Honest Mum appears on BBC1's Sunday Morning Live

I truly love appearing on the telly as the buzz of it, particularly when it comes to live TV, is thrilling and also a little bit addictive. It’s probably why I love doing Facebook Lives so much (and the fact I get to connect with my followers instantly) and it’s living life on the edge as you simply point and shoot. I’ve started working with brands on lives and I have an exciting one with a global brand next week in fact…more of that soon I promise.

Appearing on telly also of course, always takes me back to my directing career, pre-blogging, even if it’s somewhat of a 360 now.

..The last time I was asked to appear on live TV saw me sat on a sofa next to Piers Morgan on ITV’s Good Morning Britain debating a proposed smoking ban in play areas and it’s also a show I did some presenting for the year before.

Broadcast journalism and presenting has been a dream since I was a tween (funny it’s happening in my 30s-sometimes dreams take time, people so have patience) and the BIG dream is to host my own talk show one day (just putting it out there into the universe)….

But I digress. Back to appearing on BBC1’s Sunday Morning Live on the sofa with presenter Sean Fletcher. I was contacted after a reader who happened to be sisters with Assistant Producer Anna Taylor recommended I appear, and the topic of whether we’re a nation obsessed with social media, was explored.

I, of course, championed the power of blogging and social media, shedding light on the democracy and sheer potential of this enriching platform which had personally contributed to helping me overcome a traumatic birth, find my voice and create a thriving business.

Honest Mum in the green room at BBC1

I accept of course that like everything in life, we must approach being online with moderation. Too much can overwhelm and drain (and I always bang on about LIVING life in order to WRITE about life) but for the most part, the innovations in technology, the sense of community social media platforms offer and the opportunities to work online (and in a flexible way) makes me want to sing its praises from the rooftops. In fact I do just that in my book #Mumboss out next year which will hopefully encourage and inspire parents to launch digital businesses, working in an empowering, flexible way around their families.

I worked 15 hour days as a director which was not definitely conducive to raising a young family. Becoming a blogger was a game-changer for me. It continues to be leveller in an uneven playing field. It’s a twos-up to the inequality of the workforce.

It gives me creative control and a means to get my art out into the world simultaneously helping myself in the process (as a form of therapy) as well as others.

Please do watch the show. It’s an interesting debate and it’s was great to spend time and discuss the pros and cons of social media with the hugely inspirational Amina Lone (Writer and Director of Social Action and Research Foundation SARF), Mark Ellis and his family of Digitox (who have given up tech on Sundays for the last three years, finding great benefits to it) and Donna Dawson (Agony aunt and psychologist).

Sunday Morning Live

You can watch the programme HERE (scroll to 8 minutes).

I want to end with the thoughts on this TV debate from someone I admire, the best selling author and digital entrepreneur Tim Kitchen of Exposure Ninja,

‘I struggle to listen to the ‘social media is a negative influence’ stuff, to be honest. Social is just a tool, there’s nothing inherently good or bad about it. You spoke about how you found support in it – if you want to find support, you will. If someone else wants to feel negative, they will find what they need to do so. What one person can view as inspiration and make positive lifestyle changes to move towards, another can feel intimidated and demoralised by. The image is the same image, and it’s the viewer’s perception that shapes their experience. Does that make the image (or the platform it lives on) good or bad? Hell no’.

What do you think? Do you agree with Tim and my views?

I’d love to hear your thoughts.

 

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30 Responses

  1. Nico @ yumsome

    Back in the last century, in the dark ages of the Internet… y’know, pre-FB, pre-broadband, when you couldn’t use the phone if someone was online, when you had to pay per Mb of data you used, when websites looked like they’d all been made by a 5-year old who’d just discovered MS WordArt… back then, I belonged to a Buffy Yahoo Group (hey, Buffy totally rocks, and don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise!): there was one guy in the group who was disabled, depressed, and housebound. He was so terribly lonely. To make things even worse, he’d just lost his dog. He was utterly devastated but our small group of people supported him, and we always made sure that at least one of us was online at all times in case he needed someone.

    Months later, he told us that he’d been close to suicide (we’d figured as much), and were it not for the support of the group, he would have killed himself. He said we helped him through his darkest times. Not only that, he was spurred on to contact an outside support group in his home town, and they were helping him to venture outside, and to find work too.

    And he’d got another dog; as he said to us, “She’s a rescue, like me.”

    I’ll never forget those words – because I cried when I read them!

    Social media can absolutely be a force for good: I can’t tell you how much it helps me as I live my perpetually nomadic life. It’s helped me find accommodation, places to eat, places to visit, paid work, volunteering opportunities, and friends. It allows me to keep in touch with my friends and family, no matter where I am in the world, and of course, it helps me get the word out there about my blog.

    I totally concur with Tim Kitchen… 100%. Social Media is no different to anything else we use in our daily lives. In fact, I liken it to fire and water: fire can keep you warm, it can cook your food, heat your water, save your life – but it can also burn your house down, and kill you. Water brings life to the land, enabling crops to grow to feed us all. It quenches our thirst but it can also drown us, and floods can destroy whole towns. Declaring Social Media to be bad is as fallacious as saying that fire and water is bad.

    We all have to accept personal responsibility, and if someone is being an arse on Social Media, it just means that they’re an arse, not that Social Media is bad. They’ll be an arse anyway, whichever medium they use to communicate. If you don’t like it, don’t engage with them. At the end of the day, they’re just strangers on the internet, so why should what they say be of any consequence to you?

    If you have an arsey person on your friends list, ditch them, no matter who they are. It’s your personal responsibility to not accept people being verbally aggressive toward you. It’s really not rocket science!

    Personal responsibility also means recognising that there’s a time and a place for everything, and that sometimes using SM is not appropriate (yes kids, I’m looking at you!). It also means that if you don’t want your kids using their devices at the meal table, or during family time, when visiting the grandparents, etc., you have to be prepared to make and enforce your own rules. After all, you’re the adult – that’s *your* responsibility.

    (I’m using ‘you’ as an abstract, of course!)

    When all is said and done, I firmly believe that the benefits of SM far outweigh any negatives… how we choose to use it is another matter entirely!

    I’m now downloading Sunday Morning Live, so I can watch the debate (thank goodness for VPNs). And I look forward to living in a world where The Honest Mum Show actually exists!

    (Have you thought about having a podcast?)
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    • Honest Mum

      Oh Nico, you are so incredibly wise and spot on as always. We need a Nico show! Let’s get together and create one! I was nodding at every word. Thank you so much for your wisdom and kindness. You are an incredible human being. I’m so glad that guy you mention was OK and that through all of your support he didn’t kill himself. Social media is amazing xx

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  2. Lisa Pomerantz

    Bravo! Well done! I too love being on live TV – had a fair stint of it leading communications for a company called RecycleBank here in the states and the UK.
    What fun! It’s also so easy to be authentic when you are talking about something you love! Great job all around! #BrillBlogPosts

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  3. Rebecca

    Wow what and amazing opportunity and incredible current topic that i feel is really important for all parents especially #brilliantblogposts

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  4. Suzy Turner

    I wish I could have watched the show, Vicki but living here in Portugal makes that a little difficult these days. I do agree with Tim, wholeheartedly. And I do love social media, for the most part. of course there are aspects to it that aren’t so great, and it breaks my heart when I see families or groups of friends, out in restaurants for example, not talking because they’re all on their phones! You’re right, it’s all about moderation – as with everything else in life!
    Suzy xx
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    • Honest Mum

      I agree, there’s a time and a place and it’s all about balance. Thank you for your wise words lovely lady xx

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  5. mymummymanual

    I loved this post. It’s true that it is not the platform that makes it ‘good’ or ‘bad’ but people and how they choose to use or abuse it. It would be a dream to make a living from blogging/social media – but like you say it can take years for dreams to come true (and hard work!) Loving the Linky x

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    • Honest Mum

      It can happen though and it doesn’t have to take years, I can’t wait to release my book which will hopefully help many do just that xx

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  6. Catherine, Not Dressed As Lamb

    Just watched the video Vicki… you were fantastic, as always! As with all things that revolutionise things in the world, you get just as many negative points with it as positive. It would be unrealistic to think that we could have internet and social media that’s 100% positive and doing good without just as much negativity – it’s the nature of the beast.

    BUT it certainly doesn’t mean we have to out up with it or “expect” it, as you and I well know(!), but everything in moderation. Your points about the fact that it’s enabled women to have a voice were absolutely spot on , but then I also agree with the dad insisting on time out from phones and social media in his family.

    It’s all about balance, isn’t it…?!

    Catherine x
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    • Honest Mum

      Absolutely agree with your every word Catherine, it really is about balance and moderation. I’m getting stricter with myself and the time I spend on social media, and feeling happier for it xx

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  7. Multicultural Motherhood

    I watched you on this program and you were great! I agree with a lot of your points. Social media can be a great tool but I find it can sometimes be overwhelming. I think it is important to find a balance. #brillblogposts
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  8. Nicole

    I totally agree with you! Social media can be used to bring people together and influence communities in a positive way just as easily as it can be used negatively. It is really important, though, for people to keep in mind that what you see on social media doesn’t necessarily reflect the reality of a person’s life. People share information that they want to share, in order to paint whatever picture they want you to see of their life. It can be easy to get caught up in thinking everyone else is doing better than you are because of what you see on social media, when the reality is that they’re just not sharing everything. #brilliantblogposts
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  9. oldhouseintheshires

    Live TV? cor well done! You come over amazingly well and it was a great debate. I think you are looking amazing too. Great post. I could never do live TV! #Brilliantblogposts
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  10. Clare

    You rock darling – I still haven’t watched but I will tonight. You are such an inspiration
    I had a coaching session yesterday (business) and I was asked ‘ what will you do with your one precious life?’ interesting!
    I manage to blog enough to keep it alive, one day I may be able to blog full time – in my retirement as a 70 year old – hopefully! For me it’s only positive. In fact I’m not sure what i would have done without Easypeasylemonsqueezy over the last year! All pluses xxx
    Cannot wait to watch
    Big Love

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  11. Michelle

    Well done. You came across amazing as always #brillblogposts
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  12. Susie/So Happy In Town

    Great to watch you on this Vicki and give your view from a blogger’s perspective. I totally agree that it has given a voice to so many women and enabled us to reach out to other’s in similar situations so that we know we are not alone. That is so valuable.
    I also know it can take over the family dynamic and I’m inspired to do a Sunday detox now, I think that would be good for all of us.
    Well done on your appearance – fabulous. xx
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  13. Eb Gargano | Easy Peasy Foodie

    Wow – sounds amazing! I will watch that later. I do really love the idea of an Honest Mum talk show – hope the universe was listening 😀 Totally agree with that quote at the end – social media is very much a tool and whether it is used for good or bad is in the hands of the user. For me social media and blogging have been a force for so much good in my life…I now have a job I love, that I can fit round my kids and in which I can call my own shots and play by my own rules – for the first time in my life I feel like I’m doing what I was made to do…and loving it!!! I came across a quote the other day…’find a job you love and you will never work another day’ So true! Eb x
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  14. Jo Allison / Jo's Kitchen Larder

    I do agree that social media is there for us to embrace and make the most of. It does create so many opportunities for people who would have otherwise possibly not have a voice. As with everything there are pros and cons to it and “digital addiction” is one of the things that is a bit scary for me personally, hence I do love the idea of “digital detox”. We do have some rules in our house e.g. no phones allowed in the bedroom and on Sundays we try and stay off our digital gadgets as much as we can during the day and spend quality time together without the phones in the evenings. It’s not always easy or even possible due to work but we do make conscious effort anyway. Xx
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  15. John Adams

    Big appearance to make Vicki. Like you, I love doing live TV. IN fact I find it easier than pre-recorded because there’s no rehearsal. it’s just bang, off you go!

    I’m with Tim: social media is not inherently good or bad. Rather like a car, it’s as good as the person driving it!
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  16. Victoria - Lylia Rose

    I agree it can be both good and bad, it depends how you use it and also who you come across. Luckily I’ve not been trolled and my experience has mostly been good. If I had been bullied or trolled via social media I expect I’d have a different view.
    I did close my personal accounts, so I now only use it for promoting my blog and business. This can also become just as addictive. I used to promote my online store for 3 years on Twitter and I became obsessed with taking part in the networking hours and would feel stressed if I had to miss one. It really was an obsession. This year I am now blogging full time and still use Twitter to share my blog posts and find blog posts to read, but I took a step back from the networking hours as I really needed a break, plus I’m so busy with work I just don’t have the time to chat on there for hours on end every day. I feel so much better for taking a step back and don’t panic that I need to be on Twitter all day long networking.
    I find it really inspiring how people can utilize social media to create a brand and business nowadays, something that was non existent a few years back, and perhaps many of these businesses would not exist or be successful without it.
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  17. Rebecca Smith

    I love that idea of a no-digital zone on Sundays, only the other week I commented on how my daughter went out with her friends on a Sunday…I would never have been allowed to do that! But, at least she wasn’t sat in her room on her phone….I need to do this more…maybe I convince my family to a few hours in the afternoon to begin with to see how things go….wish me luck hahaha

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  18. Laurie

    I think it’s good to have a shutdown on media every now and then for 24 hours. I can let this blogging world suck me right up at times! But I do actually love it too. My blog, for me is the best thing I have ever done for myself. The family’s views on the programme are good as are yours Vicki. You flew the flag well for us bloggers! xx
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  19. Chloe

    Hi, I shall have to take a look at this programme. Like anything in life it’s all about having a healthy balance. Blogging can have a positive effect linking up with others for support of having access to things that may not otherwise be possible #brillblogposts
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