed out by the day-to-day.

    In January 2013 I wrote a list of “what success would look like” in my life. They were somewhat blue sky!…then tried to work backwards so I could see how I could get there. I think I perhaps need to revisit this strategy as I think being on the Oprah show is perhaps not so high on my agenda now 😉 (although only because I’m scared!). Anyway, thanks for making me think about this as I suspect not having it written down ON PAPER is what might be holding me back! xxx
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  7. You Baby Me Mummy

    Thank you for writing this post. I am going to do this. I think it will be really helpful for me. You have achieved so much, you should be proud x

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  8. Dannyuk

    I really should do. More so after reading this,
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  9. Helen Costello

    Brilliant and so inspirational! I’m in the early stages of cleansing life and saying no – I’m not a natural ‘No’ person but the relief when I don’t end up stuck in a situation is wonderful. Congratulations on your achievements so far this year – lets raise as glass to the rest of the year being as prosperous for both of us! x
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  10. Jo Smith! (@carsonsmummy)

    what an inspiration you are to everyone who wants to follow in your footsteps. well done and keep it up! xx
    #brilliantblogposts would love it if you came over and said hi! carsonsmummy.blogspot.co.uk xx
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  11. Franglaise Mummy

    YOU ARE AMAZING! You are such an incredible woman, you deserve all the of the above and then some, so proud to know you and I love having the inspirational you in my online life. I’m a big fan of writing goals and dreams done and sending them out there to the universe, as you know what? With hard work, belief and confidence it can work 🙂
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    • honestmum

      @Franglaise thanks so much, you are amazing yourself. Truly writing down your goals is such a liberating, powerful act!

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  12. Actually Mummy...

    I have to agree – I did a vision board once and do you know? So many of things I wrote down actually happened. I think it focuses the mind and stops distractions
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  13. Becky | Spirited Puddle Jumper

    Such a great post (again!), really inspiring. I must do this, as I often have so many ideas swimming around in my head, and even noting them down in my phone isn’t the same as pen to paper, or brainstorming.

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  14. helloitsgemma

    so inspiring! well done, I really need to take some of this and put it into place. I was really inspired by your original post – I have plans and then get swept along by other things…. #fail.
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    • honestmum

      @helloitsgemma thanks so much, it’s wonderful to get swept away though and enjoying life is what’s key, plan time can happen anytime!

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  15. sarah hill wheeler (@hill_wheeler)

    Thanks for the positivity and totally agree writing goals (and dreams and aspirations) down is a great idea….need to give myself the proverbial kick up the backside and will take this as a wake-up call. Great too that you are being true to you at the same time….so easy (in one sense) to fall back into the old familiar “boxes”.
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  16. Super Busy Mum

    How amazing is this post and how amazing YOU are for making your dreams flourish. Wowsers on the TV pilot {how exciting is THAT!} and of course the modelling. Your going places for sure! #brilliantblogposts xx
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    • honestmum

      @SuperBusyMum thanks so much, no guarantees we’ll be commissioned but been fabulous to be paid to develop it! Thanks for your lovely comment x

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  17. Michelle @ Bod for tea

    I’m so glad that I read this first thing today – what a fantastic, positive way to start my morning! You’re an inspiration lovely and you’re right to be proud of getting out there and making what YOU want to happen, happen. I seem to be dipping my fingers in so many pies at the moment that I wonder whether I’m stretching myself too thinly, but I’m loving all of it and you know what? I know that I can do it all if I set my mind to it. Thank you for this inspirational post xx

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    • honestmum

      @Michelle thanks so much for your lovely comment, you really can and if things feel too much, take a step back, re-evaluate and focus on exactly what you want, you can have it all! x

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  18. Sara (@mumturnedmom)

    This is a wonderful post, and a fabulous nudge 🙂 I really, really need to do this. I’ve been floating along since I gave up work when we moved to the US, happy enough, but I’m a planner and I feel aimless at the moment. And, without focus I am less productive. Thanks for sharing, you are doing so wonderfully well x

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  19. HPMcQ

    i feel that this is something that would be good for me to do. i’m sensing a new chapter is beginning for me, i must ensure that it’s clear and i’m not going off piste! well done you and thank you for giving me the nudge to do the same x
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  20. Victoria Mylittlel

    well done! I dont really have many goals apart from having a safe delivery of the baby and finally starting my career
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    • Honest Mum

      Great goals, having a safe delivery most important goal of all, thanks so much x
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  21. Mummy Says

    I’m not sure what my goals are just yet – but you’ve made me think about trying to work them out. Thank you for being so inspiring xx
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  22. Jess @ Along Came Cherry

    So inspiring! You’ve done amazingly well, I really need to start writing down everything I need to do to reach my goals, I find I let everything swirl around in my brain and it stresses me out, especially when I have to deal with screaming kids at the same time. If I was more organised then I could work so much more productively. Tonight I’m going to get writing! x

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    • honestmum

      Yay, so glad it’s inspired you Jess, writing rather than typing clears my head too x
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  23. Tinuke

    Absolutely fantastic! I think it’s great that so much has come to fruition. I may take a leaf out of your book and write my goals down. Last year was super rough and a total eye opener for me and I promised myself if I got out of the situation I would do a few things, which I upheld and have since made happen, this in turn has made me super happy!
    Can’t wait to see your modelling pictures, you are an awesome blogger, mum, producer and anything else you put your heart into. Well done xxx
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    • honestmum

      @Tinuke aw thanks so much darling and I’m so sorry to hear last year was tough, it was the same for me and really made me appreciate life so, so much. We can do anything we want can’t we. Love your blog too you lovely lady x

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  24. MummyTries

    You’ve achieved so much, well done! My hubby is always trying to get me to physically put pen to paper, really need to do it more often as getting the phone or laptop out can often lead to distractions! #BrilliantBlogPosts
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  25. Uju @Babesabouttown

    Fantastic post, go you! You know I’m 100% about writing those dreams down and putting it out there, it always amazes me when I look back at some of my written goals to see how many of them have come to fruition (sometimes with what seemed like minimal effort on my part). You have found your calling and the way you go after it from the heart is a huge inspiration to others. I love this digital age for exactly the reasons you’ve listed, the freedom it creates especially for those of us who have been ‘restricted’ (or recharged?) by taking care of others daily. More power to you, more power to us mamas! x
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    • honestmum

      Thanks so much darling Uju, you are an inspiration to me too and I’m proud of being part of Mothers & Shakers and your support as a friend and colleague. Let’s keep shaking it! x
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  26. Jess Paterson

    Fab inspirational post! I’d never thought of writing a creative plan as I am not a planner in general but maybe I should follow your lead and plan for success! Congrats on all you’ve achieved! x
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    • honestmum

      Thanks so much Jess, certainly seems to have helped me since December!
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  27. PottyMouthedMummy

    This was so wonderful to read, thank you for sharing. I feel like I might need to do something similar for myself! #brilliantblogposts xxx
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    • honestmum

      @PottyMouthedMummy thanks, really helped me hone in on what matters and something powerful getting things down in black and white! xx

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  28. fashion-mommy

    Brilliantly inspirational post. My blog too was born out of taking a chance on something when one door closed. Sometimes you just need to put yourself out there.

    #BrilliantBlogPost
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  29. Colette Cooper

    I am so glad you took the time to write this post. I had several goals this year and have been spiralling out of control in other areas of my life. Writing my goals and how I will achieve them as been my first “goal” of the month now that 2 other massive ones are out of the way and I will start this soon (another deadline!)

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    • honestmum

      @Colette Cooper we all get like that don’t we and getting a plan on paper made all the difference, good luck sweetie, it will all work out x

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  30. Eliza_Do_Lots

    I can’t believe you made me do maths to comment!

    I have written a new plan recently, then floundered on the first step and lost confidence, thinking it was pointless because I’m useless and might as well get a part time job in a shop.

    Then I said that to my husband, and he said “let’s sit down and review your CV, take a look at where you are, and see what we think about what we do next.”

    And do you know what? Considering I started from nothing, from nowhere, without a single contact or a true idea that this was a real option as a career, I’ve done pretty well – and with some hard work I can continue to do well. When I lose confidence it’s because I’ve dropped a ball and let things slide rather than lining up the next thing, and got cross that it hasn’t fallen into my lap. But none of this fell into my lap, it all came from working hard, networking and putting the effort in – and that’s what I need to remember.

    Not only that it took a lot of work – but that I DID it, and I can keep doing it, and I’m GOOD at it.

    If only the same applied to my hair.
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  31. Steph @MisplacedBrit

    Beautiful beautiful beautiful! …And so many congratulations on the modelling, the TV pilot. I love the way you put yourself out there, dare to dream & believe BIG in yourself <3

    I'm going to start believing in me too!

    #BrilliantBlogPosts
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  32. Eleanor (thebristolparent)

    I think this is an excellent idea, especially when you already work in a creative business. I work in PR and my first boss always told me ‘do your own PR’, and part of that is applying the principles of your work to your personal life.

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    • honestmum

      @Eleanor thanks, you are so right, always been into doing my own PR, especially coming from an indie film background! Thanks for your fab comment!

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