Being a Mother Hustler by Honest Mum

Let me start off by stating this post applies to Dads too, it’s just ‘Father Hustler’ doesn’t sound as cool as Mother Hustler and you know Mama’s got some street cred going on right here so let’s stick with it (ha, as if).

…I mentioned being a hustler, baby, at a talk at BritMums Live last summer where I was speaking on a panel about making blogging your career and hustling, hard!

I received lots of tweets, in person (actual 3D) comments and even emails about it.

People, and mostly women,  it seemed (but remember the majority of my readers are women) said they felt empowered by my use of that word.

That the JUGGLE that is parenting, career/new businesses and just going for your dreams, unashamedly and bravely, was absolutely all about ‘HUSTLING’.

The hustle was REAL. Necessary.

Believing in yourself, promoting your work/ blog/ business and going after the contacts, connections, gigs/commissions was EVERYTHING.

For me, it relates to yielding confidence and presenting confidence in yourself even when you don’t feel it (hustling).

Becoming a mother, with its scary initiation process, as many will relate to, no doubt, BROKE me down before it could build me up, eventually leaving me feeling right now, STRONGER than ever.

Motherhood showed me what I was capable of.

That not only could I bring a person into the world but I could survive it, and so could they, and for the most part we can live happily ever after.

The fact I could overcome adversity (a traumatic birth in my case), was able to regain control through a digital career (after working as a TV director), in a job I loved and that suited family life, makes me for the most part, feel KICK-ASS awesome.

The hardest things teach us the most, right? And nothing feels harder than the mess that’s sleep deprivation meets the hormonal mash-up and loss of life as you know it, to truly discover where you want to be in life. Am I right?

Having kids made me FOCUS. It gave me purpose.

I want to achieve, succeed and be happy, for my offspring as much as myself now. They are my driving force.

And to do that, I have to hustle, I have to not feel scared to put myself out there, to share my own life, my fears, my honest take on the world right here and to pursue what I want from my career and life. To make my career and life happen. I have to be the active protagonist in my story.

You see we’re all hustlers and jugglers whether we’re trying to get our kids to sleep, send that email, create a business plan or most importantly, just make others believe in us-make them see what we’re capable of and can bring to the table.

And that’s never more apparent when we’ve lost our confidence and must coax it back so we can become contenders again after kids- be it getting back into the workplace after maternity leave or starting a new business/blog.

I lost all confidence after Oliver. I didn’t fit into my old world as I’d imagined I would, post-child. I changed and so did my aspirations.

And I’m not alone.

There are now more than 1.2 million entrepreneurial mums according to the Office for National Statistics, women who saw a gap in the market on maternity leave or a window of opportunity to finally get their dream businesses/careers off the ground and JUST went for it.

I always advise everyone, parents or not, that they need a ‘maternity leave’ to grow and nurture a new business, be it blogging or any other online business from e-shops and beyond. Online life has handed us all the freedom to operate in a way that works for us and our family-a flexible, empowering and fulfilling way to be a #Mumboss (and a #Dadboss too).

I’m a hustler, baby. Are you?

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31 Responses

  1. Karin

    I definitely love being a mother, although daily I face some obstacles, being a mother was the best thing that ever happened in my life.

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  2. Jane Allen

    Yea, I’m not ashamed to admit I’m a mother hustler. It’s what I’ve always wanted to do. Stay at home and care for the kids. It can be challenging but I’d not exchange it for anything int he whole wide world. Thanks for sharing! I enjoy your posts.

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  3. Franglaise Mummy

    Having kids gave me the courage to be where I am today, and to push for more. I, like you, lost myself a bit after my first daughter was born – I turned 30 just before getting pregnant and felt like suddenly I had to wear mumsy clothes and be grown up and sensible!!! Fast forward 10 years and ha that’s a joke! But now I have the self-confidence to go for it and to pursue my dreams – bring on motherhood and hustling 🙂 xx
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    • Honest Mum

      Woohoo, love this and YES to it all, like you, motherhood has empowered me and made me feel more ambitious and excited for the future and pursuing my dreams, because they are my purpose. Keep shining darling x

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  4. Katherine Kowalski

    I totally and utterly lost my confidence after my second baby. Did just fine after number one but my second was born with severe disabilities and still has no diagnosis age almost five. It has quite honestly knocked me for six. I stepped fully back on the career ladder last summer and feel like I’m climbing my way back up out of the quagmire. It’s a hustle, always!
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  5. Franki ~ Little Luca & Me

    I suppose I’m a mother hustler too but I don’t always feel like I’m hustling to my best ability. Having said that I’m gonna adopt this definition and fulfill it. I’m gonna hustle my way through this motherhood malarkey as from the above comments it’s seems I will be in excellent company.
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  6. Bee

    I loved this post! I am not a mother, but the daily struggles I have myself believing in my own ability is what holds me back & it’s time to start believing a whole lot more. It’d be so wonderful to blog full time – I’m so jealous ❤️
    Bee | QueenBeady.com

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  7. Mummy Tries

    Brilliant post Vicki, I read this the other day but only just managing to comment… Too busy hustling my way through life my lovely 😉 seriously though, believing in ourselves is the most vital part of all this, and the piece that’s often missing xxx

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    • Honest Mum

      Haha love that my fellow amazing mother-hustler, wise words as always, mwah xx
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  8. Laura Wilson

    You lady are just awesome, there is nobody here to high five but totally feeling it. Love being a mother chuffin hustler 😉 Makes us sound so much more in control and we really do such an amazing job as parents, it’s hard. I love your ambition! xx

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    • Honest Mum

      Woohoo, thank you darling and ditto, love that-mother chuffin hustler! Hahah xx
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  9. Mummy Fever

    This really resonates with me. When people ask me what I do I tell them I spin plates but hustler is way cooler!

    Some get it. The majority don’t.

    Thanks for such a reassuring read xx

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  10. Jessie, FlusteredMom

    Yes! I’m a hustling mom instead of a flustered mom. I feel empowered realizing that much of my daily chaos is hustle. The power of the definition is amazing.
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  11. Wave to Mummy

    Great post 🙂 I dunno if I am a mummy hustler (:D) but motherhood definitely has made me more focused and driven. Now I have a purpose and that purpose is to provide a good life for my little one. In all kinda of forma, both material and immaterial.

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  12. JuggleMum, Nadine Hill

    Holla playaaa! I love us mother hustlers, mother jugglers and basically mamas in general – we rock! I really enjoyed reading this post and that it exudes confidence. It breaks my heart that so many women have a lack of confidence when they really don’t see how special they are. I’m glad you are spreading the self worth message hun, from one hustler juggler to another! xx
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    • Honest Mum

      LOVE this comment so much my fellow mother hustler, you totally rock, so important to value yourself and I hope my posts are encouraging others to feel better about themselves too. Thanks for your awesomeness xx

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  13. Notmyyeariff

    Great post!! I felt completely lost after going back to work after having Z. I was a bit shocked and it took me a while to find my feet again as everything had changed in that one year. Me, work, my life. I found a great love for it again eventually and left on a high. I’m now very worried it’s going to very different again when I go back. This time I’m hoping it’s less of a shock. I

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    • Honest Mum

      It will be easier, I am sure, lovely, you know what to expect (with motherhood and work). Be kind to yourself and trust that things will work out xx

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  14. Rachel @ The Ordinary Lovely

    This is such a great post, Vicki. I was doing really, really well at work before I had the boys but couldn’t go back to afterwards because I wasn’t prepared to continue with the hours, the travel, and quite often, the stress. It took having the boys to make me realise that I was heading down the corporate path without actually really enjoying it, though. Sure, I was doing well and earning an amount that blogging or anything creative endeavours will ever bring me, but I was never actually proud of any of the achievements. I, too, feel like I’m currently putting back the pieces of who I am now that both boys will soon be at school (Sep) but I’m still very much a work-in-progress and haven’t settled on a direction yet. I’m in no real rush, though. I think I really need a bit of time and headspace to think things through properly. I’m very excited about the opportunities, though xx

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    • Honest Mum

      Thanks for this and your honesty, become a parent really changes our focus and can bring so much clarity, I love my blogging career with all my heart, I actually earn more now than I did as a TV director but money has never been my driving force, it’s always been about joy and feeling stimulated-and being in control, that’s what I’ve learnt more than anything since having kids, working remotely and to my own time and on my own terms. You are doing brilliantly darling, it’s a joy to see you shine- and most importantly are happy. Yay x

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  15. Mama and More aka Zaz

    Hustling is such a more empowering, proactive word than juggling which sounds – and feels – like things are only just about under control. Love this Vicki, we all need a heavy dose of self belief, if we can do it-ness, and to appreciate that we ARE stronger for the experiences that test us – and not much does a bigger job of that than parenting!

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  16. Amanda

    Love it, yeah I’m a hustler baby and proud of it. Always been a fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants kinda gal but love the variety and adrenaline it brings. Long may we hustle!

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