brothersThe brotherhood.

My baby Alexander will be 1 next month and after hormone inducing broodiness through a lot of his first year (sure this is nature’s way to help mothers bond with their babies and mostly because A is just so damn cute), I can say I no longer feel the urge to procreate (husband is no doubt wiping his brow as he reads this). You do read my blog don’t you Pete? Come on, keep the stats up dude.

Seriously, I adore, love, live for my two boys and truly feel my family is complete (no more complete than those who have 1 child or none though)-I believe you can be just as happy without sprogs so let’s get that straight from the start off.

Similarly as many women with kids of the same sex, I never minded what gender my kids were or feel the need to have another in hope of a girl. I love having boys in the same way I would have loved having girls. Never nor do have a preference. They are beauties (thankfully) as admittedly after health, I hoped for good looks! Oh and intelligence too of course…

Plus Oliver is so pretty I know what my daughter would have looked liked so no urge for a third on that basis. Hehe!

…Recently mothers of one have been asking me how two is for me and as I look up from tired Max Factor heavy duty pan stick concealed eyes, I quote Tiger Momager Kris Jenner, the Kardashian Matriach with her wise words (season 100, only on E) that, “One is one, two is twenty two”. So true Kris, so true. She’s a modern Aristotle our Kris.

Quite simply two means eyes everywhere, constantly meeting the ever changing different needs of two kids, dealing with first child envy, second child attention seeking, relentless juggling (I work but friends who don’t, say it’s still a mammoth juggle) and sometimes wine before midday.

However, HUGE DISCLAIMER my love for those gorgeous little people has multipled and does so daily. I relish in the adoration my little one has for his older brother and the kindness my second responds with when he’s not whacking him over the head with Buzz Lightyear, pieces of lego or making him wear weird socks (above) and I wouldn’t change it for the world.

OK, I would change the teething frenzied nights and toddler in our bed most nights, for calm kids who love to sleep through, every night solo… but I slept with my folks until I was 7 so the odds are against us there and that’s why Super King size beds were invented, surely?

…Hats off to those with three, four or like both my Grandmothers, five kids. Respect to your vaginas, Fallopian tubes, ovaries and wombs (you get the picture).

Maybe the more you have, the easier it becomes as older kids help raise their siblings and as my GP informed me, “the more babies you carry, the more proficient you are when it comes to pregnancy”. My second was far easier than my first, I really enjoyed my up-the-duffness but I love my sleep too much so two is quite enough for me.

I actually just compulsively yawned thinking about three.

Never say never of course but right now, today, I’m just not broody baby. You?

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21 Responses

  1. Hannah Ruth

    What a fantastic post – I loved reading this! Two sounds like a good number. One is great fun for me right now but I’d definitely like to go for a second at some point. After that who knows, but I have a feeling my body and mind will say ‘enough’ after two! 🙂 x

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  2. Franglaise Mummy

    I am so done, and no, I don’t regret only having children of the same gender, and no I don’t feel the need to have more to try for a son. People do ask silly questions. You have such beautiful boys and I hope one day they let you sleep again 😉 xx

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    • honestmum

      @Franglaise Mummy, some people do don’t they! Thank you darling, your girls are gorgeous too! When it comes to sleep, little one usually fine so hoping when they are better and teething done, sleep will return! x

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  3. Mirka @Kahanka

    Oh lovely, such a nice post entertaining me while having fun on the beach in Menorca… Olivia & Isabelle in the kids club, daddy enjoying his football and mummy on the beach getting tanned, but also swimming in the gorgeous sea loads. This is a break from being a mum to two and a wife to one…. you get the picture right. I am definitely done with my two girls, love them so much, but as you have said it …. Not sure if I would cope with another change from 1 to 22 was pretty hard… is there life after 22???????? Ha ha ha, hope all mums who have more than two children will not hate me, I admire them all!

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    • honestmum

      @Mirka @Kahanka hehe…glad I’m entertaining you sweetie. 1-22 is hard, how did Kris Jenner do it (wish I had her millions to rub together…sure that helped!)x

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  4. the mama bird diaries

    I appreciate you respecting my vagina! 🙂 I have 5 (as you know). I always wanted 4. And I would seriously have 6 if I was MUCH younger and if it wouldn’t send my husband over a cliff. So 5 it is.

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    • honestmum

      @themamabirddiaries haha! My pleasure. Disclaimer I also respect non mother’s vaginas too. OK I’ll stop now. You are a legend lady. You need to do an online course on raising kids. I’d pay!

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  5. Mummy Matters

    I was born broody and I honestly think I will go out the same way. Even as I sit here nursing baby no 3 I feel sad to know that I will never be pregnant again, never give birth or have those newborn snuggles. (Hubby has now had the snip).That said, I am finding 3 hard work plus a stepson. I am sooooo tired but this is me, I am Mummy and it is the best feeling ever and I feel privileged xx

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    • honestmum

      @MummyMatters aw that’s sweet, I feel it too but I also feel tired and happy with my two. Never say never of course!x

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  6. Carrie'ann

    Even from being young I only ever wanted 2 children, I think it is because I am the middle one of 3 and there was always that gang mentality when 2 picked on the other 1 and various different stages throughout us growing up.

    I love having two of the same sex, they are 21 months apart and although they fight like cat and dog I can already see they will be great friends growing up.

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    • honestmum

      @Carrie’ann aw that’s so sweet Carrie’ann, I adore my boys and never say never about number 3 but not feeling broody. I’m only one of two as you know so not had experience of middle child. My Mum always said she wanted three x

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  7. ghostwritermummy

    I can’t make my mind up. I always wanted 4 and most days I still do. But some days I am so happy with my 3 and start to feel I am getting my life back a bit… I juat can’t imagine never being pregnant again!
    xxx

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    • honestmum

      @Ghostwritermummy aw that’s so sweet. My consultant said 3 max with sections but know of course many who have more. I just feel happy with two but I wonder if that might change in the future. I went out for a walk with the kids and friends little boy and the three of them together looked cute. So flipping tired though x

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    • honestmum

      @ghostwritermummy aw that’s sweet. I loved my last pregnancy but do worry if I did get pregnant again that it would be a tough one like with my first x

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  8. Jocelyn

    It sounds like you’ve been experiencing all of the same hormones, and then reaching the same decisions as me! My own Alexander is going to be one in a couple of weeks, and as we have a nearly 4 year old daughter, too, that’s just perfect for us. I am saddened about no longer having those newborn cuddles, but rose-tinted glasses forget the sleeplessness and reflux, so I do remind myself of that! I’ll content myself with the thought of future nieces and nephews instead, and happily hug my complete family 🙂

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    • honestmum

      @Jocelyn hehe, those hormones do dial up broodiness don’t they. I feel so happy and blessed with my little family right now and also very tired. Last son is a pretty easy baby but you’re right, sleeplessness, teething and constant juggle is so easily forgotten…suppose to keep human race going x

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    • honestmum

      @Jocelyn aw but our babies are still babies really aren’t they…we are lucky to have our lovely children and like I said, I’d never say never but I’m content and OH SO TIRED! hehe x

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  9. Katie

    I have two boys too and the jury’s out on no.3. I can’t seem to come to terms with the thought of never being pregnant or giving birth again though so I suspect it may actually happen.

    I blame all the damn birth/midwife programmes!!

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